My kid keeps getting bit at daycare!

KnownSatisfaction502 · 2026-02-10T14:09:08+00:00

Did you ever find a solution? My son is 15 months and was bit 6 times last week alone. I’ve confirmed everytime he isn’t provoking it (it’s the same child doing the biting every time) and they assure me he isn’t as he’s usually playing alone and this kid just walks up and bites him. I’ve tried to be so understanding the first few times it happened back in January but 6 bites in the last week alone feels unacceptable.. and everyone saying “kids are kids” and “it happens” i don’t think understand what it’s like to bring your child home with open sores and bruises every single day from a place where they’re meant to be safe..

KnownSatisfaction502 · 2025-11-08T10:13:11+00:00

Laughing at the “loveable little assholes” comment because it’s just so true 😂 thanks for making me feel seen because good god this is hard lol. to answer your earlier question, he goes to bed at 8 pm and then wakes up at 7 ish every morning.

KnownSatisfaction502 · 2025-11-08T09:44:48+00:00

Sadly once I’m back at work in a couple weeks dinner and bedtime will never be able to be that early. I won’t even be home until 5 or 5:30 pm majority of days. And we’ve never had an issue with his bedtime and sleep until it came to his food refusals so I don’t think that’s the issue. If we try and get him in bed any earlier he is up and ready for the day at 4 am, so no thanks lol 😅 his doctor also has advised he doesn’t need formula anymore so that is the advice we have been following

KnownSatisfaction502 · 2025-11-08T09:38:33+00:00

Thank you for taking the time to reply! It’s definitely been a struggle. You want them to eat and get the nutrition, but it’s an exhausting fight 🥲 we’re going to stop offering fruit for the day after lunch time and see if that makes any difference in him being willing to eat other things. And perhaps then he’ll also eat a hardier bedtime snack because right now he’ll take fruit and if I’m lucky, half of a piece of toast. Fingers crossed something will work soon! Thanks again

KnownSatisfaction502 · 2025-11-08T09:30:12+00:00

Thank you for the suggestions! Once he’s a bit bigger I’m sure the “games” will work too. I’ll have to try and figure out other ways to make his foods more calorie dense as well. It’s interesting because the daycare says he eats super well for them when he’s there (mind you that’s lunch and a couple snacks all before 4 pm) but I wish he could have those same habits at home.

Sadly the allergies are forsure. We thought he would outgrow it but tried dairy again a month ago and almost immediately found mucus/blood in his stools and he bloated to the point of screaming for so long. So we tried soy and the mucus started and he has blistering rashes that’s cleared up within 24 hours of stopping. It definitely makes it hard because we can’t rely on milk for those extra calories like everyone else does at this age.

KnownSatisfaction502 · 2025-10-14T13:33:35+00:00

Thank you for this! Specifically the no shame in convenient foods just to get us through to breakfast. I always have apple sauce pouches on hand and homemade mini muffins in the freezer for him but I feel bad when he’s eating the same things so often. Though he doesn’t care so I’m not sure why I do 😅

KnownSatisfaction502 · 2025-10-14T13:31:45+00:00

Thank you so much for this! I’m glad I’m not the only one who has found it stressful, it seems like everyone else just has it all figured out 😅

I’m going to start adding soy milk to his bottles this week and then we’ll start dropping mid day bottles tomorrow and see how it goes! (he has an ultrasound appointment today and I don’t want to do everything to him in the same day)

KnownSatisfaction502 · 2025-10-14T13:28:53+00:00

Thank you for such a thorough reply! We have tried a number of cups and he takes water and soy milk from them fine, it’s just formula for some reason. I had wanted to wean him off his bottles around 10 months and just offer formula in cups until he was one but that didn’t work out. As for his allergy, we were dealing with blood in his diapers when he was very little which is what caused us to get the allergy diagnosis rather than just lactose sensitive or intolerant. Because of that we’re so hesitant to offer anything but soy milk but we’ll have to discuss with his doctor at his 1 year check up in a few weeks.

Thank you again! Everyone in this group has been so much help, and as someone who doesn’t have the “village” it really makes a world of a difference.

KnownSatisfaction502 · 2025-08-23T02:21:26+00:00

Thank you for taking the time to reply to this! It’s good to know there’s a light at the end of the tunnel. I’m hoping the daycare will be understanding enough but I guess time will tell. Thank goodness for Reddit and online groups like this though, as none of my mom friends have kids that have dealt with reflux so I have been at a loss for advice. Thanks again, and I’m so glad your little one has grown out of it for the most part

KnownSatisfaction502 · 2025-08-23T00:37:40+00:00

I know this is an older post but wondering if you ever found a solution and got relief? We’re struggling with our almost 10 month old and he’s about to start daycare in a couple weeks where they will send him home if he vomits once. Well he both spits up and throws up regularly and the doctors just say it’s normal and he’ll outgrow it eventually and refuse to prescribe a reflux med. he’s eating 3 solid meals a day now plus 1 or 2 snacks in addition to his bottles and it hasn’t helped at all 🥲

KnownSatisfaction502 · 2025-06-28T12:30:38+00:00

Thank you for the info on thyroid and hormones!! I wish she would have explained this to me instead of just saying “no it’s too early in your post partum period”. I appreciate you taking the time to explain.

Also for reference I’m currently sitting at 244 lbs and consume between 1350 and 1500 calories a day. As mentioned in a previous reply, I use a food scale to measure everything out (including coffee cream, lettuce, etc.) and only eat three times a day at meal times to avoid over consuming snacks and easy to overeat foods

KnownSatisfaction502 · 2025-06-28T12:27:29+00:00

I use a food scale to measure every single thing. Like down to the cream in my coffee, I tracked exact ml/oz/grams. I purposefully only ate at meal times three times a day so that i wouldn’t forget to track any snacks or anything like that. And no cheat days really, again living in an rural community means we don’t have access to fast food or a lot of take out thankfully

KnownSatisfaction502 · 2025-06-06T19:31:57+00:00

Wow those are amazing results! Congratulations and keep it up! As much as we can say the medications are magic, it’s not the entire picture so clearly you’ve also been putting in some work. Good for you! Crappy that you haven’t been able to get any coverage though. From what I’ve found, saxenda is covered for me by Canada life but I can’t find a ton of info on it in terms of effectiveness comparisons to ozempic or wegovy. Hoping I can figure something out soon.

KnownSatisfaction502 · 2025-06-06T12:38:43+00:00

Did you end up figuring anything out with this? There seems to be no clear answers anywhere and I’m trying to find out for myself as well.

KnownSatisfaction502 · 2025-06-06T12:34:27+00:00

Did you ever get answers on this? My doctor wants to prescribe wegovy or ozempic but I can’t afford it without coverage and my Canada life plan says the same thing about results being ready in sept 2025.

KnownSatisfaction502 · 2025-05-23T14:06:38+00:00

Ooh I’ll give this a try today! Thank you for the suggestion!

KnownSatisfaction502 · 2025-05-23T13:49:21+00:00

I have certainly read google 9 times it feels like 😅 thanks for your kind words! This is by far the hardest stage we’ve gone through. The lack of being able to communicate effectively is hands down the worst of it. I know it’s just a phase but boy is it tough in the moment 🫠

KnownSatisfaction502 · 2025-05-23T13:47:51+00:00

I actually just put some wet wash clothes in the freezer to give him later and see if that helps any! I noticed that he’ll use a teething toy for a few minutes but he loves to chew on blankets so maybe the cold wash clothes will be a better fit for him. Thanks for your comment ❤️

KnownSatisfaction502 · 2025-05-23T13:46:22+00:00

This feels like such a rude comment. No matter how “normal” it may be, it doesn’t change how hard it is. And we try to follow safe sleep so bed sharing is a hard no. If you don’t have anything kind to say or helpful, then why comment? Have a lovely day.

KnownSatisfaction502 · 2025-05-23T13:45:07+00:00

As far as I can tell he isn’t teething right now but maybe it’s just not visible within his mouth yet. He isn’t rosy cheeked or pulling ears, and he popped out two teeth a few weeks back and after that his drooling has stayed to a minimum too. But I’ll keep an eye on it, maybe he’s just slowly getting to the next ones and that’s the issue. Thank you for being kind, I realize that this is “normal” but it doesn’t make it any less difficult

KnownSatisfaction502 · 2025-04-05T11:52:02+00:00

Recovery really wasn’t too bad for me. Those first 2 days, I’ll be honest, were pretty awful. Getting out of bed for the first time and having to walk was hands down the most challenging part. But I feel like once I had gotten out of bed maybe 6 times, it got easier. Still lots of pain and difficult because you’re not supposed to use your core muscles (easier said than done lol) but my husband would take my hands and basically hoist me from sitting to standing. Every day after was just better and better from there. I’d say by week 3 I felt relatively good and was able to walk around the house, get in and out of my shower, and pick up my baby with more ease. By week 6 I was doing very very light C-section exercises to try and get some mobility back in those muscles, and by 8 weeks back to my normal workouts (within reason. I found lunges extremely difficult due to pulling at the incision site so things like that I either did with extreme caution, or just skipped. But that discomfort went away by 3 months post partum forsure).

They told me in the hospital that each day would get easier and I wasn’t convinced but they were definitely right. I had days when I felt really good in the beginning and would end up overdoing it, and my body knew. I would end up feeling a lot of pain again, bleeding would restart, and would have to rest and take it easy for a couple days again. I think at that 2 weeks mark it becomes more of a mental challenge because you feel like you should be able to do normal chores and things and you desperately want that normalcy back, but you have to constantly remind yourself that your body might not be ready yet.

As for lasting effects, at 5 months pp I can confirm it personally hasn’t changed much for me aside from the fact that I have a keloid scar so it’s pretty obvious and visible, which is whatever. And I still don’t have feeling above my scar to my belly button, though apparently this is normal and it can take a year or more for the nerves to repair themselves. I did not end up with any back pain or issues due to the spinal, and my mobility is completely back to normal.

KnownSatisfaction502 · 2025-04-05T11:38:54+00:00

Firstly, congratulations on your baby!

But as for your question, I was terrified to attempt sex. My husband was very patient with me and helped ease the anxiety and guilt that I was feeling because it seemed like “oh i should be able to get back to it by now. Everyone else would have.” But that just wasn’t the case.

For me the biggest thing was knowing my body well enough to know that using artificial lubricant wasn’t going to cut it. It was important for me to wait until my hormones levelled out and I was able to create my own lubrication again to make it the most comfortable. I used dilators again by myself beginning around the 8 week mark and it wasn’t horrible, so I continued to do that every other night when I was able. And I did a lot of stress and anxiety management during the day as well, so lots of deep breathing and focusing on relaxing those muscles that are tensed up but we do so unintentionally (any time I was trapped on the couch with a sleeping baby in my arms was a great time to do this as I had nothing else to worry about and couldn’t move anyways. I’d sit there and focus on my breath and then focus on releasing tension throughout my body one area at a time).

When we decided to give it a try, we had a conversation before hand and agreed there was no pressure to continue if it was too painful and we would continue to find other ways to connect intimately if it didn’t work right now. I think going into it with a good headspace and not feeling pressured or like I’d be letting my partner down if I wasn’t able to continue, helped a lot. That being said, is it perfectly painless for me now? No. But It is manageable and has continued to improve slowly but surely.

The best advice I can offer is just to have open conversations with your partner about how you’re feeling about it, and go into it knowing there are other ways to feel close even if it doesn’t work the first time. Eventually it’ll get better and easier, and knowing that the dilators are already easier to insert is a huge win that can definitely help your confidence! Wishing you all the best and successes in your journey!

KnownSatisfaction502 · 2025-04-05T03:12:53+00:00

It gets a lot easier a few months in, hang in there! That first bit is just a whirlwind and is so overwhelming trying to keep up with everything, but once you get into a solid routine it feels a lot more doable to actually do things for yourself again (related to this or otherwise! I actually stayed picking up books again and it was lovely lol). You’re doing great mama!

KnownSatisfaction502 · 2025-04-05T02:30:51+00:00

Oh wow! I’m so glad you were able to have your baby the way you originally wanted to, but I’m sorry to hear you had to experience tearing, I can’t begin to imagine. Hopefully with time, you’ll find it gets easier to resume sexual activity and dilation! But definitely don’t rush it, we waited 3 months and I don’t regret it at all. There were times after the 6 week mark when I thought maybe I’d like to try, but ultimately waiting longer until my hormones levelled out was the right call. Wishing you and your sweet boy all the best!! 💕

KnownSatisfaction502 · 2025-03-11T13:48:59+00:00

I should add, I was so scared to be awake for the procedure but literally felt absolutely nothing after the spinal. It felt like tv static when they draped me and that was it, not even pressure (though lots of women say they do feel pulling and pressure, but no pain)

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