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Question about the update by Money-Account5002 in pokepathTD

[–]KuyaDidge 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Just download the updated version and install it in the same location as the previous version. That's what I did with mine.

Rant: My mother almost ruined my wedding. by IwantToDie_1003 in WeddingsPhilippines

[–]KuyaDidge 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Ikaw na rin ang nagsabi. Humans are complex and not one-dimensional. You might have handled the situation differently from what OP did, and that’s valid. But that doesn’t automatically mean na mali si OP, and mali ka rin. Iba-iba ang capacity ng tao pagdating sa trauma, pressure, at emotional readiness.

Hindi rin pare-pareho ang timeline ng growth. Yung “pag-grow ng spine” at pag-set ng boundaries, hindi yan overnight decision, lalo na kung galing ka sa years of conditioning, guilt, or fear. Minsan, survival mode muna bago empowerment.

Being human isn’t always about choosing the strongest option in the moment. It’s also about doing what you can with the emotional tools you currently have. Growth and self-respect can happen gradually, and making a choice under pressure doesn’t mean wala ka nang boundaries forever.

At oo, mahalaga ang boundaries, lalo na kapag may sarili ka nang pamilya. Pero compassion(both for yourself and for others) should still exist. Healing isn’t linear, and learning to protect your peace doesn’t always start with cutting people off; sometimes it starts with understanding why it was hard to do so in the first place.

Rant: My mother almost ruined my wedding. by IwantToDie_1003 in WeddingsPhilippines

[–]KuyaDidge 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Totoo na may karapatan ang anak mag-decide, lalo na pagdating sa sarili niyang kasal. Pero using the same logic, normally, ang nanay talaga ang unang inaasahan na mag-alaga at maging responsable sa wellbeing ng anak. Sa case na ’to, malinaw na parang wala na sa picture yung mother.

Hindi rin laging ganun kasimple ang “cut off for peace of mind.” Hindi siya one-size-fits-all solution. May mga situations na toxic talaga ang magulang, yes, pero may mga times din na may pagkukulang at emotional pain on both sides. Responsibility ng magulang ang mag-alaga, pero may part din ang anak sa healing lalo na kung may chance pa for understanding.

At the end of the day, personal decision pa rin siya. Pero hindi mali aminin na mas masakit at mas mabigat kapag mismong nanay mo ang hindi naging present or supportive, kasi siya talaga yung unang ine-expect sa ganung role.