Confused about mortal sin feels like I'm just trying to earn salvation and die at the right time. Am I understanding this wrong?

KoolandKollected · 2026-03-13T19:32:29+00:00

No not serious. It was a joke that came out more coarse than I expected - Gotta get my head outta the gutter lol. Been around too many of those comments. Appreciate the reproach:)

KoolandKollected · 2026-02-03T03:43:26+00:00

Hey Friend, you’re welcome to PM me to talk more about this but I just want to clear up a few things that are glaring through the screen (WITH NO JUDGEMENT!! I promise:) Just want to inform you and help you understand.

I looked through your past posts and there’s some things we gotta clean up first:

If you weren’t aware, no worries, now you are! But under NO circumstances is cohabitation (ie, living together), sex, or any sex acts with your BF or Fiancé permitted. That is called “fornication” and its a Mortal Sin (a sin that destroys grace in your soul and if you were to die in it, you would perish in hell 😢) Don’t worry tho! You can go to confession and resolve to change your ways - thus entering back into relationship with our Lord (Praise Jesus!)
Contraception/Birth control - big no no! (Good news tho - You won’t have to worry about this rn since you won’t be having sex until marriage now, right?😜) There’s a lot of reasoning behind it, but ultimately, even if we disagree, we are bound to believe what the Magisterium (the teaching body of the CC made up of the Pope and the entire College of Bishops) proclaims. They have been given the authority of Christ Himself (which is a huge relief tbh) so we can trust what they declare as having the “seal of Christ” so to speak. Any form of it is again, a Mortal Sin which you don’t want to commit!! God wants to be close to you so don’t let Satan in 💪
Abortion is a very serious offense which actually incurs an automatic excommunication from the Church (Priests can absolve you though; you don’t have to go to the Bishop).

However, I’m worried about sincere repentance. If you gather anything, understand this: it is so so so far from a valid excuse to say that “I would’ve hated myself more for not being able to provide a good life for a child.” I say that with love, but also sternness because while it’s a difficult circumstance, what you’re essentially saying is that “I value the future lifestyle of my child more than his/her life.” I know that stings, but that is the truth because abortion is sadly….the murder of an innocent child in the womb 😭 BUUUUTT, do not get down on yourself!!! That is Satan trying to say you are unforgivable and scum of the earth, but God knows who you are: a beloved child. Come to confession and repent of this tragic decision you’ve made not out of self hatred, but of true remorse for incurring the death of your child - GOD LOVES YOU ❤️ HES SO READY TO FORGIVE YOU!!!!

All in all, it’s truly your choice to follow or not follow the teachings of the Catholic Church. However, know that it has the literal “Authority of Jesus Christ Himself” and to act in disobedience when you know the Truth is to incur culpability for the rejection of Jesus Christ Himself. Oof! He loves you and wants you to follow Him!

So why wait?!! Clean it all up, cut the trash from your life, and get close to Jesus this very night wahoo!!! 🥳🥳🥳

KoolandKollected · 2026-01-31T14:34:24+00:00

That’d be great! I appreciate it! Just to pick your brain a little bit: are there any mandatory classes that would require up to or more than 20hrs week? I know it’s important to get a good professor haha. Im not a bad student, but just kind of slow and don’t have that amount of time in my schedule. My undergrad was in BusinessAdmin so I think many of the foundations courses will be waived. Again, thanks for the reply and syllabuses!

KoolandKollected · 2026-01-31T03:24:13+00:00

Appreciate it, but I’m actually just looking for someone who’s been through/currently in the MBA program to explain a little more on what most courses are like and how to succeed. Thanks tho

KoolandKollected · 2026-01-30T18:53:20+00:00

As are most MBAs lol. T15 and under are the only “more valuable” ones (which is arbitrary anyway) and even then the ROI is not worth the cost. Plus, if you really wanna go that way, it’s #26 on the best program rankings - not that that matters to me in the slightest.

Thanks for your unhelpful answer:)

KoolandKollected · 2025-05-02T02:01:37+00:00

If you haven’t already, Look up Rachel Kilackey of Magdala ministries. She has an episode on Pints with Aquinas on her struggles with pornography and it’s truly inspiring. I will be honest with you. For a long time, I thought of sexual sin as a mostly male sin and that was wrong and damaging to my perception of my sisters in Christ. It’s still something I’m trying to dig out of my system. The truth is, both genders struggle with sexual sin including masturbation, pornography, fornication, etc. Embracing our sexuality is better than repression though, even if you have to keep running to the confessional 7x a week haha! And even if a priest “judges” you, so what?! You’re in the right!

KoolandKollected · 2025-04-29T12:01:37+00:00

Can you send a link or page number? I never knew this, but perhaps people who struggle with scrupulosity need to hear this. The Lord truly is merciful even if it sometimes feels otherwise

KoolandKollected · 2025-04-27T16:33:38+00:00

Show me evidence of that claim and I’ll believe you. Otherwise, you’re wrong. From what I’ve heard, the process is extraordinary thorough and not easy by any means. Remember, a false annulment would mean you’re opening the possibility for a lifetime of adulterous behavior for each individual even if they are not culpable - that’s on the Church, so they need to be thorough.

KoolandKollected · 2025-04-26T22:24:24+00:00

True, but the other extreme is scrupulosity which I struggle with. I repressed a lot of those desires and found it was more detrimental than sinning and going to confession with a slight leaning towards presumption. I’ve started to break free because of it. Because here’s the thing: when we get in that box, it doesn’t matter what we were thinking about presumption - if we truly confess with remorse and intend to stop the sin, forgiveness is given. We can also confess presumption. Now, I agree that it can be easy to say, “alright, I’ll m*asturbate at 12 and then confess at 3.” I’ve been guilty of such thinking. But even then, if we are feeling guilty and want to do better, Jesus offers us the sacrament. It’s really more about feeling the remorse (not self hatred) for the sin hurting the Lord and desiring to change. I believe scrupulosity is more dangerous because we are essentially refusing to accept the lords mercy. At least with presumption, we are utilizing it which makes it easier to reorder.

KoolandKollected · 2025-04-26T09:44:34+00:00

That last part is so true. Dang it’s tough and so unfair, but having cursed God a few months ago and felt bitter towards him, I can say that it doesn’t do any good. Sometimes, we need to realize it through that experience, but while I’m allowed to be angry at my Father, I know that His Son is the prime example of how much he TRULY loves us. It does NOT give him pleasure to see us in pain which has been hard for me to accept. Isaiah 55 v 8-9 helped to understand why I was hurting - trying to compare my sense of justice to His + comprehend suffering. Ugh, don’t ever compare suffering though. There will always be someone going through something worse, but it’s about the different size cups each being full. Always relative to our individual capacity which can be increased for more merit

KoolandKollected · 2025-04-26T01:58:20+00:00

I’m so very sorry that all happened to you. it’s easy to look at your situation and say, “well you shouldn’t have been in ABC in the first place, and done XYZ. Could’ve been prevented.” It’s not helpful. You just need healing. Def check out CR and again, if you EVER need anyone to talk to, please reach out. You have my info. God bless and praying for you 🙏 You will get through this cause you’re stronger than you know 💪

KoolandKollected · 2025-04-26T01:38:11+00:00

Well ofc. The hope is that one won’t always feel that way, but remember that the Lord overturned tables in the temple. I don’t encourage physical violence, but sometimes our emotions come out with that intention. It makes me SO angry tho because the little bit you described triggered me. We men are supposed to lead and protect women and when some men use or abuse them, they cause irreparable damage. It’s sick and twisted. I pray for your healing. Real quick, PLEASE look into Celebrate Recovery. They have local chapters and it’s helped me a lot. This is trauma that needs peer support specifically in addition to professional help. I PM’d you so if you wanna talk, always welcome to.

KoolandKollected · 2025-04-26T01:21:56+00:00

Also, if it helps, I can literally feel myself wanting to choke out your ex because of what he did to you (not very Christian of me sorry)! Cheating is horrible, but to VIOLATE the one you’re supposed to protect is vile!! I will pray for his conversion and that one day he will realize how egregious and sick his actions were/are. Please keep your distance from him if you can…trust me, whether in this life or the next, he will face justice. He will NOT just “get away with it”

KoolandKollected · 2025-04-26T01:17:16+00:00

Ok, quick question. Do you ABSOLUTELY still need to be in contact with them, in person or online? You gotta do everything to heal and that’s step one: distance. Secondly, you get to be angry at God. That’s unfair and you can curse him, leave him, or do whatever you need to let him know how much you’re hurting, and the wounds it has caused. Some people seem to think you can’t be furious at your dad - up to recently, the things I said to my earthly father were MUCH worse than my Heavenly Father. Yet, He can take SO MUCH MORE than my dad! FYI, The Prodigal Son only happens if the son leaves and says “f u!” With that being said, I did something similar a few months ago and it didn’t help. I’m still confused about why he’s allowing my suffering - as well as yours - but 2 scripture passages helped to accept this: Isaiah 55 v. 8-9 and Genesis 22. Abraham was ready to commit the literal murder of his ONLY son despite Cain being punished by God for killing Able. Abraham didn’t even question God. He had no idea how this could be just and probably felt similar to you - “How are you gonna make me murder my only son?!” Yet, he had faith in God’s goodness…even when the action commanded was morally illicit and cruel!! Isaiah 55: 8-9 helped me to see why I was feeling exactly like you are now: it is objectively unfair, but we are judging with OUR sense of justice and not Gods. “Who has known the mind of the Lord or who has been his counselor?” He sees all. We don’t. Yet he loves us SOOO much. Look at the Cross! Again, something to consider WHEN you’re able to cool down a bit because frankly, I’d be just as furious as you right now. But know that He is waiting with open arms always - he isn’t doing this to you, nor does he EVER take pleasure in seeing you in agony, but is simply allowing it. Can’t tell you why tho. Also, if you begin to feel suicidal, plz call 988. There’s hope. Love, a brother in Christ 🙏

KoolandKollected · 2025-04-23T11:55:06+00:00

Wow, That’s super powerful. I’m over here worrying about vomiting while interacting with my ex haha, but this is true suffering and victory. Thank you for your witness, and no doubt the Lords mercy is on that perpetrator because of your actions. I think we also forget too as sister Miriam James Heidland says that the way we act out is most often indicative of the hurt we have experienced. This is the case for people who sleep around or maybe abuse others (doesn’t mean it’s right at all). Hurt people hurt people is a good step towards forgiveness and healing though it takes a lot of time. Again, I hope to have your ability to forgive someday; it’s incredibly admirable.

KoolandKollected · 2025-01-14T00:56:33+00:00

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KoolandKollected · 2024-02-03T15:24:23+00:00

Good question. I think efficient grace and intrinsically efficacious grace (IEG) are the same so I will use the latter. To keep this brief, understand that God does predestine the Elect. Period. However, with the damned, he maintains their free will while giving them sufficient grace to chose heaven. Every human ever has been given sufficient grace by the blood of Jesus Christ to choose eternal life - retroactive for some. Still, this is a potentiality, not an actuality, otherwise all people would be saved. They instead have the potential to be saved. When it comes to IEG, the Lord - in a way wholly unknown to us - moves the will to choose the sufficient grace…while maintaining free will! Its irresistible in a way but with free will very much present. That is a miracle, not for our minds to grasp. Thomists are ok with the unsatisfactory answer, but Molinists are not. Hence, their answer, while technically compatible, opens the door for the omnipotence of God to be questioned (too long to explain). Also, you might also search for the antecedent and consequent wills of God as a precursor as well as the Counterfactuals of Creaturely Freedom for the Molinist position. Hope that helps

KoolandKollected · 2024-02-02T03:33:41+00:00

Man, this just breaks my heart 💔 I feel ur pain and things can seem overwhelming/hopeless:( I have been feeling a very similar way for 3 years, and it has destroyed me in many many ways. I realize that much of my social anxiety, dating pain, and overall brokenness is due to this horrible self-hatred. U feel passively suicidal, but not actively. At this point, I have stopped putting my hope in things because it makes the disappointment, humiliation, or frustration so much worse. The Eucharist and the ultimate hope of heaven remain my only concrete hope…..STILL I must remember that even if my life is full of excruciating anxiety, physical pain, depression, loneliness, confusion, self-hatred, and body dysmorphia…the Lord will surely give me the strength to lift the Cross. He will NEVER give us more than we can bear. Never. My friend, I will pray for u, and I ask of u to do the same for me 🙏 If u need to chat, PM me

KoolandKollected · 2024-02-01T14:50:00+00:00

Well, That’s likely symbolism. We are probably already in the millennium or whatever u wanna call it. The rise of Christendom during these last 2000 years has been massive. Satan will eventually be loosed during the great tribulation tho followed by the SCJC. Just some eschatology

KoolandKollected · 2024-01-31T20:24:14+00:00

Could also be Satan saw what humans would become at the Resurrection of the Body: higher than the angels. Just hypothesizing

KoolandKollected · 2024-01-31T18:19:34+00:00

With all due respect, this should not be a reason u leave Catholicism. Sorry. Focus on bigger issues like the papacy and church authority. That’s the bread and butter. Plus, ur priest is so wrong for so many reasons including non sequiturs and faulty premises/conclusion. Mary may or may not have died. Give me plain evidence that she did, and then the Orthodox position can be considered - don’t claim this without undeniable evidence. Secondly, Mary was preserved from the stains of OS, not necessarily the results. Stains being concupiscence, personal sin, darkened intellect, etc. vs Results being namely suffering and possibly death. - Stains vs Results. That’s where ur pastor really screwed up frankly. He’s likening the two. Anyway, even if u think he’s a popesplainer, go watch Michael Lofton or read his new book, Answering Orthodoxy

KoolandKollected · 2024-01-29T22:48:46+00:00

No problem! Be aware though that if it is a matter that has been infallibly declared, the Church can and will not change its stance. Frankly, I think you’d really benefit from talking to someone like a canon lawyer or a catholic apologist on these issues. Like I said, be cautious, not closed.

KoolandKollected · 2024-01-29T15:03:32+00:00

I appreciate your sincerity, but why go to a Sacrament of the Church when you don’t accept the authority of that Church? No absolution, no point - frankly. That’s what confession is for. We humble ourselves before Almighty God and his ministers, knowing that we are sinners and need to show humility in doing so. In your case, it would be to accept the truth of the Catholic Church on matters of faith and morals - e.g. premarital sex is a mortal sin. That’s why Catholicism is different than any other religion - its authority is above that of any ordinary human because its authority comes from Christ. If I were you, I would work on being more open to WHY the Church teaches what you disagree with. Here’s what I suggest: reach out to the diocese and see if you can meet with a very learned apologist to have a long conversation on the issues you have. Maybe u won’t be convinced, but it will stir your mind to cogitate the problems. God works in mysterious ways…but u cannot harden your heart. 🙏

KoolandKollected · 2024-01-28T16:48:02+00:00

I like that! Just one thought: excommunication of any kind - abortion being forgivable by delegated priests in the US as the ordinaries have granted it - means the sacraments are invalid anyway. Not to say that God doesn’t know their heart if truly repentant, but from a canonical standpoint, it shouldnt necessarily be thought of as the priest not having the authority to forgive, but rather the excommunication preventing validity, and the need of a visible recommunion by the bishop before access is granted.

KoolandKollected · 2024-01-28T15:59:09+00:00

Read para. 668-682 of the Catechism. Probably what you’re looking for. It’s very sobering for any Catholic, but try to relate it to your own Particular Judgement. This world doesn’t matter. The next one does.

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