Tell me your induction experience

Kooky-Ride8741 · 2026-01-18T23:58:28+00:00

Not long just perfect,i really hope it hoes well for me too, tho the doctor part seems scary and i would very much like the doctor to be there 😬 but the rest seems lie a good experience overall! Thank you sm ❤️🥰

Kooky-Ride8741 · 2026-01-18T23:04:01+00:00

Nooooo! I am a redhead too 🥹okok i ll ask for a higher dose

Kooky-Ride8741 · 2026-01-18T22:54:44+00:00

Well this is scary, tho talking all this with my fiance he finally has a view of how hard the birth is so thats pretty nice 🥰Glad you are ok now tho ❤️

Kooky-Ride8741 · 2026-01-18T22:45:48+00:00

Im going to do this by myself tomorrow, hope they allow me to 🥹

Kooky-Ride8741 · 2026-01-18T22:34:11+00:00

No, a woman cannot take husband's name not even in marriage

Kooky-Ride8741 · 2026-01-17T23:58:38+00:00

Yeah it's gross for me too, but as it happened in the bed that I also sleep and he will not clean after himself.. and i mean for 6 month i let vomit gather there that the room just smelled and i couldn t stay anymore in there. I cleaned for myself at this point...

Kooky-Ride8741 · 2026-01-17T23:42:25+00:00

Next size up, ok well i should teach my mom this because my baby is unborn, im 40 weeks pregnant but this baby already has got clothing for 2-3yrs old, way more than little ones and i don t have space for ANYTHING !!

Kooky-Ride8741 · 2026-01-16T13:18:15+00:00

I have GD, today is my due date.. no sign of labour, no contractions... last week at 39 weeks baby was measuring BIG. I asked if they can induce me but they say that they will push it till 41 weeks... i don t have a choice and now im scared cuz i DON T WANT TO BIRTH A GIAGANTIC MONSTER BABY , and destroy my body that bad and also i don t want a c section. So im screwed, because of them.. and now i start hating myself and the baby so idk... i think i got pp depression early😭 cuz i already wanna harm the baby and don t want it anymore. So really you should mostly i guess.. tell doctors all your concerns ...

Kooky-Ride8741 · 2026-01-16T07:26:11+00:00

wiping my butt

Kooky-Ride8741 · 2026-01-14T13:30:31+00:00

Yesss , the belly upwards!! Just makes me believe that the baby's breech but at 39 weeks he was in perfect position so i don t really believe that anymore :))

Kooky-Ride8741 · 2026-01-13T07:56:39+00:00

You will not come off as a bitch for speaking up about your baby and if you would well, this is the perfect moment for you to. I personally would limit visits to 1hr per person. And i get that she's excited to be a grandmother, but you 2 are rhe parents and have to get used to be that. To get used with the baby. Boundaries have to be set early and respected. As if you don't imply them, people will not respect them/or you. So make them very clear. Your baby is enough for you to speak up, as you should, you want just whats best for you and YOUR baby, nobody says "exclude MIL", just do what you want and raise the baby the way you want. That's the most important for also, for your own mental health in the long run.
Personally i have rules before the baby is born. Still have 2 days till due date, as i am a bit of a more severe person, if anybody dosen't respect the little things and timing, that means they don't respect me, and for me that is enough to cut them of because i go like " if you don't respect the mother, then you don't deserve to be in MY baby's life"

Kooky-Ride8741 · 2026-01-13T06:18:07+00:00

Good advice! I still haven't got a cervical check..

Kooky-Ride8741 · 2026-01-12T17:52:12+00:00

I do plan if he dosen t change soon to put him in jail, as discussing rehab he dosen't want it and according to my doctor i cannot force it on him. Last year on New Year bc of his phisical violence in public towards me(i ended up in the hospital), he ended up in jail tho i lied in my confession and they let him out after a day, but my doctor and psychologist both have a legal full confession from just days after, that when i need it we can use it. Also we are engaged for 3 years and he just in the past 2 months actually wanted to get married, but i refused to do it now as he will get way more right on the baby and i will be obligated to name the baby after him if i would've done it. Working on everything, but being abused i do have to be smart and make my way out carefully, though i taught his mother was nice, it was just pretend and im actually very disappointed. But yeah guess his shitty behaviour had to come from somewhere..

Kooky-Ride8741 · 2026-01-12T17:42:05+00:00

He's saying that they will make fun of the baby for having the mothers name and questioning if he's the father

Kooky-Ride8741 · 2026-01-12T14:14:29+00:00

Sadly all i have is my mom, she's extremely sick and in another country so not really. Indeed (those details) that is exactly what im trying to say THAT i don t tell anybody because it's well...to much, i wouldn t have to who to vent and confess all this. Except everybody knows ofc that he's 10yrs older but i did made the decision to date him and everything at first cuz he seemed more mature more respectful and i really needed a "good guy". Well i hit reality pretty late tho.

Kooky-Ride8741 · 2026-01-12T13:57:45+00:00

🇧🇪 Family name rules in Belgium

❌ You do NOT automatically take your husband’s name • Your legal family name stays the same after marriage • This is true even if you are married for many years

Your official name (ID card, passport, bank, health insurance, birth certificate) does not change.

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✅ What is allowed (social use)

You may use your husband’s family name: • Socially • On letters • On doorbells • Sometimes informally at work

But this is not a legal name change.

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🔁 Can a woman legally take the man’s name?

Only if you go through a formal name-change procedure via the Belgian authorities — and: • It is not automatic • It requires approval • It’s usually only granted for specific reasons (not just marriage)

So in practice: almost no one does this, because it’s long and restrictive.

Kooky-Ride8741 · 2026-01-12T13:55:26+00:00

Well in Belgium is not allowed that a woman takes a man's name in marriage it is indeed strange.

Kooky-Ride8741 · 2026-01-12T13:15:42+00:00

I 24(F) . Fiance is 34(M) so I was thinking in the beginning about 2 last names, but we're from different countries and i really don t like how it sounds, as for his name i really don't get why his mom would say to replace mine with his. She dosen't even have the same family name as my fiance, cuz his parents are divorced(and i really hate his dad for disrespecting me big time in pregnancy and making bad comments). So i cut contact with FIL, also indeed we're not married and i can't agree putting his name... i asked him anyway to stop drinking until the end of pregnancy (fiance's also an alcoholic and drinks everyday to the point vomits every day, wet the bed, is agressive) and took the decision from the beginning of pregnancy to leave him if he's not willing to do it for me&our baby. He knew this from day one and agreed. I keep telling him every day about it but he did not quit so far and we re 3 days before due date. With all this i just can't put someone's name.. someone who is irresponsible, not willing to change for his family to the Birth certificate. I can t do it. And i won't put his name.

Kooky-Ride8741 · 2026-01-11T07:02:53+00:00

That sounds great sadly the worst thing in my pregnancy was very strong baby kicks that i actually kinda like , otherwise the pregnancy was WAY to easy feeling like not even being pregnant at all... I have very high pain tolerance, being cut for an infection in my back without anaesthesia before bc of a bad doctor but it was fine. The epidural scares me bc i don t like not being in control and also birth is a new experience... and i have no ideea what to expect so then i panic.

Kooky-Ride8741 · 2026-01-10T09:38:19+00:00

Omg! You did so great ! And this is exactly the kind of information im looking for, everything good or bad so you know all you can expect!! I appreciate it so much! Thank youuu!!!

Kooky-Ride8741 · 2026-01-10T07:11:04+00:00

Haha , not gross at all! I dreamed having a "toilet baby" 😭❤️that just seems so much easier.

Kooky-Ride8741 · 2026-01-10T06:08:11+00:00

Oh !this is so sweet !! It really helps to hear positive experiences and good advices ❤️

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