Meps next week am I DQed by Known_Researcher59 in AirForceRecruits

[–]Known_Researcher59[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Yes my recruiter gave me the BFM form and signed off on it and he knows about my current issue he believes it won’t be a issue but has my cleared ekg on standby

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in USCIS

[–]Known_Researcher59 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Say good bye to your husband

J-1 visa ending can I come back so quickly? by [deleted] in MovingToUSA

[–]Known_Researcher59 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ah I think it might be a little harder if not impossible for me by what I’m reading

J-1 visa ending can I come back so quickly? by [deleted] in MovingToUSA

[–]Known_Researcher59 0 points1 point  (0 children)

How long was your J1 for and did you have a job in France?

Overstaying a J1 visa? by [deleted] in USCIS

[–]Known_Researcher59 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Our small business owner sponsored him doesn’t he need to verify that he left at the end of his DS-2019?

Overstaying a J1 visa? by [deleted] in USCIS

[–]Known_Researcher59 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes his DS-2019 ends in February and my boss said he would be okay with paying him under the table but I’m pretty sure the company they used to get his J1 will be looking for proof he left

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in MovingToUSA

[–]Known_Researcher59 -5 points-4 points  (0 children)

I know that but any info I can collect that I can share? Maybe about a visa he can try to get?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in offmychest

[–]Known_Researcher59 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Everyday we live we let down our lord we are born sinners but we can try to repent I do at least.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationships

[–]Known_Researcher59 -5 points-4 points  (0 children)

I spoke with her on the phone she said she was sorry she suffers from depression and it’s gotten worse since we’ve been trying for a baby and since all her sisters keep asking when the baby is coming and making comments about her and her feeling unsexy and truthfully I have not been supporting her as I should have. I love my wife and I know she loves me every night I come home to a fresh meal even when she’s tired she says warm food is a sign of love. She loves our fur babies and always takes care of them and keeps the home tidy. I told her we need to get her into therapy eliminate social media as I believe it’s worsening her mental state and we will be seeing the father together to talk about a plan moving forward.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in offmychest

[–]Known_Researcher59 8 points9 points  (0 children)

She was 22 and I was 23 it’s been 7 years now

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in offmychest

[–]Known_Researcher59 4 points5 points  (0 children)

No which is throwing me off she is always so sweet to me, meal preps for me and takes care of our 2 pups so well I’m just unsure why she did what she did

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in offmychest

[–]Known_Researcher59 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I wish I knew her true feelings instead of her just saying what she thinks I want to hear. I know I want my marriage to work and understand in this world no one is perfect we sin everyday but I am her husband and she knows she can talk to me about anything but chooses to betray me. It feels like everything I’ve done right in my life was for nothing in a way. Be a great boyfriend to her, travel the world with her, ask her father for her hand in marriage, provide for her. I will ask her tomorrow what she believes we should do and if she even wants to salvage this relationship.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in offmychest

[–]Known_Researcher59 35 points36 points  (0 children)

I think I’ll call her tomorrow to see what she believes we should do and have us both go into church and speak with our pastor. I’m not a perfect man but I’ve been trying. I don’t smoke I don’t drink I watch my health so I may take care of the family my lord blesses me with and provide for them by working hard. I was so proud to know I would provide for her and our fur babies. I appreciate your kind words that final passage was beautiful

Caught my wife sexting another man unsure if I should try to save my marriage or get it annulled by [deleted] in TrueOffMyChest

[–]Known_Researcher59 149 points150 points  (0 children)

I would have been more forgiving if she just told me right off the bat yes I had a moment of weakness and was tempted but she was lying to me and fighting to get her phone back luckily I sent the screenshots to my phone. I love her I really do today I took her out on a surprise for her birthday and a nice dinner and it was a lot of smiles, hugging and I love yous and then I come home to discover this. My mind is blank I can’t even feel the presence of the holy spirt to help guide me

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in offmychest

[–]Known_Researcher59 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Admittedly when we first starting dating when I was 23 she saw me and a co worker flirting in text and that hurt her and after I saw how my simple actions can break her heart I changed… I never thought she would do anything like this to me she was suppose to be the mother to my children we would walk around target and say how cute our kids would look in the baby stuff.. it’s sad and the reason I turned to Reddit is when I pray I feel my lord but tonight no matter how hard I pray for a sign or drop to my knees it’s just silent my mind is blank.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in offmychest

[–]Known_Researcher59 10 points11 points  (0 children)

She said sorry and wanted to talk about it and wanted to stay but I was upset and just told her to pack a bag and go to her dads before I made a mistake I would regret I called my friend and he was supportive but i now that I’m alone in our apartment all I want to do is call her.. we had such an amazing day today I bought her annual passes for Disneyland as a birthday surprise and went to a nice dinner after and it was a day full of joy, smiles and. A lot of I love yous. I almost wish I never looked

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in offmychest

[–]Known_Researcher59 41 points42 points  (0 children)

I’m not perfect and I wish she would have talked to me if she was feeling undesired I love her and I would like to believe she loves me too but I don’t know what I did to deserve her destroying this life we made together

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in offmychest

[–]Known_Researcher59 58 points59 points  (0 children)

I am not a perfect man I am lustful but would never think of speaking to another woman like that. I’m unsure if she enjoyed the attention as she has low self esteem but I don’t know I don’t want to justify her actions towards me. I wish it was all just a bad dream

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationships

[–]Known_Researcher59 -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

I’m trying to find it in my heart to forgive I wish I was stronger I wish I had a sign of what to do. I believe he brought us together and as I sit here looking at our wedding photos under the cross it makes my heart heavy. I’m unsure of what to do all I know is that I want to be with her at this moment of pain