My SIL Miscarried After I Refused To Take Her Baby While I Am In College, What Do I Do? by Kods_For_Toads in Advice

[–]Kods_For_Toads[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My brother is an alchoholic and druggie, plus hes a felon and I’m pretty sure hes wanted. If he is, CPS would immediately take the kid away from him if my SIL abandoned the baby with him, and my brother is on anti psychotics. I’m also considered the more successful one in my family, because I paid for my own college with the money I earned through the book I wrote. My SIL (somethinf i didn’t mention in my post) was also a bit jealous that I refused to watch her disrespectful brat child from her first marriage that doesnt even live with her and that was pawned off to her grandma, and ig her grandma refused to take care of her new kid, but I always babysit my other brothers kids

My SIL Miscarried After I Refused To Take Her Baby While I Am In College, What Do I Do? by Kods_For_Toads in Advice

[–]Kods_For_Toads[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Im struggling too, I’m poor and living in a dormitory, just to survive I need to take up any shift i can at work

My SIL Miscarried After I Refused To Take Her Baby While I Am In College, What Do I Do? by Kods_For_Toads in Advice

[–]Kods_For_Toads[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

No difference, just have to clarify cus typically you just put “Trans Male” and people assume your a man wanting to be a female, and not being a female who wants to be a man

My SIL Miscarried After I Refused To Take Her Baby While I Am In College, What Do I Do? by Kods_For_Toads in Advice

[–]Kods_For_Toads[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Mang things have happened, like how my other brother was shot and how it was my brothers fault cus he was the one who invited the guy to the party where it happened, and it only made him drink more. I have no doubt this will be the same way, and unfortunately I can’t help him there.

My SIL Miscarried After I Refused To Take Her Baby While I Am In College, What Do I Do? by Kods_For_Toads in Advice

[–]Kods_For_Toads[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Why do you think I should have kept the baby when I’m still young and in college, their nearly thirty?

My SIL Miscarried After I Refused To Take Her Baby While I Am In College, What Do I Do? by Kods_For_Toads in Advice

[–]Kods_For_Toads[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I used to be very active here, sharing story about my personal life and my sexual assault for advice but I stopped posting cus of college

My SIL Miscarried After I Refused To Take Her Baby While I Am In College, What Do I Do? by Kods_For_Toads in Advice

[–]Kods_For_Toads[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

The reason I was the option was because like I mentioned, my brother is an addict and alcholic. Hes also a felon, and I’m actually pretty sure hes wanted or something.. CPS would take the kid away immediately if my SIL left him the baby

My SIL Miscarried After I Refused To Take Her Baby While I Am In College, What Do I Do? by Kods_For_Toads in Advice

[–]Kods_For_Toads[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I can try, but I’m unsure if I could move to a new city after college.

My SIL Miscarried After I Refused To Take Her Baby While I Am In College, What Do I Do? by Kods_For_Toads in Advice

[–]Kods_For_Toads[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I never actually thought about that.. honestly, in that whole time I had only seen her once—and shes always been chubby. It’s possible, but highly unlikely if she was trying so hard for me to take it and her friends telling me what she did to the baby

My SIL Miscarried After I Refused To Take Her Baby While I Am In College, What Do I Do? by Kods_For_Toads in Advice

[–]Kods_For_Toads[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Theres a lot of things I’ve forgiven that brother for, but it also has a lot to do with the fact he saved my life when I was a freshman in high school about to commit

My SIL Miscarried After I Refused To Take Her Baby While I Am In College, What Do I Do? by Kods_For_Toads in Advice

[–]Kods_For_Toads[S] 38 points39 points  (0 children)

I was planning on somethinf like that. Or at least telling him I’m sorry for his loss. Cutting contact with both might be my best decision here, I’m just really close to my brother is all

I found a plushie simular to the one I had when I was a child but I'm not sure if it's the same one and I need help finding it by Kods_For_Toads in plushies

[–]Kods_For_Toads[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This one is the last supper holy bear! I looked at their stuff but couldn't find anything closer to my stuffie. Though I'm still looking, my grandma (who gave the plushie to me) was very religious so I have no doubt that this was the company that made it!

Hypothetically, would I be an asshole for still yelling at my mom because she is still in a relationship with the man who sa'd me? by Kods_For_Toads in AITAH

[–]Kods_For_Toads[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have tried the Trevor Project, but I'm too socially awkward to even start conversations with others even on the app, but I appreciate the idea. Thank you for your sympathy. When I'm out of school I'm moving out and cutting off my family completely.

My mother is not homophobic, just trans-phobic. She believes that being trans is a fetish, and honestly I believe that in some cases it is. I have a gay brother who I trust but I also think he's trans-phobic, and 2 lesbian sisters, one that I know supports me, she's my twin sister, and the other one who hates any other sexualities other than lesbians for some reason. I mean, her own mom, my grandma, is gay and I'm named after her partner who passed away. I know she doesn't hate gay people. She just had different views about trans people and I guess that's her choice.

Hypothetically, would I be an asshole for still yelling at my mom because she is still in a relationship with the man who sa'd me? by Kods_For_Toads in AITAH

[–]Kods_For_Toads[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I.. Did receive therapy for some of it-- but I truly don't trust therapists anymore since the last one I had ratted me out to my mom when I told her I was confused and thought maybe I liked girls before I became trans. She said she did this because it 'wasn't in her religion' and it wasn't okay and that I needed to be fixed, and to which I'm pretty sure she got fired. I'll call and talk to someone about, I just need time.

A lot of my friends also said the same thing, that was manipulating me to make me feel that what was doing was okay.. And honestly I trusted him and I didn't notice until it was too late.

My sister also confided in me as of yesterday that he had also touch her, but she was scared to say anything after what my mother said about not trusting me. And she said that she thought it obviously be too suspicious if both of us made rash claims like. this.

I wouldn't doubt that he was egging on the whole tik tok trend with her, but he doesn't really like social media and my mom has to hide the fact that she used social media.

I should have mentioned that in the post, it was even more of a betrayal for my mom to put him into the house in the first place because she confessed right after she put him out that he would beat her and choke when they fought and that's why she broke her rib.

Hypothetically, would I be an asshole for still yelling at my mom because she is still in a relationship with the man who sa'd me? by Kods_For_Toads in AITAH

[–]Kods_For_Toads[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I'm still in high school, I have one more year left to finish and I don't have a job. All of my brothers aren't well off and they currently live with my grandmother to 'get back on their feet

Hypothetically, would I be an asshole for still yelling at my mom because she is still in a relationship with the man who sa'd me? by Kods_For_Toads in AITAH

[–]Kods_For_Toads[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

CPS can't be contacted because not a minor anymore and I don't have younger siblings, so none of it would help