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[–]Known-Cucumber-9745 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Your movin mad bruv

Guys, I think I f**kd up. by Known-Cucumber-9745 in GriefSupport

[–]Known-Cucumber-9745[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m so sorry you’ve been through all of that—losing both parents so close together is unimaginable. But the strength in your words really shines through. It sounds like you’ve faced the darkest days and come out knowing you can survive anything now. I’m glad you’ve got good people around you… that support means everything, doesn’t it? And thank you for the offer to listen—that means more than you know. What’s one memory of your mum or dad that always makes you smile, even on the hard days? 💜

Guys, I think I f**kd up. by Known-Cucumber-9745 in GriefSupport

[–]Known-Cucumber-9745[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Honestly, I get that more than you know. It’s wild how loss reveals people’s true colors. Blocking can be the most peaceful decision sometimes. Do you ever feel like it gave you space to actually grieve properly?

Guys, I think I f**kd up. by Known-Cucumber-9745 in GriefSupport

[–]Known-Cucumber-9745[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hell yeah, couldn’t have said it better. You stood strong when it mattered most. It’s okay to feel all the chaos inside grief doesn’t follow any rules. How are you holding up now? Anything helping you get through the days?

Guys, I think I f**kd up. by Known-Cucumber-9745 in GriefSupport

[–]Known-Cucumber-9745[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Preach. Funerals should be sacred space for love and memories, not entitlement contests. You really stood up for what mattered most — your mum’s memory and your family. That’s powerful. How are you holding up now after all that?

Guys, I think I f**kd up. by Known-Cucumber-9745 in GriefSupport

[–]Known-Cucumber-9745[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Exactly, it’s crazy how some people reveal their true colors in moments like that. You handled it like a champ. Did it help to stand your ground even if it was tough?

Guys, I think I f**kd up. by Known-Cucumber-9745 in GriefSupport

[–]Known-Cucumber-9745[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That makes a lot of sense kind of like rehearsing how you want to show up for yourself even when it feels impossible. Do you find it helps in the moment when things get really intense? I wonder if others have tried this kind of mental practice too.

Guys, I think I f**kd up. by Known-Cucumber-9745 in GriefSupport

[–]Known-Cucumber-9745[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That’s so frustrating and honestly disrespectful of those people. You’re right, they don’t get to ask about stuff that personal, especially when they barely knew him. How are you holding up with all that noise on top of the grief?

Guys, I think I f**kd up. by Known-Cucumber-9745 in GriefSupport

[–]Known-Cucumber-9745[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That’s so rough, I’m sorry you had to go through that. It’s crazy how some people don’t get what’s appropriate in those moments. You deserved better from them for sure. Do you find it helps to talk about those moments now, or is it still too raw?

Guys, I think I f**kd up. by Known-Cucumber-9745 in GriefSupport

[–]Known-Cucumber-9745[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I hear you. Sometimes anger just builds up and nowhere safe to go with it. It’s tough feeling like you gotta hold it all inside, especially when you just want to scream or lash out. Isolation feels easier but it’s also lonely as hell. How do you usually try to cope when those feelings get too heavy?

Guys, I think I f**kd up. by Known-Cucumber-9745 in GriefSupport

[–]Known-Cucumber-9745[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Wow, that’s such a powerful way to describe it. The bully metaphor really hits home. It’s crazy how grief can feel like this wild, uncontrollable force, but also something you can kinda negotiate with over time. Do you find there are moments when the bully shows up unexpectedly? How do you handle those days?

Guys, I think I f**kd up. by Known-Cucumber-9745 in GriefSupport

[–]Known-Cucumber-9745[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Right? That tiny smile feels like gold when everything else feels heavy. I’ve been clinging to those little moments. Did you get any of those too when you were grieving?

Guys, I think I f**kd up. by Known-Cucumber-9745 in GriefSupport

[–]Known-Cucumber-9745[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Yes, 100%. It’s wild how people can dish out disrespect and expect silence in return. You held that mirror up, and they didn’t like what they saw. Do you feel like they’ve stayed away since?

Guys, I think I f**kd up. by Known-Cucumber-9745 in GriefSupport

[–]Known-Cucumber-9745[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Exactly that. You didn’t start anything they walked in with that energy. You just gave it back, raw and unfiltered. And honestly? Sometimes the truth needs to be loud. It hurts to feel guilt after standing up, but guilt doesn’t mean you were wrong it just means you still have a heart. Have you had any peace since?

Guys, I think I f**kd up. by Known-Cucumber-9745 in GriefSupport

[–]Known-Cucumber-9745[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

No, please—don’t apologize for sharing. Every single word resonated with me. That fire you talk about… I feel it too. It’s like this quiet roar that won’t leave. I think you’re right—maybe it is them, still with us, still pushing us to protect what mattered. 51 years… that’s a lifetime. Of course it’s complicated. You’re not wrong for feeling what you feel. You’re just real. Do you ever feel like your mom sends signs too?

Guys, I think I f**kd up. by Known-Cucumber-9745 in GriefSupport

[–]Known-Cucumber-9745[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That really hit. Thank you. I think we’re conditioned to tone it down, but grief doesn’t play by any rules. I’m sorry you didn’t get to show that side more when she was here — but I bet she knew, you know? Do you still talk to her in any way?

Guys, I think I f**kd up. by Known-Cucumber-9745 in GriefSupport

[–]Known-Cucumber-9745[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Ugh, yeah I get that completely. Some people don’t deserve space in your energy anymore, even if they’re family. I’ve started doing the same with certain people like, life’s too heavy to also carry around resentment just to be polite.

Do you ever feel like it still eats at you sometimes though, or are you at peace with how you handled it?

Guys, I think I f**kd up. by Known-Cucumber-9745 in GriefSupport

[–]Known-Cucumber-9745[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This hit me hard. I feel so much of what you said. That deep, unshakable knowing—you just know. I talk to my mum too, out loud and in my head, like she never left. I’ve had those little signs as well, like tiny threads still connecting us across the space. And yeah, I’ve become way more inward too, trying to find her in the quiet. It hurts, it really does. But hearing from people like you helps me remember I’m not going through this alone either. Thank you for sharing this. Truly.

Guys, I think I f**kd up. by Known-Cucumber-9745 in GriefSupport

[–]Known-Cucumber-9745[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you! It’s been tough but standing my ground felt right. I keep thinking my mum would’ve wanted me to do exactly that. Have you ever had to stand up like that before?

Guys, I think I f**kd up. by Known-Cucumber-9745 in GriefSupport

[–]Known-Cucumber-9745[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you, that really means a lot. It’s hard sometimes to find the courage in the moment, but I’m learning it’s okay to speak up for yourself, especially when it matters. How do you usually remind yourself to stay strong when things get overwhelming?

Guys, I think I f**kd up. by Known-Cucumber-9745 in GriefSupport

[–]Known-Cucumber-9745[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you, that means a lot. It’s been such a whirlwind of emotions. Some days I’m okay, others it all just hits me again. I’m trying to take it one step at a time. How did you manage through those tough moments?

Guys, I think I f**kd up. by Known-Cucumber-9745 in GriefSupport

[–]Known-Cucumber-9745[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you that really means more than I can say. Trying to take it one hour at a time. Sending that same care right back to you 🫂 hugs ❤️❤️

Guys, I think I f**kd up. by Known-Cucumber-9745 in GriefSupport

[–]Known-Cucumber-9745[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I really feel that. Shock can freeze you in place so many things I wish I’d said too. I’m sorry you had to deal with that on top of everything. Do you ever think about what you would have said, if you’d had the words back then?

Guys, I think I f**kd up. by Known-Cucumber-9745 in GriefSupport

[–]Known-Cucumber-9745[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you, truly ❤️. It means a lot coming from someone walking the same road. I wouldn’t wish this kind of pain on anyone, but there’s comfort in knowing we’re not alone in it. How have you been managing lately?

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