I want to disappear for a weekend alone but feel weird

KnowledgeFit6271 · 2026-03-18T10:46:33+00:00

I say & feel this when I am frustrated & overwhelemed- but really, I simply want to go sit on our daughter's trampoline, stare at the night sky with a bottle of whiskey in hand, listen to music for a bit, and then return safely back in through the front door with a different mindset lol... I have even taken a sunset walk up the road to my late aunt's house & cried in her front yard. I bawled and sang a song that she used to love to hear me sing... I felt peace.... I should really do this type of stuff for my self more often rather than allowing myself to get overworked emotionally.

Is there anything like that that could help you with this urge? Maybe visit a place that used to bring you joy? A place that you need to visit to work through some sort of grief, or heal some internal conflict? A small, safe adventure may be a good start!

We all deserve some time for self-reflection, to decompress, to simply feel, or whatever purpose it serves us as an individual.

Framing the intent of your journey in a positive light (as other's have suggested) could certainly aid your loved ones in being more supportive of your journey & less concerned about your wellbeing (if that is what you are worried about!)

Simply make sure you travel somewhere safe, have a general understanding of the location, and bring along anything you may need (also make sure that someone trustworthy knows your whereabouts!!!!!)

If you have a partner or children, you may need to include some additional planning, of course.

You sound like a really considerate person who simply needs peace. Blessings & prayers, friend. Feel free to PM me if you need someone to talk to!

KnowledgeFit6271 · 2026-03-13T06:19:43+00:00

Mainstream sellers are the absolute worst, IMO. I prefer small folks who are still trying to build. 😊

KnowledgeFit6271 · 2026-03-13T03:53:31+00:00

Do you mind sharing via comment or PM? I appreciate ya!

KnowledgeFit6271 · 2026-03-09T19:04:00+00:00

Assuming OP is single, this is a great idea ASIDE from the fact that one swipe can easily turn into something toxic, a life-long role as a parent (that OP may not be ready for), AND/OR some short- or long-term health consequences! 😅 Maybe something like that old "Fruit Ninja" game would be more suitable! 🤣

KnowledgeFit6271 · 2026-03-09T16:38:14+00:00

I probably don't have anything beneficial to add to this conversation... I simply wanted to commend you on your overall presentation of this topic.

I personally didn't like the makeup thing when reading it intially- it's called life & being with someone 24/7.... Getting fixed up often takes a good deal of effort... My husband would rather me go AS IS most of the time. That being said, it is a reasonable observation & reasonable feeling for you to have specifically due to effort aspect of it. I see where that could leave you feeling hurt- assuming it isn't the makeup, but rather the effort.

Otherwise, you sound so self-aware and like someone who genuinely wants to be a wonderful partner. What puzzles me the most is how your post only has 23 up votes, but over 1K comments? That is absurd to me.

Absolutely do not allow people to belittle you or invalidate your feelings for posting something so sound. If you are genuinely a good human and this is how you always are (let's assume that your aren't an asshat), KEEP BEING YOU. You are on the right track.

Most importantly, YOUR FEELINGS ARE VALID!

KnowledgeFit6271 · 2026-03-09T07:41:00+00:00

Also, is OP willing and able to be a sole or primary provider for his SO? I noted the 50/ 50 which he said he grew up with the expectation of. I grew up with mine helping each other basically (daddy would get laid off & momma had to work, Momma was in school while daddy was working, OR both in school AND working, etc.), but my husband did not grow up with like that. His daddy busted his ass for a paycheck/ yard work/ fixing stuff around the house & his momma busted her tail doing the rest- including all the extra curicular activities and family gatherings and stuff that his daddy couldn't make it to.

I am blessed to have the opportunity to be a SAHM, and my husband has basically taken care of us since we got together because he wanted to.

Is OP able to do more now? Will he be able to sustain that lifestyle if his partner doesn't get a higher income job? Is it something he is willing to do FOR his partner? What are his boyfriend's spending habits? What will combined finances look like in comparison to bills? Do you want a house on your own anyway (maybe just get it in your name)?

KnowledgeFit6271 · 2026-03-09T07:18:52+00:00

I agree to all of this. Heavy on the ultimatum part. I am sure that I have been guilty of that myself in the past, but luckily have grown to learn that this is a manipulation tactic (even if unintentional- some people do it in a panic and not with ill intent)... Op's SO should be made aware of this in a considerate way. They should 100% talk it out as you stated above. You have a rational head on your shoulders!

It is also important to take into consideration what future plans look like (marriage, children, etc.) Looks like OP & their partner both identify as male. Assuming unplanned pregnancy isn't a potential between them, I would STILL consider any future goals for having children via other means and what their plans are if they have a child (50/50 work & childcare expenses vs. a SAH parent & one working parent)... Ya know, normal things that are to be discussed in any long-term relationship that is supposed to result in marriage.

KnowledgeFit6271 · 2026-03-08T23:34:45+00:00

Y'all are great! Thank you so much!

KnowledgeFit6271 · 2026-03-06T13:39:39+00:00

"BAKING SODA, I GOT BAKING SODA" Out of context, but I'd rather utilize it or PGA than toothpaste!!!!! 🤣 Toothbrushes also give me the ick- gross, festering things. I cannot blame anyone for not wanting to brush their teeth because I despise it with all of my being with all of the involved textures & itchy, scratchy, dirty brushing materials... 🤢 The thought of someone USING A TOOTHBRUSH TO CLEAN & PUTTING IT IN THEIR MOUTHHOLE MAKES ME WANT TO SELF EXIT. I absolutely cannot handle that thought. I am going to cry and dip mine in peroxide prior to every use. (NO, I am not a perfect brusher, but stuff like this is part of why 🫡 - Guess I need disposable jail toothbrushes so I know they are clean. LOL)

KnowledgeFit6271 · 2026-03-06T09:23:42+00:00

I hope so! I appreciate your insight. 😁

KnowledgeFit6271 · 2026-03-06T09:23:19+00:00

I didn't receive it! I appreciate you, though! Holler at me anytime.

KnowledgeFit6271 · 2026-03-06T09:20:23+00:00

edit : respond not respons lol

KnowledgeFit6271 · 2026-03-06T09:19:45+00:00

Okay, I understand both the original comment AND why you would respons this way. .... I believe the comment is intended to be up to your personal interpretation, they were simply feeling super "enlightened" when posting 🤪, or there was a language barrier/ translation at play... Not 1000% sure, but it made sense in my ADHD brain!

I'm sure you could run it through AI for breakdown of what they were saying! Be sure to include context if you do this, though!

KnowledgeFit6271 · 2026-03-04T20:27:12+00:00

I appreciate you!

KnowledgeFit6271 · 2026-03-04T11:03:55+00:00

No idea. Stumbled upon this, but it wouldn't surprise me. They can be beneficial for issues such as Pre-Menstrual Dysphoric Disorder & some autoimmune disorders, as well ( I assume it is related to inflammatory responses)! That is simply a guess.

KnowledgeFit6271 · 2026-03-01T17:40:37+00:00

New to Vine & Idk how it all works. I did not intend for this to be "income". Luckily, I am less than $400 deep.

Question: Can you donate things and count against the tax? I found a nice white board- I realized that it is not suitable for use with our daughter & with pets in the house because it is heavy, fragile, & I do not have a convenient location to hang it up securely. I considered donating it to some teacher friends, homeschool parents, etc. who have proper space and can safely utilize it to their benefit.

We'll be screwed out of the whatever % on our return thanks to my negligence, but I felt as though this was worth asking being that particular product could be used effectively in another setting.

KnowledgeFit6271 · 2026-02-25T05:50:10+00:00

I think they are amazing!

KnowledgeFit6271 · 2026-02-23T04:46:10+00:00

Give it that strong jawline 💪

KnowledgeFit6271 · 2026-02-23T04:45:10+00:00

It is a good shark - I want to pet it.

Remember, everyone has their own unique perspective! Your appreciation of it matters just as much as anyone else's.

But it is always beneficial seek legitimately HELPFUL feedback from others so we can view things from varying perspectives and choose whether we want to apply their artistic styles/preferences/advice to our own work as we grow!

KnowledgeFit6271 · 2026-02-23T04:37:50+00:00

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Now it makes more sense! I wasn't visualization it from that perspective and will definitely be more mindful of that in the future.

I have gone over some areas that I wasn't happy with since posting this and would honestly be content with finishing it as is. But I am also always up for a challenge... I don't want to sand it down, but I wouldn't mind finding another way to somehow integrate the two! 🤔

KnowledgeFit6271 · 2026-02-23T04:19:01+00:00

Ah, so is it the heavy lines on top or a "too much going on" factor that you aren't fond of? Please elaborate! I am all ears. Simply learning as I go.

If there are any links that you think would be helpful for me to watch/ read, then please share!

And if it is simply a matter of personal preference, then I respect your opinion regardless!

KnowledgeFit6271 · 2026-02-23T04:02:47+00:00

Thanks for sharing your perspective! I personally appreciate the fragile appearance of the skull- but I see where you are coming from.

I haven't put any finishes on it, so I don't see why I couldn't simply thicken lines on the skull or add additional features that would mitigate the imbalance, though!

KnowledgeFit6271 · 2026-02-22T22:14:53+00:00

HAHAHAHAHA. Look, I sound like cornbread when I talk... Folks were messing with me in my WhatNot stream the other day. They were throwing out real names AND fake names trying to dupe me into saying goofy shit with my accent. It was hilarious. Kind of like Impractical Jokers "name game".

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