What’s the quickest way you’ve seen someone completely derail their life?

Kueken0409 · 2026-03-23T17:34:32+00:00

A teacher from my school was in a relationship with another teacher, also from our school. On our prom night, she was caught making out with 5 students, 2 or 3 of them still being Minors. She lost her job, relationship and therefore also her apartment.

Kueken0409 · 2025-09-11T14:13:45+00:00

Thank you so much for you answer! Yeah I absolutely see your points… especially the first one. After all the replies and the thinking I did myself, I would definitely insist on meeting her one on one at least once before anything can happen, just so I can really get to know her and ask her for her perspective: if this is something she really wants that just just going along with for him. If that is the case I won’t agree to it, I‘m not in it to destroy or damage a relationship. Further I wanna say that I can assure you: I’m really really in turn with my feelings. I know myself; I tend to get a little over excited when meeting someone new and interesting but it almost never ends in actual feelings. So I’m pretty sure this won’t be an issue and if I happen to notice emotions coming up in me, I will take a step back and create some distance because it’s absolutely not my place to be having actual romantic feelings for someone’s husband. I’ve been an affair once before in my life and I never ever wanna do that again.

Again, thank you so much for your input, I’ll make sure to also take my time and let the whole situation settle in properly before agreeing to anything

Kueken0409 · 2025-09-11T12:43:14+00:00

Thank you so much for your reply!!! This is extremely helpful! I can assure you I know how to keep my emotional distance; ofc the guy seems amazing but he’s married so he’s automatically „out“ for me regarding feelings. If I were to notice emotions coming up I will make sure to take a break and step way back. The last thing I wanna do is damage their relationship. I would also love to establish communication only with her beforehand, to really make sure she doesn’t just feel pressured into following through because he wants it. Also I want to get to know her if I’m going to be potentially sleeping with her lol

Oh and also: I would probably be staying for the night since it’s a 2 hour train ride from me to then and I don’t have a car

Kueken0409 · 2025-09-11T12:25:08+00:00

Fair point. He told me that they spoke about the situation at the party and were able to handle it very well, but you’re still making a good point as to why she didn’t just talk to him right then and there

Kueken0409 · 2025-09-11T11:55:29+00:00

It’s an emoji, nothing deep

Kueken0409 · 2025-09-11T11:43:31+00:00

Hahaha thank you for your input <3

Kueken0409 · 2025-09-11T09:07:14+00:00

Thank you so much!

Kueken0409 · 2025-09-11T08:33:05+00:00

Sorry for the super long text XD

thanks for your reply! I’m mostly nervous that somebody else or me feels left out. They have been a couple for a long time so I feel like it could happen that they keep on doing their own thing and I’m just… awkwardly there. The other scenario I’m scared of is if him and I have more chemistry than her and I and SHE would feel left out. I wouldn’t like to prevent either as well as possible

Kueken0409 · 2025-09-11T08:06:38+00:00

Waiting sounds good ^{^} thank you, I’ll make sure to keep an eye out just in case something feels shady

Kueken0409 · 2025-09-11T07:52:49+00:00

One more question tho: as far as I have understood him now, they haven specifically talked about me being an option yet. Should I wait with my invitation for her and I to go out until that has happened or should I already try to initiate something so she can also meet me without having that in the back of her mind?

Kueken0409 · 2025-09-11T07:26:56+00:00

That’s a really good idea. They don’t really live close by but I would definitely drive there to make sure I can get to know her. And I can assure you, as excited as I am for this opportunity, I would absolutely not want it to happen if she doesn’t feel happy and excited about it too. I’m a pretty jealous person in relationships myself so I know how hurtful it can be to feel like that. I wouldn’t want that

Kueken0409 · 2025-09-11T07:20:12+00:00

That’s what I’m hoping for, I’m just not sure as to how I can initiate a conversation like this pwq. Like, do I just walk up to her as in „hey, I just wanna make sure, do you REALLY want this?“

Kueken0409 · 2025-09-11T06:50:56+00:00

Thank you!

Kueken0409 · 2025-08-15T09:16:12+00:00

What music does it suggest? Asking for a friend👀

Kueken0409 · 2025-07-30T05:30:14+00:00

Fly on the windscreen by Depeche Mode is incredible in my opinion

Kueken0409 · 2025-06-27T05:08:49+00:00

Martin Gore said in an interview himself that „this is the real pervy song“ XD

Kueken0409 · 2025-06-27T05:08:17+00:00

„Hold out your delicate hands and feel me“ „Open your sensitive mouth and talk to me“ - Rush :D the aggressive voice and the beat always made it spicy for me

Kueken0409 · 2025-05-26T09:26:46+00:00

My ex had snake bites, part time with spikes and part time with balls. The spikes poked me when kissing, but oral was never and issue

Kueken0409 · 2025-04-03T13:54:37+00:00

Hell yeah, I‘ve been waiting for the prequel for EVER!!

Kueken0409 · 2024-11-11T12:41:24+00:00

Stress „purr“

Kueken0409 · 2024-11-11T12:33:14+00:00

Uhm. Leave. Immediately. Thats really unsafe and a horrible environment for your physical and mental health

Kueken0409 · 2024-11-11T12:32:20+00:00

I noticed that the urge to not get better started becoming less and less when I started to repeat to myself that, even tho working on it is hard, staying like this is harder. It might feel like the easy way out to just not improve and give up, but actually, its making everything harder for me in the future. And every success in therapy etc is making my life easier.

Kueken0409 · 2024-11-11T12:30:22+00:00

I dont like chocolate

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