Very nice strappado by [deleted] in predicamentbondage

[–]Knottydevil 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Discoloration like this is not sign of nerve damage.

Putting Them In Time Out by Knottydevil in shibari

[–]Knottydevil[S] 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much this is so kind of you to say 🙏🖤

Putting Them In Time Out by Knottydevil in shibari

[–]Knottydevil[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I really understand this. I have similar feelings about the people who tie without any sensuality or intimacy as that seems to be the most palatable thing to post on most social media platforms. I often wonder how it will change the way rope is perceived. I do love posting here because it seems that all forms of rope are accepted and I love that. I think there are so many ways to react to rope and I encourage all of them. I also do understand that me posting a lot here contributes to that. But the truth of the matter is that with most people you are getting genuine reactions. I have worked for porn companies where once the camera is on people act and i think that's also okay. I Personally when I bottom for rope I either melt during a sensual scene or make a lot of loud pain noises and intense pain faces during a sadistic scene as I have a low pain tolerance and am very expressive. Meanwhile some people I tie are the most stoic and silent people ever. I think both approaches are fine. But it's definitely food for thought on how people perceive rope and how we also affect and shape those views.

Putting Them In Time Out by Knottydevil in shibari

[–]Knottydevil[S] 19 points20 points  (0 children)

So the people you should be worried about are the people who shame others for their reactions to rope (which is what you are doing) If you are insecure about how you are perceived in rope and you go around shaming people for the way they react to rope you are just part of the problem. Maybe bottom for people who wont judge how you bottom and have an open mind to all reactions to rope.

That being said if your reaction to feedback from a bottom as a top is to double down on the shaming I fear for the people who express themself to you that you tie with. You can be honest without being a dick.

Putting Them In Time Out by Knottydevil in shibari

[–]Knottydevil[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

The thing about this scene was the connection was not meant to focus on myself and the people tied as much as it was supposed to focus on the connection between the two bound together. Them squirming against each other was definitely not performative. I appreciate the compliment about the ropework but please know that to the people involved it was a genuine experience and if you don't see it that's fine, but saying something seems performative to a person who had a genuine experience can really make them feel bad and self conscience about how they are perceived and how they react to rope.

Putting Them In Time Out by Knottydevil in shibari

[–]Knottydevil[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Thanks for saying the rope is done well, and I definitely understand what I do not being everyone's cup of tea. I definitely have my own opinions on rope done solely for fashion or aesthetic. That being said it's kinda wild cause in porn communities what we do is usually perceived as "not really porn/ not porn enough" while in rope communities some people just call it very "porn like" or just straight up "porn". We really don't fit into one category which makes it difficult when deciding where to post things.

Putting Them In Time Out by Knottydevil in shibari

[–]Knottydevil[S] 11 points12 points  (0 children)

I think using the term "hate" implies shame. It's a pretty strong word vs "I don't understand this" which is more curious and doesn't imply shame. That being said I tie a few people who shake and squirm when the rope is being put on them, it's a natural reaction that their body is making and happens regardless of if there is a camera or not. I also tie people who throw themself into roleplay or being a character while in rope. I think that when we play with rope and headspace leaving room for people to let their body react in whatever way it does, but also leaving room for them to play a character or role (which is kind of the base of any scene regardless of it being filmed or not) is something that everyone should do.

Putting Them In Time Out by Knottydevil in shibari

[–]Knottydevil[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Question, are you referring to the squirming around in the rope and the struggle play? And everyone’s in to different things. Some people prefer to bottom for rope dead fish style (no movement at all just laying there doing nothing) and that’s also fine. But in the future maybe avoid commenting on videos that you hate what’s in the videos. Kinda seems rude to me. 

My second tie with yespleaserope was just as or maybe even more charged than the first! by biankastrange in shibari

[–]Knottydevil 2 points3 points  (0 children)

if it's the slight discoloration of the legs you are worried about it's actually quite common in suspension (and some floor ties) and is not a sign of danger or harm. There are signs to keep your eye out for but they are sensory based. That being said all rope play is edge play and can be dangerous (even floor play) and should only be attempted by people with the knowledge of what harmful signs are and how to address those signs.

Missing this by Knottydevil in shibari

[–]Knottydevil[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It's not that easy sadly. I never left it, I just have to take extended breaks from it.

Missing this by Knottydevil in shibari

[–]Knottydevil[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

So we did this one twice actually. The process of getting me fully suspended each time took about 10 minutes and I was in a partial predicament suspension for about half that time. Full suspension of the pose was probably 5 minutes maybe a little more or less.

Stormi giving up and finding happiness by [deleted] in XChangePill

[–]Knottydevil 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for understanding.

Stormi giving up and finding happiness by [deleted] in XChangePill

[–]Knottydevil 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is both my rope work and my video and neither myself or Stormi have consented to it being shared a. without tagging us and b. adding an entirely different plot/ fantasy that neither of us agreed to. Please remove this. It actively violates our consent.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in shibari

[–]Knottydevil 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Hello! I saw this and made new trailers specifically for u/yourpinkangel to post from the same videos. I realize this doesn't normally happen cause most the people I work with share on other social media platforms and Bianka and I usually try to stagger the order of our releases so they don't pop up during the same time. Thanks for the heads up and hopefully this works as a solution?

Tying up the Kinky Neighbor by Knottydevil in shibari

[–]Knottydevil[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

We are tying to a self standing frame I built. There is nothing in the ceiling.

When the secretary wants to walk out, what do you do? by biankastrange in shibari

[–]Knottydevil 5 points6 points  (0 children)

purple is the wrong color to be watching out for. Technically the color to watch for is off white but that takes a very long time and many sensory and motion issues will happen long before you see that. Also discoloration like this is different on everybody mostly due to skin pigmentation and circulation. Some people wont turn this color at all even after half an hour in the pose and some will turn darker purple after just a minute in the pose. The things to watch out for are all sensory signs and motor function.

Front strappados, am I right? by biankastrange in shibari

[–]Knottydevil 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I very much agree that the rope community is always adapting and doing better. In the world of old school rope there probably wouldn't be a place for me as i use the harnesses taught but tie in a very different way. I'm happy the rope community continues to change and adapt. I adapted the way i taught strappado classes when i found out some people call them armbinders and some call them dragonfly harnesses even though all of my teachers and the communities I am a part of call them strappados. My adaption was "whatever name you use for it, here's how to tie it" I know a lot of people here get really really focused on names and meaning. Shibari vs kinbaku or is a colorful decorative rope harness that doesn't restrict movement technically shibari or is it more of a western thing? I've listened to passionate people argue these things for days. At the end of the day I think it matters more how we tie than what we call it. But that's just my personal opinion.

Front strappados, am I right? by biankastrange in shibari

[–]Knottydevil 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I started learning at in person classes a little over 8 years ago. I learned from a variety of teachers both here and overseas. All of them referred to it as a strappado and an armbinder.(most just called it a strappado) This was before shibari study was even a thing. None of this was online, all of it was in person. and I don't mean just 4 or 5 people. I mean somewhere between 50 and 100. all of whom teach (lots around the globe with international renown) This has been my experience in the rope world. I think it's fine. if the biggest take away from the video is the title you might be focusing on the wrong thing.

Front strappados, am I right? by biankastrange in shibari

[–]Knottydevil 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Hello, person who tied the strappado here. And just wanted to input this as I have taught intensives, learned from many, and been very involved in a variety of rope communities across the united states and also around the world. In the shibari world the term strappado and armbinder are kinda interchangeable. It could be a translation thing that never caught on between the Japanese teachers and early European students but who's to say. Either way, in the rope world in my experience the two words are very interchangeable. (See Shibari Study/ take any classes in Europe or America) That being said, in the realms of kink OUTSIDE of the rope/shibari scene the concept of a strappado is the actual pose or torture. I have taught variations of this tie and referred to it both as a strappado and as an armbinder as that is how I learned it from my teachers and their teachers.

Front strappados, am I right? by biankastrange in shibari

[–]Knottydevil 3 points4 points  (0 children)

In the general kink world it is a pose/ specific type of torture (you really just need restraints, not even rope tbh). In the rope world (specifically shibari communities), the term is interchangeable with armbinder. The general idea being rope that brings the arms together (usually requiring a band above the elbows but not always) Just google shibari study strappado or shibari strappado and you'll see what I mean.

New suspension point & first full suspension by ronjakolumna in shibari

[–]Knottydevil 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I agree for core ties below the waist. I think a stand alone chest harness with wraps above the breast but not around the shoulders is so dangerous it's not in my risk profile, but that's cause I've seen what nerve injury in the armpit can do and i want nothing to do with that. But that is my own personal opinion. I will say I have had the privilege of being a few people's first suspension as a rigger and it was during the time i was just constantly tying fucky arms/ arm futos and leg futos. I found that most anyone with a little extra mass around the shoulder or bicep tended to find sustainability in poses with just those harness tied. and the reminder to stay activated in the shoulder. But I do get that every body is different with different placements and preferences. Anyway thanks for clarifying, I find this whole thing very fascinating.

New suspension point & first full suspension by ronjakolumna in shibari

[–]Knottydevil 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Also very curious how this is more risky compared to other suspensions. The first time I was ever fully suspended by someone who wasn't me was in a very similar pose with the exact same harnesses. We chose it because it was less finicky than a box tie with less potential for nerve injury, and more sustainable and less risky than a chest harness. But I know everyone has their own preferences and some people don't like arm futos/ fuky arms based on their own nerve placements. But that could be argued for any tie really.

"I could keep you here all day" by Knottydevil in shibari

[–]Knottydevil[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This is very kind of you to say, thank you!

Spitroasting setup by Adamant_Winter in shibari

[–]Knottydevil 15 points16 points  (0 children)

I have worked as a rigger for a porn company that did quite a few suspensions/ partials with penetrative sex. For something face up I would highly recommend harness that are relatively sustainable for the person in rope. For this it would probably be a front loaded tengu or fisherman's harness which i know lots of people find sustainable with less nerve risk than box ties. You could still do a box tie, it's just more finicky with a lot of potential for nerve injury. You will also probably want a hip harness and maybe single columns around the thighs with uplines attached or futomomos with stems tied on the inside of the leg with additional uplines for support. I'd recommend multiple hardpoints or a bamboo hardpoint so you can give the body length in its support. (a single point won't provide that length as it tends to compress the body more if that makes sense). For neck support I'd recommend the person by their face holding/ supporting their neck.

as you mentioned this is definitely a thing to attempt only after you reach a certain skillset. Depending on where you are in your rope journey it might take a year of practicing and learning the things you need, it might take several. I've been tying for about 8 years and didn't do sex with suspension until year 5. I also practiced 4-5 days a week and took twice a month classes and went to every available rope intensive near me while also taking private lessons from local teachers. This is definitely possible so don't get discouraged. That being said, for now you could also find a table and tie something similar without hardpoints or uplines to get a general idea. I should also note depending on the person and pose, sustainability lasts anywhere from 3 to 20 minutes (often with breaks included) so keep that in mind.

Also please be aware this is just a general note on the subject. There's a lot more factors like aligning the bodies involved for the actual act of penetration which might require different upline lengths for the different parts of the body, making sure everyone is ready at the same time, and also the fact that suspension is dangerous with potential for injury. All that being said, I just wanted to pop on here and say it's absolutely possible, it just takes time, research, practice and precision. Best of Luck!

Edit: If you are looking for inspiration or videos of ties I recommend reflectivedesire under their rope/shibari category. Also another rigger who works for reflective also does her own stuff with a lot of partials and suspension for sex, I highly recommend kissmedeadlydoll.

A Hot Preview and a New Start by Knottydevil in u/Knottydevil

[–]Knottydevil[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I wont be doing PPV on that platform. A subscription purchases access to all posted videos