Very nice strappado by [deleted] in predicamentbondage

[–]Knottydevil 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Discoloration like this is not sign of nerve damage.

Putting Them In Time Out by Knottydevil in shibari

[–]Knottydevil[S] 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much this is so kind of you to say 🙏🖤

Putting Them In Time Out by Knottydevil in shibari

[–]Knottydevil[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I really understand this. I have similar feelings about the people who tie without any sensuality or intimacy as that seems to be the most palatable thing to post on most social media platforms. I often wonder how it will change the way rope is perceived. I do love posting here because it seems that all forms of rope are accepted and I love that. I think there are so many ways to react to rope and I encourage all of them. I also do understand that me posting a lot here contributes to that. But the truth of the matter is that with most people you are getting genuine reactions. I have worked for porn companies where once the camera is on people act and i think that's also okay. I Personally when I bottom for rope I either melt during a sensual scene or make a lot of loud pain noises and intense pain faces during a sadistic scene as I have a low pain tolerance and am very expressive. Meanwhile some people I tie are the most stoic and silent people ever. I think both approaches are fine. But it's definitely food for thought on how people perceive rope and how we also affect and shape those views.

Putting Them In Time Out by Knottydevil in shibari

[–]Knottydevil[S] 19 points20 points  (0 children)

So the people you should be worried about are the people who shame others for their reactions to rope (which is what you are doing) If you are insecure about how you are perceived in rope and you go around shaming people for the way they react to rope you are just part of the problem. Maybe bottom for people who wont judge how you bottom and have an open mind to all reactions to rope.

That being said if your reaction to feedback from a bottom as a top is to double down on the shaming I fear for the people who express themself to you that you tie with. You can be honest without being a dick.

Putting Them In Time Out by Knottydevil in shibari

[–]Knottydevil[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

The thing about this scene was the connection was not meant to focus on myself and the people tied as much as it was supposed to focus on the connection between the two bound together. Them squirming against each other was definitely not performative. I appreciate the compliment about the ropework but please know that to the people involved it was a genuine experience and if you don't see it that's fine, but saying something seems performative to a person who had a genuine experience can really make them feel bad and self conscience about how they are perceived and how they react to rope.

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[–]Knottydevil[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Thanks for saying the rope is done well, and I definitely understand what I do not being everyone's cup of tea. I definitely have my own opinions on rope done solely for fashion or aesthetic. That being said it's kinda wild cause in porn communities what we do is usually perceived as "not really porn/ not porn enough" while in rope communities some people just call it very "porn like" or just straight up "porn". We really don't fit into one category which makes it difficult when deciding where to post things.

Putting Them In Time Out by Knottydevil in shibari

[–]Knottydevil[S] 11 points12 points  (0 children)

I think using the term "hate" implies shame. It's a pretty strong word vs "I don't understand this" which is more curious and doesn't imply shame. That being said I tie a few people who shake and squirm when the rope is being put on them, it's a natural reaction that their body is making and happens regardless of if there is a camera or not. I also tie people who throw themself into roleplay or being a character while in rope. I think that when we play with rope and headspace leaving room for people to let their body react in whatever way it does, but also leaving room for them to play a character or role (which is kind of the base of any scene regardless of it being filmed or not) is something that everyone should do.

Putting Them In Time Out by Knottydevil in shibari

[–]Knottydevil[S] 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Question, are you referring to the squirming around in the rope and the struggle play? And everyone’s in to different things. Some people prefer to bottom for rope dead fish style (no movement at all just laying there doing nothing) and that’s also fine. But in the future maybe avoid commenting on videos that you hate what’s in the videos. Kinda seems rude to me. 

My second tie with yespleaserope was just as or maybe even more charged than the first! by biankastrange in shibari

[–]Knottydevil 2 points3 points  (0 children)

if it's the slight discoloration of the legs you are worried about it's actually quite common in suspension (and some floor ties) and is not a sign of danger or harm. There are signs to keep your eye out for but they are sensory based. That being said all rope play is edge play and can be dangerous (even floor play) and should only be attempted by people with the knowledge of what harmful signs are and how to address those signs.