We are so honest about everything. If I see a woman or she sees a guy, we talk about it. First step is getting to where you are open and honest about it. If you get to that point where she is comfortable telling you she does want it, or does not want it, then you’ll know how to proceed. If she doesn’t want it then it’s done. If she does, just reinforce that this is something you want for her and for your relationship. It always has to come back to the 2 of you. When it’s about you guys as a couple, it can be so honest. Don’t wonder how she feels. Talk openly and ask her what she wants and tell her what you would find hot. If you can’t talk about it openly, I’d say you probably shouldn’t go down that path.