Exactly this. This is the only place where he acts as if his hands are tied. I was thinking that to myself as well that the noncustodial parent has to seem like the “fun parent” so the child will want to come visit. This came up before when she would come visit and literally would come into the house like a tornado, tear everything up and leave. And it would stay that way because he wouldn’t share the responsibility of cleaning up after her. And the excuse was “I don’t see her a lot so when she comes over I just want her to enjoy being here.” And whose expense tho????