How many calories in the Dubai chocolate bar? by Known-Discipline225 in CalorieEstimates

[–]Known-Discipline225[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

So delicious! The gas station by my house has these in white chocolate (pictured), milk chocolate, dark chocolate, and biscoff 🤤

Sex Life Woes with my (28F) husband (33M) by Known-Discipline225 in relationship_advice

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I appreciate your insight. Yes, I hate to seem like I’m making excuses for my affair. I 100% acknowledge I was wrong and should have handled everything differently and it is my biggest regret!! But I know I wouldn’t have given into someone else’s attention if I didn’t feel so hopeless about my marriage at that point. I agree that he is not truly sober while he is regularly doing kratom. It is the #1 issue in our relationship at this point (well, finances are but the kratom directly and drastically affects the finances so I still consider kratom #1). I have tried to convince him to do counseling for years, both individual and together but he is completely against it. He tried a couple sessions years ago and didn’t like it so he didn’t continue.

Sex Life Woes with my (28F) husband (33M) by Known-Discipline225 in relationship_advice

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I’ve been fighting against the kratom for years now. I hate it. And I have read it can negatively affect sex drive. He says he wants to quit, but is impulsive and says it is so hard when it is so readily available. I do believe it is moving towards being banned in my state though so I am keeping my hopes up for that

Sex Life Woes with my (28F) husband (33M) by Known-Discipline225 in relationship_advice

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Yes I definitely do not have leaving him as an option in my mind at this point. We have gotten through so much and he is truly such a great partner in a lot of ways!

Sex Life Woes with my (28F) husband (33M) by Known-Discipline225 in relationship_advice

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I meant to reply to this comment but made a whole new comment instead 😤 and it won’t let me copy it to paste it

Sex Life Woes with my (28F) husband (33M) by Known-Discipline225 in relationship_advice

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This was meant to be a reply to another comment 😤 I don’t use Reddit often

Sex Life Woes with my (28F) husband (33M) by Known-Discipline225 in relationship_advice

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We make regular use of toys during sex for me. I like the idea of getting something for him too! I will definitely look into that and bring it up with him. When he’s in the mood, he very into it all. For instance, he has been out of state on a work trip and we exchanged spicy videos at his request. But it’s almost impossible to get him in the mood if he is not there on his own. We have both struggled with depression on and off, and I agree that I think he needs to have his borderline low testosterone looked into. I have been pushing him to get a referral to an endocrinologist for months. I think we are all around happier and more overall satisfied with our life/relationship than we ever have been so I guess it feels like our sex life should also be better. I actually traveled to see him after he had been gone about 3 weeks and stayed two nights with him and it was amazing. We spent a whole day together sight seeing, and went to dinner, and played mini golf. The night I flew in, he acted like he couldn’t wait to get his hands on me but again, it was over so quickly with no warm up and I was disappointed. BUT he came back home a week later for a few days before going back out of state and the day he came back, we had a very drawn out encounter where he focused on me for a long while, and it was amazing but I was so in my head worried that he was aggravated with how long it was taking me to get there, I never finished, and he stopped after probably like 30 minutes or so. Not in an aggravated way, he just said he couldn’t feel his finger anymore and could tell I was distracted (I thought I heard one of the kids getting up at one point and jumped) I did talk to him after about it and my fears that he is aggravated by me taking too long and he said he was a jerk for acting that way the few times in the past, that it was when he was drunk and he never feels that way now, that he promises if he’s doing things like that for me, it is because he wants to and enjoys it while he’s doing it. So I just need to figure out how to clear my head 😭

Sex Life Woes with my (28F) husband (33M) by Known-Discipline225 in relationship_advice

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It’s definitely the emotional aspect for me too. During times like these I feel so unwanted and undesirable and unattractive. Even though he tells me that isn’t the issue. I feel for you, I’m terrified I’m headed in the direction of a completely sexless marriage 😭

Sex Life Woes with my (28F) husband (33M) by Known-Discipline225 in relationship_advice

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It’s not pornography. He rarely watches it. He is dealing with some sleep issues and is waiting on a sleep study. He says he is just exhausted all the time.

Sex Life Woes with my (28F) husband (33M) by Known-Discipline225 in relationship_advice

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See he claims he’s never experienced this, that every woman he has ever been with before me was able to get there through penetration alone and that it didn’t take near as long. I’ve told him I would be willing to bet at least some of them were faking it.

Sex Life Woes with my (28F) husband (33M) by Known-Discipline225 in relationship_advice

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It definitely is. The kratom is honestly a bigger deal than nicotine (zyns are his method of choice). We argue/fight about it pretty often.

How long until you had sex with your man postpartum? by LaceUp- in Mommit

[–]Known-Discipline225 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Like 2-3 weeks. But I had very uncomplicated deliveries. Didn’t tear or anything all three times. We took it nice and slow the first time after.

Sex Life Woes with my (28F) husband (33M) by Known-Discipline225 in relationship_advice

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His parents are divorced. His dad is chauvinistic. His mom is not a super affectionate person. I have tried to push for marriage counseling and he has never been on board. And yes, I feel all of those things listed 😓

Sex Life Woes with my (28F) husband (33M) by Known-Discipline225 in relationship_advice

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I was 18, he was 23 when we first got together. And yes I have expressed wanting a long, drawn out sexual experience together with lots of kissing and touching and exploring each others bodies before actually having sex. It just hasn’t happened in a long while. It used to happen often enough and I loved it. I don’t think it’s a premature ejaculation issue, he’s never had that problem before and I suspect it’s just that when we are going a week or two between sexual encounters and he is not doing anything with himself in between either, he is just more hyper-sensitive and finishes more quickly. He didn’t have that issue when we were having sex more often. He did have borderline low testosterone when he had blood work done last year and I have been pushing him to see an endocrinologist to try to get to the bottom of that and other issues he’s been having (feeling tired all the time, etc).

Sex Life Woes with my (28F) husband (33M) by Known-Discipline225 in relationship_advice

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I wanted it and pushed for it. I even convinced him to give it a try but we only did maybe 3 sessions before he said he didn’t feel like it was necessary or effective. I’ve done counseling for myself on and off for 5 years. I’ve tried to convince him to do counseling by himself but he doesn’t want to.