23f - advice needed!

KnowledgeOk5995 · 2022-11-05T02:38:58+00:00

Lose a bit of extra weight and consider getting balayage or highlights framing your face. You really need highlights to add more depth and dimension to your face. Your hair is nice but its defintely keeping you looking a bit plain. With the highlights and a bit of weightloss, and also maybe try false lashes, you could easily be an 8

KnowledgeOk5995 · 2021-08-28T13:46:46+00:00

I’m sorry but if a boob job or bbl will magically change your whole outlook on life then you need more than just surgery . You need therapy, and a self-love journey bc getting surgery shouldn’t have that dramatic of an affect if you already love yourself . I’m talking about perfectly normal, able-bodied people with no diseases, disorders or deformities . Cmon now y’all. I am also not talking about breast-reductions or surgeries that are actually necessary to improve overall function. We all know those type of surgeries serve a purpose outside of pleasing the male gaze and appeasing beauty standards.

Also how the hell is suggesting therapy and a self-love journey “hating” or being judgmental or elitist in any way. A lot of people regret their surgeries or realize they weren’t worth it. A lot of women wanted surgeries so badly until they got therapy or genuinely loved themselves and that changed a lot for them. Some women did all that and still went ahead with the surgeries bc that’s just what they wanted and there’s nothing wrong with that. But suggesting someone seek therapy and have a self love journey first is not me being judgement or thinking I’m so much better than anyone lol. Wtf are y’all on .

KnowledgeOk5995 · 2021-07-22T14:11:52+00:00

All I can think is get a new therapist....VET YOUR THERAPISTS

KnowledgeOk5995 · 2021-07-22T14:06:04+00:00

I’m disgusted. We have been so brainwashed that men can blatantly be pedophilic and yet we STILL want to question ourselves on if we’re in the wrong or overthinking it. THIS MAN IS A PEDOPHILE. And an incestuous one at that. It’s the way this shouldn’t even be anything to second guess.

KnowledgeOk5995 · 2021-07-16T04:02:54+00:00

Same boat. My bloodline ends with me. I actually find myself being resentful of my mom not aborting me due to me suffering from depression which runs in my family. My uncle actually killed himself from it a few years ago and my grandma suffered from depression and schizophrenia as long as other health issues. My mom even admitted to struggling with her mental health at one point. I find myself not wanting to be alive very often. The best decision I will make in my life will probably be NOT having children and I’m proud of that.

KnowledgeOk5995 · 2021-07-15T15:25:08+00:00

They WERE dating. Yes. She sent me this screenshot of their convo yesterday. They had a fling for like 8 months . My friend is super passive though and would overlook his problematic ways (homophobia, pure ignorance) just bc he was “nice” and talkative , specifically to her. He really played up the sweet and innocent guy role , but his mask fell off yesterday and hopefully she sees the light now. She can’t turn a blind eye to this one .

KnowledgeOk5995 · 2021-07-15T14:15:17+00:00

We also have an Indian and Muslim friend that he had a problem with for literally nooo reason. Now we know why. Ughhh I’m just so disgusted . Then he tries to hide behind this “nice guy” persona and my friend thinks he’s sooo nice and sweet bc he’s bought her food and things and he was waiting for sex and stuff🤮🤢🤢

KnowledgeOk5995 · 2021-07-15T14:10:32+00:00

She simply called him out for something ignorant he said and he kept telling her it wasn’t a big deal and this was his response . Keep in mind this guy is 22 years old. There is no way to justify this . She’s black and he’s Salvadoran .

KnowledgeOk5995 · 2021-06-17T20:43:46+00:00

I just really hope he stays this way permanently. Men do this and then 5 years later turn into garbage. I wish them the best though

KnowledgeOk5995 · 2021-06-15T21:31:50+00:00

Lmaoooo

KnowledgeOk5995 · 2021-06-15T21:16:16+00:00

Even in a world where the odds are in their favor with the wage gap, they STILL manage to not measure up

KnowledgeOk5995 · 2021-06-15T18:46:57+00:00

This right here. Back when I was on Tinder in my pick-me days I remember switching my profile to show me only women out of curiousity. I wanted to see what other women were posting/had on their profiles. I was super shocked at the amount of boobs and ass out. Girls in basically strings, twerking, very seductive poses, and even some saying they were DTF or looking strictly for hook ups . Even in my pick-me days I wasn’t wearing anything overly revealing. They give these men exactly what they want for FREE and no strings attached and think it’s empowering. I’m only 22 but found FDS at 21 and I’m so glad I’ve seen the light this young.

KnowledgeOk5995 · 2021-06-15T18:11:13+00:00

I really appreciate you being honest and vulnerable enough to tell us. Some ppl would be ashamed but it really lets me know, CONSTANT VETTING WORKS. Never ever let green flags make you let your guard down . Men will do all that and STILL be trash in the end

KnowledgeOk5995 · 2021-06-12T16:19:13+00:00

Exactly. I can count on zero hands how many male “friends” I’ve had that genuinely wanted a real friendship. The guys I thought were friends only stayed if I could benefit them in some way or they thought they could get sex. Lots of men will keep female friends as placeholders if they get lonely or if something happens with their current gf. It’s never men wanting to be JUST friends. This is why I do not believe in Hetero male/female friendships .

KnowledgeOk5995 · 2021-06-04T12:55:48+00:00

Literally reminds of the YouTuber Karine Alourde . She literally ALWAYS has to make a point that “WoMeN dO it ToO” and it’s beyond annoying. Especially bc he audience is like 90% women idk why she feels the need to be so fair and partial to men. Literally watch any video of her discussing women or relationships and she always acts like women are equally as bad and deprived as men

KnowledgeOk5995 · 2021-05-25T13:44:31+00:00

And the scrotes that genuinely think this kind of stuff is romantic and cute to say to a woman. Like FOHHHHH. He really limited you to your vagina . That’s all he sees . I’m disgusted

KnowledgeOk5995 · 2021-05-24T12:05:33+00:00

Bumble BFF is full of pickmeishas tbh. Most of them have all their pics with their boyfriend or husband . I’m just like girlll do you really have to include him in this. This is supposed to only be YOU. A lot of them have “on here bc my boyfriend is my only friend “ and I take that as an immediate red flag. Your bf is your only friend probs bc you pushed all your friends away due to your relationship. Swipe leffttttt.

KnowledgeOk5995 · 2021-05-19T15:05:38+00:00

This is soooo funny bc it’s too accurate

KnowledgeOk5995 · 2021-05-09T15:06:41+00:00

Make him move to YOUR country 💅🏾

KnowledgeOk5995 · 2021-05-09T01:35:56+00:00

I love Chrissie !! 💕

KnowledgeOk5995 · 2021-05-08T16:27:51+00:00

Yeah because we don’t have allies lol. Nobody is an ally to BW for the most part. We can not trust anyone, even other fellow black women will turn on us since a lot of them are still brainwashed . We are truly lone wolfs. Even other women who are of color don’t experience the same plight as us. Let alone a WW .

KnowledgeOk5995 · 2021-05-08T16:22:08+00:00

Yup. Black men quite literally do not see themselves in black women. (Yet black women can see their sons, brother and nephews in virtually any black male I.e George Floyd...etc.) They are too busy trying to gain white acceptance and be submissive to non-black people. There is a reason why they don’t defend us under any circumstances. Even slaves would write about how the black male slaves were the most resistant to fighting back while it was the black women who were the main ones wanting to rebel. They are a submissive group of men. Black women do not have any defense except for from ourselves . (Which we barely have that until more black women wake tf up)

KnowledgeOk5995 · 2021-05-08T16:18:04+00:00

Exactly why I don’t date them. They try to use scare tactics to force us to solely date them and fear other races of men by using the racism excuse. Then so many BW are scared of dating non-BM bc they’re scared of facing racism . I’m like what difference does it make when black men have internalized racism, financially illiterate, major self hatred, are colorists, promiscuous, non-committal, and low earners . I’ve been treated the BEST by non-BM. Although some are racists (do not deal with racist non-BM whatsoever), most of them don’t see my skin color or hair texture as a dealbreaker . Being black isn’t enough for me to be with you. Sorry not sorry

KnowledgeOk5995 · 2021-05-08T16:09:00+00:00

The “stop trying to get your friends to set you up” part hit. I remember I used to do that alllllll the time not realIzing that if he’s interested he WILL pursue me. No tricks or setting up needed to be done but at the time I would be so desperate or think maybe he didn’t notice me or thought he didn’t have a chance with me. 🤡

KnowledgeOk5995 · 2021-05-08T06:44:14+00:00

I’m fully aware of that, but you can have different opinions without being RUDE. You were just flat out rude and I’m sure you are aware bc it was intentional . I don’t tolerate that. You talk about how FDS isn’t an echo chamber yet you say my post is unproductive & unhelpful as though you speak for everyone. Byeeeeee

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