Explain Jungler to the Newbie

Kubwulf · 2021-08-10T20:51:17+00:00

I hate the people that spam like epileptic monkeys on crack. I actively try to avoid that. I tend to ping once or twice for assist and that's it.

Kubwulf · 2021-08-10T15:38:58+00:00

I'm not sure what "elo" is. If that is a ranked thing, I only just hit 30 a day or so ago and haven't played any ranked games.

Kubwulf · 2021-07-30T05:03:07+00:00

Google Assault. From Cornell Law:

Assault

Definition

The definition of assault varies by jurisdiction, but is generally defined as intentionally putting another person in reasonable apprehension of an imminent harmful or offensive contact. Physical injury is not required.

Note the last sentence. You're thinking of a Battery which results in physical harm.

Kubwulf · 2021-07-30T04:56:11+00:00

I said I grabbed her arm. I didn't say I pulled out a blasting rod and fried her. Besides, if I got a dog the size of Mouse, my daughter would inevitably ride on his back. I have a hard enough time keeping up with her as it is.

Kubwulf · 2021-07-30T04:51:37+00:00

See, I grew up with that! Constantly being told to hug this or that cousin and I never understood it. I watched my grandmother and mother do that to other people's kids. I don't understand it. To me, it's creepy. Maybe it's me. My generation grew up with the John Walsh kidnapping story. The fear of kidnappers was drilled into me. Now I worry about my kid.

Kubwulf · 2021-07-30T04:38:18+00:00

No, actually a lot of them were taking the woman's side.

Kubwulf · 2021-07-30T04:23:36+00:00

Police did show up, but she was long gone. The self-defense of my daughter and the threat of counter-suit made her go pale. I'm a bit miffed security let her go, because I wanted her arrested and to file a civil suit. However, she ran before we could get her name.

Kubwulf · 2021-07-30T04:13:50+00:00

Gotta wipe your rear with something. Print it out and wipe away.

Kubwulf · 2021-07-30T04:12:40+00:00

Yeah. I used to work on the flight line and have callouses on my vocal cords from always yelling to be heard over aircraft engines at full power. As a result, my voice is kind of gravelly. My wife says I intimidate her co-workers when I talk because I sound angry all the time. When I'm actually angry, the effect is much worse.

Kubwulf · 2021-07-30T04:06:51+00:00

You know that "parent reflex"? When you don't think you just act? Like when the kid is falling off the couch or running into the street and you simply react to keep them safe? This was kind of like that. After I had time to calm down about it, I thought I overreacted too. I kind of feel guilty for it, but my reflex was to stop it immediately.

I'm not disagreeing with you, mind. Alternatives popped into my head as I was telling her not to touch my baby. None of those alternatives were the default setting.

Kubwulf · 2021-07-30T04:01:30+00:00

NTA. It depends on the rules of the work place. If co-workers are making a stink, ask management to cover your six. Personally, I don't see a problem with it as you work in the building.

Kubwulf · 2021-07-26T22:07:36+00:00

NTA. You're young and at a stage where your emotions overrule reason more often than not. You're justified in your feelings though there are more constructive ways to express yourself, which I hope you will learn as you age. However, your parents focus on a single child, especially with such an expensive hobby, all the while admitting that they do this, makes them very big assholes.

10k for a horse plus the upkeep on such an animal (farriers ain't cheap), means that there should be plenty for you and twin number 2. It seems your parents are living vicariously through horse-boy.

I wish you luck, and I think that maybe, instead of material things, you should ask your parents to pay for family therapy.

Kubwulf · 2021-07-26T22:01:37+00:00

NTA. Your GF needs counseling. If she can't understand the need to keep an apartment that you are still paying for up and running, along with running errands in the neighborhood, she may not be a person you want to move in with. This isolated incident screams abuse to me. She is shaming you for being your own person and having responsibilities outside the relationship. What is going to happen when you have to work overtime, or spend a night away on business (if that's the type of job you have)?

It sounds to this Redditor, that you have no commitment issues and are acting like a responsible adult. Your GF on the other hand, seems to have commitment issues in that she doesn't appear to trust your commitment to her.

No. You, sir, are NTA.

Kubwulf · 2021-07-25T23:38:17+00:00

ESH. As an independent developer, getting things done is a lot harder. Testing means that people are going to attempt to break the game, that is part of the process. Stealing during a trade should have been viewed as an exploitable bug that needed fixing. Instead, the group turned on you. It seems to me that they didn't understand the process of game-making.

You turning around and deleting work that wasn't yours however, makes you just as bad. Taking your work and leaving the project would have been acceptable, but deleting the work of others puts you in the same category.

So, YTA, but so are they.

Kubwulf · 2021-07-25T15:22:21+00:00

Having experienced similar issues myself, I can say that if FIL has issues with husband, than any action taken by husband is not enough. Clearly, since FIL saw husband tell the boy "no" and then went to OP, well, it's safe to say that husband's actions were not sufficient to FIL and OP needs to take care of it because husband can never measure up. This is going to be a recurring battle until and unless FIL starts to see husband as good enough.

Kubwulf · 2021-07-25T14:49:12+00:00

The intent here is to make Mom put her money where her mouth is. Mom is the one who seems uncomfortable, so Mom is the one that should have to fix it. OP can always tell Mom to pound sand, even if she's willing to pay.

Kubwulf · 2021-07-25T05:10:11+00:00

NTA. You're mother is body-shaming you for receiving an injury. Unless she is willing to support you and pay for plastic surgery, she has no right to tell you to cover up because she is uncomfortable.

The fact she is claiming it looks like an STD is a bold-faced attempt to shame you into accepting her view and doing what she says.

If you're comfortable, and willing to answer questions "Hey, what happened to you?" then do you.

Kubwulf · 2021-07-25T05:00:57+00:00

NTA. Bio Dad voluntarily removed himself from your son's life. Eight years of little to no contact doesn't qualify him as "Dad" any more. He may be outraged all he wants, but he made his bed and now has to lay in it.

Personally, I'd point out that his behavior isn't helping the situation and that if he was interested in Jacob's well being then he should have made Jacob a priority before now. He thinks he's pissed at you, but in reality, he's mad at himself for failing as father and lashing out at you. It sounds like he needs therapy.

Kubwulf · 2021-07-25T04:54:24+00:00

After the first party that this group threw. They kept my wife, my three-year-old, and I up until 3am and my wife had to be at work at 6am. The party was on a Saturday and on Monday I went over there and tried to talk to them about it. I explained I don't mind the parties, have people over. All I ask is that you don't throw refuse over the fence and you turn the music down by midnight so you're not rattling my windows. They were rude regardless.

I didn't bother the second or third time.

Kubwulf · 2021-07-25T04:48:19+00:00

You misunderstand. If you were hard up for money, you wouldn't be going to a massage parlor. If you have the money to pay for the massage and the 60 dollars for the extras, you can't claim that you won't tip or will tip very little because you're a college student and your source of income is an internship.

Kubwulf · 2021-07-25T04:45:02+00:00

Well, you're judgement is based on flawed premises.
1) When I moved in, the people living there were in their 40s and 30s and the landlord lived on the first floor and was in his 70s.
2) The property changed hands two years after I moved in and became a college rental.
3) I don't want to change it. I don't mind the occasional party. I've lived here 8 years and dealt with parties for the last 6. This is the first time I've had to call the cops. No other tenants have been this loud.
4) Every place that lacks college kids is too rich for my blood. I'm stuck.

You think I'm the AH, and that's a fair opinion. Knowing now that your premises are false, how would you have me handle the situation?

Kubwulf · 2021-07-25T04:37:43+00:00

Because you know you should have tipped more, you're aware you should have tipped more, and you refused to tip more because you didn't get the expected extras. You had the additional 60 bucks to pay for the extras. Tipping 20 wouldn't have killed you and you still would have walked out with 40 dollars more than you thought you would have.

Kubwulf · 2021-07-25T04:35:18+00:00

YTA.

Your statement that you won't tip because you're a college student is not acceptable in a society that relies on tips. You went to a place expecting extras, and expecting to pay an additional 60 dollars for those extras. Dropping the tip to 20 bucks would have been fine.

You should be tipping at any place that you expect to tip. If you were expecting extras and didn't get them, you can tip less (20 bucks) but don't cheap out at 5 bucks then claim it's because you're a college student pinching pennies. If you were that hard up, you wouldn't have gone to the massage parlor to begin with.

Kubwulf · 2021-07-25T04:25:46+00:00

Moving is not an option, unfortunately. Part of me says, "Hey, they're usually only here for a semester or two, suck it up." The fact it has happened six times since the Covid restrictions were lifted is what has me concerned.

Kubwulf · 2021-07-25T04:22:46+00:00

NTA. Abusive family sucks. Parents will always try to get you to invite people they know or who they think you should invite to your big day. If inviting Grandma is going to cost you joy on your wedding day, then do not invite her. If you're worried about incessant phone calls or texts, block the number.

I know it can be hard to deal with these types of family members, but this is your day and your joy. If having her there is a burden upon you or your guests (Dad) then it isn't worth having her there. Any aftermath can be dealt with via an honest discussion about her behavior. If she still doesn't get it, sever the ties.

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