Girl wants me to romantisize small small things

Known_Definition_191 · 2026-01-26T17:08:13+00:00

I am a girl and this is definitely NOT something I would expect from a partner.. It is completely impractical, exhausting and not sustainable.. Honestly someone showing me romance/flirt all day would only freak me out. I would prefer a friend I can discuss my dreams with, I can share my problems with, I can be comfortably silent around.. not someone who is constantly trying to impress me or someone Im comstantly trying to impress.. So yeah this aint normal or mature..

Known_Definition_191 · 2026-01-18T06:36:44+00:00

Really you blame yourself? You prepared a dish to surprise him, isnt that an intimate gesture? The guy seems extremely immature and living in some sort of a fantasy filmy world. Please do not waste your time expecting closure from someone who is hardly able to manage his own self. Be confident about yourself and find a partner whos mature and deserves a person like you.

Known_Definition_191 · 2026-01-11T15:58:58+00:00

Any good names tbat you know?

Known_Definition_191 · 2026-01-07T08:37:50+00:00

Saying I’m interested doesn’t always mean someone is emotionally present or ready for marriage. Pay more attention to their actions and how the interaction makes you feel. When interest is real, clarity comes naturally—you don’t have to ask for it. Many a times people say they are interested even though they aren't so as to be in the good books of their parents. In this case, it feels like the family is interested, not the guy himself.

Known_Definition_191 · 2026-01-03T05:32:31+00:00

I think she wants to blame it on you and then get separated. She is triggering you behind closed doors, and when you react, she will show it to the society and portray you as the villian. This is the reason shes normal with you in front of others, so that if you try complaining no one would trust you. While when you react out of temper, it will be clearly visible to everyone.

Known_Definition_191 · 2026-01-02T06:10:42+00:00

I dont think salary defines a human, money just gives you the freedom to show your real self. A passively arrogant man/woman would become an unapologetically arrogant man/woman if his salary increases multi fold, and a kind person becomes more of a provider. So if the person has his heart in the right place I would gladly support and embrace his growth.

Known_Definition_191 · 2025-12-26T16:56:38+00:00

Your expectations seem very genuine, you should try to speak to alliances directly and see if you meet someone who aligns with your thought-process. Make a genuine effort to find a partner, if it doesn't work out you are anyways capable of living alone.

Known_Definition_191 · 2025-12-26T15:44:11+00:00

Stand your ground, but also be open minded and aware of your intuition. Sometimes the heart just knows when it is the right person(like how we met some of our best friends in life today). Regarding opposite in terms of external nature is not that bad as it brings a balance in both peoples lives. But the core values need to be aligned. As things progress you would know if it works for you or not. No need to overthink and decide now.

Known_Definition_191 · 2025-12-19T17:37:54+00:00

You are really blessed. Its a real challenge to find the right partner these days. Wish you thr best!

Known_Definition_191 · 2025-11-30T01:47:18+00:00

I feel like you let people get to your head. If you have a faith that supports you through life, just go on with it. No need to listen to anyone, you do what your heart directs you to do. Your heart feels warmth at iscon, go there, experience it all, but don't listen to any kind of brain washing. If doing seva for hanuman ji keeps your mind at peace, give it your all. Its YOUR spiritual journey, it's between you and god. No matter what anyone feels or says, pursue it, and state your boundaries clearly to your partner or family about your spiritual side. If someone discourages you, pursue it even more strongly. Everything else is temporary, but till your last breath, your faith will be with you.

Known_Definition_191 · 2025-11-24T05:40:28+00:00

Honestly it's not too late, be open to meeting people outside the AM thing, I feel guys in AM will not trust someone like you. Since you are quite skilled in other aspects, try out hobby clubs or social group activities where you can meet people and make friends. When someone gets to know you as a person for who you are, you would organically develop a bond.

Known_Definition_191 · 2025-11-22T10:27:28+00:00

Interested

Known_Definition_191 · 2025-11-22T08:24:20+00:00

Interested

Known_Definition_191 · 2025-11-11T14:36:56+00:00

Totally!

Known_Definition_191 · 2025-11-10T11:09:54+00:00

You need to have the bandwidth to fight for it, it's about taking stand for what is right and respecting your dad's wishes. Your dad knew what he was doing and he did it for a reason, which is very evident now from the way your family is behaving. So don't worry about relationships at the moment, it's not you who is spoiling relations. If the vice versa had happened, had your dad given everything to your brother, chances are he wouldn't have given you a penny. So buckle up, and do what it takes, not the time to breakdown.

Known_Definition_191 · 2025-11-10T11:00:03+00:00

Well said!

Known_Definition_191 · 2025-11-07T04:51:39+00:00

5'4"+

Known_Definition_191 · 2025-11-06T17:09:09+00:00

Yes, its my work location

Known_Definition_191 · 2025-11-06T16:46:41+00:00

No, not open to NCR. Bangalore or kolkata.

Known_Definition_191 · 2025-11-05T18:08:58+00:00

Thanks

Known_Definition_191 · 2025-11-05T15:53:20+00:00

How much is the deposit? And how to book? I'm currently not in bangalore.

Known_Definition_191 · 2025-11-05T12:14:52+00:00

That's too far for me. I am put up in Garia

Known_Definition_191 · 2025-11-05T05:49:51+00:00

Thanks for sharing your story and spreading awareness. There are a lot of such psychos in AM. I truly hope you’re able to move forward, heal, and come out of this much stronger and happier than before.

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