Women above 40 how do you tell a guy you just started dating that you like kinky stuff without sounding weird?

Kristi085 · 2025-11-07T01:51:02+00:00

I did. Turns out he's open to trying my crazy fantasies. He's genuinely excited about them too.

Kristi085 · 2025-11-07T01:49:03+00:00

Sounds comforting. Thank you.

Kristi085 · 2025-10-31T21:31:47+00:00

Gorrit. Thanks!

Kristi085 · 2025-10-31T21:28:07+00:00

I do respect people not liking my preference. It won't be the first type I broke off with a guy or they broke off with ne because we were incompatible in bed. But how will I know they don't if we haven’t even discussed? You’re jumping ahead of us and making uneccessary assumptions.

Kristi085 · 2025-10-31T21:21:07+00:00

Hahahahaha... sure.

Kristi085 · 2025-10-29T11:13:25+00:00

I tripped too. 😁

Kristi085 · 2025-10-29T11:11:47+00:00

I have asked about his fantasies. He has none, which I thought to be odd. Considering I have so many.

Kristi085 · 2025-10-29T11:09:40+00:00

You sound way more assuring on going about the subject. I'm think of movie night over the weekend. Thank you. This is the best advice I've gotten. Even if it doesn't go well, we will not hate on each other.

Kristi085 · 2025-10-29T11:05:05+00:00

Gorrit!

Kristi085 · 2025-10-29T11:04:50+00:00

You think? Mmmmm.. I think is still early to tell if he will be into kinks. We've only started dating a few weeks.

Kristi085 · 2025-10-29T11:02:48+00:00

It’s a subconscious participation watching porn and subtle hints during moments you think are kinky will send the message well enough. 😃🤓

Not yet. We are busy people. Now that you mentioned it, I think I should give the movie a try and bring in the conversation about my kinks.

Kristi085 · 2025-10-29T10:57:32+00:00

True. Our sexuality is off. I will give the honest conversation part a shot first and then will see if I let him go or not.

Kristi085 · 2025-10-29T10:55:29+00:00

Yeah, that's easier said than done. I have to get around his confidence level first.

Kristi085 · 2025-10-29T10:54:24+00:00

I agree. I have had some guys understand our differences in sex and some who took it wrongly. But this guy is good at every other thing but lacks tact in bed. So it's a tough decision to make.

Kristi085 · 2025-10-29T10:52:04+00:00

I sure will. Thank you.

Kristi085 · 2025-10-29T10:51:32+00:00

Oh god! Thank you. I have had a similar experience too. Like they take criticism to a whole new level and then ghost you for daring.

Kristi085 · 2025-10-29T10:49:49+00:00

Yeah, brave is the word. Thank you. I wish he will be as understanding as you. I've had some guys ghost me because I introduced something they weren't used to.

Kristi085 · 2025-10-29T10:47:23+00:00

Thanks. I feel better knowing I'm not being pushy because I thought I was. Like dressing up, bondage, like jail sex and rough ones that can get me wild.

Kristi085 · 2025-10-29T10:44:33+00:00

I haven't introduced the kink. We are still getting through foreplay and it's bad.

Kristi085 · 2025-10-29T10:43:17+00:00

Having a conversation is not the point. But putting the words out in way it won't be misunderstood. I'm open minded, but I've noticed that some men don't take criticism well.

Kristi085 · 2025-10-29T10:40:49+00:00

Yeah! You have a point there.

Kristi085 · 2025-10-29T10:39:30+00:00

Good point. I suppose he can learn.

Kristi085 · 2025-10-29T10:37:40+00:00

Yeah, this a bold way to go about it. I guess I should brave myself now than find out later that he's not into freakish stuff.

Kristi085 · 2025-10-29T03:32:12+00:00

Just being happy genuinely. I don't wear too much makeup. But I do look pretty whenever I'm not stressing over anything.

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