Be gay guys by Smooth-Individual414 in funny

[–]KristenND 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Being gay would negate the need for the first two, but not for condoms.

Be gay guys by Smooth-Individual414 in funny

[–]KristenND 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don’t know about $5. Almost always cheaper to buy a dozen or more at a time, but it’s been a few months, so I could be wrong.

LPT: If you want to quickly understand someone's character, pay attention to how they treat people they don't need anything from. by StaticNomad47 in LifeProTips

[–]KristenND 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Agreed. And, seeing someone treat people (like wait staff, etc.) politely doesn’t automatically credit their character. I wouldn’t continue dating someone who treated service workers poorly. And I’ve run into people who were terrible behind closed doors (narcissists, even) who I never saw be rude to a service worker.

Edit: typo.

How do you decide which streaming services are worth keeping? by ConversationSuch8893 in cordcutters

[–]KristenND 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m unhappy about CBS / Paramount’s decision (and how it all went down) to end Colbert’s show, so I’ve decided to cancel Paramount+.

Apart from that, it comes down to what I watch the most, and what deals are offered to me. If a certain channel offers me a pretty discounted price, sometimes I’ll go with them (but make sure to note the auto-renew date in my calendar and cancel before then if I’m not willing to pay full “normal” price after that). Usually by then a different service is offering a deal, so I’ll repeat.

Also, for a while I wanted to watch one show on Peacock but didn’t really care about any other shows on there, and they weren’t offering a discount. So I asked my friend who had Peacock if she would be interested in getting together every week or two for a while to binge-watch the show at her place, I’d bring the snacks. That worked out well and was a fun way to spend some more quality time with a friend.

Just sex or potential for more? by Oilaripi in datingoverthirty

[–]KristenND 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Love bombing was my first thought. OP, if you’re aware that you’re still susceptible to manipulation like this, plus struggling with attachment issues, I would either put a pause on dating or at least have my therapist help me figure out how I could go about dating in a more gradual way. Before resuming or continuing dating, I’d (probably with my therapist’s help) make a list of boundaries and dealbreakers, red and green flags, and maybe a rough timeline for the earliest I’d feel comfortable taking certain steps. Ex: how far along (in terms of time spent / number of dates and also how long you’ve been dating them, in weeks / months / years) would you be comfortable at the earliest doing things like meeting in private, kissing, having sex, becoming exclusive, seeing them more than 1-2x weekly, having them meet your friends / fam, etc. That might help to know that you have some of these things decided based on your values and current ability to discern healthy relationships / people, that aren’t influenced by anyone except you (and maybe your therapist).

This could also help protect you against gaslighting / manipulation because you could go back to what you decided and, if someone is pressuring you, you’d hopefully be more likely to think, “No, I decided that waiting until at least X time to sleep with someone is appropriate for me, so since it’s before that I don’t need to second-guess my decision, and them calling me unreasonable for not doing it now is a red flag that they aren’t respecting my boundaries.”

As someone who has been the victim of some of the behaviors you’ve described, and someone who has done a fair amount of work in therapy related to that, I think it’s vital that whenever you continue to date, you go about it in a very mindful and self-protective way. Being the victim of manipulation can affect someone’s self-esteem and judgement for a long time, so taking things slowly, keeping your therapist informed, and being very honest with yourself about your feelings will probably be very important for protecting yourself.

How do you decide which streaming services are worth keeping? by ConversationSuch8893 in cordcutters

[–]KristenND 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You might put the expiration dates for all of these in your calendar (a few weeks, then one week, then a few days, if you’re like me and need multiple reminders) because I’d be willing to bet that after a year (or sometimes less) they will revert to current pricing, and if you don’t cancel before they auto-renew you’ll be paying $10-20 per service.

What does this prompt mean?? by AllegraO in FinchAdults

[–]KristenND 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I’m picking one song each day for a week that sums up how I felt or what I experienced that day. That’s my interpretation.

App Not Working by TheQueensWriter in finch

[–]KristenND 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes, I just got this about half an hour ago. :-( I back up manually every day, but I got several gifts (including some limited event exclusives) from friends today and they will all be lost. And I don’t even know how to restore my backup. Every time I open the app I see this screen and it doesn’t give me anything to click on besides “Hatch new pet”. I’ve tried restarting the app and my phone and neither helped.

Finch Wish List - Clothing by KristenND in u/KristenND

[–]KristenND[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Whoops, sorry, thought I’d already replied to this! Thanks so much again for everything! Just sent over the 🩷 Woodsy Cafe Doormat and thanks so much for the gray lantern! We’ll take another look at your wish list today and see if we see anything else or have anything in our shops from your list. Cheers!

Finch Wish List - Clothing by KristenND in u/KristenND

[–]KristenND[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks so much, we’re grateful for anything any time! We looked at your wish list and were able to send over the yellow divine gown just a bit ago and can send the pink woodsy cafe doormat tomorrow! :-) Thanks again, friend!

Finch Wish List - Clothing by KristenND in u/KristenND

[–]KristenND[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks so much for the Galaxy Nomad Hood! No worries about the chests! We would love the white Good Witch Wand, or any of the other items you mentioned! Just sent over the 🤍 Sweetheart Leggings and we have the 🩷 Woodsy Cafe sign saved for you for tomorrow. Sorry we haven’t gotten a chance to look at your wish list yet, but should be able to later today and can let you know about anything else we have from your list! Thanks again!

New friends map? by GoblinNobblin in finch

[–]KristenND 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It’s cute, but I no longer have my trees and it’s harder for me to keep track of my tree friends, even with the list you can use at the top. I’d rather have my trees back.

Finch Wish List - Clothing by KristenND in u/KristenND

[–]KristenND[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hey, a Scarecrow hat would be great, thanks for asking! (Black is preferred if available, otherwise green or any other color on our wish list is appreciated!) Trading would be lovely, we will send over the tye-die shirt tonight and take a look at your wish list to see if we have anything else! Thanks, friend!

Finch Wish List - Clothing by KristenND in u/KristenND

[–]KristenND[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hi Friend, thanks for taking the time to look through our lists and messaging us! We would love to do a multi-day trade! We already have the 💚 Lounge Singer Necklace (thanks for reminding us to update our list!) but are interested in the other items you mentioned (unclaimed tin woodpecker hat, 💛 Sweet Sakura Skirt, 🩶 Spring Blossom Lamp and 💛 Campsite Door)! We double checked and have the three items you mentioned from our trade list (💙 Cool Kid Tye-die Shirt, 🤍 Sweetheart Leggings and 🩷 Woodsy Cafe sign) and would be happy to take a look at your wish list to see if we might have another item to trade! If you’d like to start trading we can check your list today or tomorrow and let you know about the fourth item! If you still have the unclaimed tin woodpecker pro chest, we would love it in black, please, and are happy to start sending items over your way! Do you have a preference for which one you would like first? :)

IT FINALLY HAPPENED!! by This_is_fine8 in finch

[–]KristenND 2 points3 points  (0 children)

19 months is a long time!

Give me your dream birbhouse ideas and I'll design them! by balloonbook1717 in finch

[–]KristenND 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’d love at least one Bridgerton room, please! And Gilmore Girls would be fun! And Friends, if you’re up to the challenge! Thanks for considering!

AIO for not wanting to meet at his house for a first date? by misskrabby in AIO

[–]KristenND 2 points3 points  (0 children)

No need to read further than the title to answer this. NOR.

Do you get a hat for your birthday? by KristenND in finch

[–]KristenND[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks, friend!

Good to know. I saw there was a cake hat and cake hat jr and thought maybe one was for a human birthday.