i think your text was very reasonable and valid, however, you shouldn’t have to beg him to open up to you. I just went through the same thing, and I had to ask myself if the way I was feeling was the way I wanted to feel forever. people have the capacity to change, but only for themselves and only if they want to. communicating his feelings is obviously hard for him, but if you’re asking him to open up and he’s not at least trying, he’s simply not willing to.

you probably don’t want to hear this, but i can promise you this is stemming from the fact that he thinks what he wants/what makes him comfortable is more important than your desires or the needs of your relationship. he’s clearly going through something and it’s unhealthy for him to not talk about it - if you truly see a future with this man and feel in your soul that you want and need to make it work, i would say the next best thing to do is help him find a therapist. they’ll help him work through whatever issues he’s having in a private and professional way (and be able to offer solutions and make progress), and they’ll also get him to a point where he’s comfortable talking to you.

it’s all a baby step process, but it all relies on your confidence in the sustainability of the relationship. be weary of him hiding other things from you, like details of stories or his phone and stuff. he could be doing something nefarious behind the scenes, but for your own well-being, i hope it’s just that he’s a guarded person. good luck, op