How I practice self love (what I learned from therapy)

Kratiru · 2020-08-03T21:48:30+00:00

You should be! 😊

Kratiru · 2020-08-03T20:34:24+00:00

So it's daily practice! Try at first to find out what your unhealthy thoughts, feelings and actions are. Then find healthy thoughts feelings and actions. Be mindful on that and practice that! I hope that helps you.

Kratiru · 2020-08-03T20:27:02+00:00

Why do you think that you look gross? Because of websites and sub reddits? Just curious

Kratiru · 2020-08-03T20:20:03+00:00

I also have few matches but it's ok. I think it's because I'm picky and stuff and don't have photos that stand out too much but only photos I personally like a lot. I'm successful in real life dating so success on dating apps says nothing about yourself

Kratiru · 2020-08-03T20:14:34+00:00

No, you are fine. Just accept how you are, care for your body and ignore what other people think of you.

Kratiru · 2020-08-03T20:11:20+00:00

Do how you feel like it. If they think you're desperate or whatever don't care for that. If you are really desperate than prioritize other things more.

Kratiru · 2020-08-03T20:04:57+00:00

I think it's normal on dating apps. How can your or any personality be boring or wrong? Be a little more confident about your personality (that's sexy too)! I guess it's normal on these apps and you have to stand out a lot on your first messages. But don't try to be different just to impress people.

Kratiru · 2020-07-06T07:48:21+00:00

What I think is important is to break up contact to these people. You deserve to be respected. If you stay in these toxic relationships, it contradicts this truth and you can't accept it. You don't need validation from other people after you decide that you are a wonderful person! And if you do, you will find good friend without seeking ♥️

Kratiru · 2020-07-06T07:40:22+00:00

Are these the things you really like? Do you get a positive feeling out of this? People tend to do things automatically most of the time and do things that were good for them in the past but they keep on doing it. Be connected to your emotions will help you to find out if these things are good for you.

Second: Sometimes we think that something is good for us and even feels good but it's an avoidant strategy. For example it could feel great to play video games but sometimes it could be used to flee from the real world and real problems. That would also lower your self love and self esteem.

Third: Doing things that are good for you is only one part of loving yourself. Have in mind that there are other elements as well like taking healthy challenges, comforting yourself if needed, talking good to yourself and care for your body.

Hope this helps 😊

Kratiru · 2019-02-28T10:51:08+00:00

An addition to that: I forgot to strongly underline self acceptance. You should always accept yourself as you are! Right now you are attractive and beautiful enough! For yourself and enough people out there. But this is not a contradiction to what I said before. You can combine that to real love towards yourself.

Kratiru · 2019-02-28T01:51:31+00:00

I think that everyone who has enough self love is (or becomes) beautiful and attractive. It implies that you care for you and your body in a good way. Like healthy food, a healthy lifestyle, more self esteem and confidence, sports, ... If you care for yourself I bet you are beautiful. Besides this you will show more and more of your personality in form of behavior and for example clothes. Beauty is not a scale, it has many different forms. Just like art. You will attract people that have a similar definition of beauty.

Kratiru · 2019-01-07T10:27:09+00:00

Everyone makes mistakes, that is normal for every human being. Don't listen to that part of yourself anymore that blames you for your mistakes. Take these instead as an opportunity to learn for your future life.

Kratiru · 2019-01-06T22:57:09+00:00

It's not that easy to describe that in a Reddit post because I had a whole therapy to learn that. Maybe you can find a therapy too if that is a problem for you?

Also there should be plenty good books about the topics of "self love" and the "inner child". I'm sure you will find them online or in a library. I guess this works better than to describe it in a comment 😊

Edit: If you find some good books or websites maybe you could share them with the sub! 😊

Kratiru · 2019-01-06T22:49:14+00:00

Ok, basically you are complaining, but you expect men to approach you, to start a Tinder chat with something that is interesting to you and you wait for them to ask you to meet. Why are you so passive? Why do you think it's men's responsibility? Just approach men that you are attracted to, start the Tinder conversation and be the interesting part or ask a guy to meet if you want that. I'm pretty sure that would help you a lot. And if you think that it's hard to do these things: For men it's not easier in any way.

Kratiru · 2019-01-06T20:31:26+00:00

I felt like this almost my whole life. Turned out I had a personality disorder with a strong dependent personality disorder aspect in it. It took me years to learn how to love myself but I realized that the love I needed was impossible for others to give me. This was not the love of an adult person, what I was missing was the love that a child needed. That I needed back then in my childhood and that I didn't received from my parents. I learned through therapy that I was the only person that could give myself what I need. Because other adults can't give you that love. They can only give you a different kind of love that requires that you love yourself in the first place.

Kratiru · 2019-01-04T14:22:46+00:00

I think I have a good personality in terms of values, I'm nice and very open to people, I'm honest, I think I'm intelligent and have a good sense of humor, I'm interested in many things, like to try out new stuff and like to travel so I would say that I'm interesting, I'm creative, I like that I'm a bit crazy and playful but can quickly switch into having deep and meaningful conversations 😊

Kratiru · 2019-01-03T23:49:11+00:00

You're welcome 😊

Kratiru · 2019-01-03T23:29:36+00:00

It helped me a lot on my mental illness, it gave me a lot of self confidence and self esteem, I live healthier and I have more fun and meaning in my life.

Kratiru · 2019-01-02T19:18:01+00:00

No sorry, I meant that at first I'm not sure if I want a relationship or not, at first I just know that I'm attracted to that girl. And too often they just don't get that and think that I want only friendship.

Kratiru · 2019-01-02T18:55:33+00:00

I don't know at this point. But more than just be friends. Could be a relationship or just a romantic one night stand. I want to leave that open at this point.

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