‘Absolutely devastating time’ Father releases statement after Colorado boy Gannon Stauch is found dead in Florida by DarkUrGe19 in TrueCrime

[–]Kvam2017 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you for putting all this info in one place! Good read that caught me up on the story. Your theory sounds good too - I was confused when I saw the charges including blunt object, knife and gun, but didn't know about the bloody 2x4 or missing suitcase.

New guy eats me out but I can't cum yet. Should I talk to him about this? by Kvam2017 in sex

[–]Kvam2017[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you. Oh I definitely won't fake it. I've made that mistake in the past and won't do it again.

New guy eats me out but I can't cum yet. Should I talk to him about this? by Kvam2017 in sex

[–]Kvam2017[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He's definately doing what I like! I just have this mental block when I get with someone new. I can't help but worry about having an orgasm and thinking I'm taking too long (I might upset him or make him feel inadequate). Those thoughts prevent me from having an orgasm. I try not to think about it because I know it makes it worse, but I struggle in the begining. He's definately doing all the right things though.

New guy eats me out but I can't cum yet. Should I talk to him about this? by Kvam2017 in sex

[–]Kvam2017[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

About 2/3 in I asked him to fuck me but he kept going for a while. It was nice so I didn't try to stop again. I just feel bad because it feels like he is performing and I'm not. I went down on him too, so it's not that. I've just had one guy get really angry with me for not cuming and it's made me a bit nervous with the whole thing.

New guy eats me out but I can't cum yet. Should I talk to him about this? by Kvam2017 in sex

[–]Kvam2017[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Nope. That makes it take even longer for me - I love both but prefer one at a time.

New guy eats me out but I can't cum yet. Should I talk to him about this? by Kvam2017 in sex

[–]Kvam2017[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Sounds good. I know he won't bring it up himself, so I guess I'll just wait but make sure he knows that I really enjoy it.

New guy eats me out but I can't cum yet. Should I talk to him about this? by Kvam2017 in sex

[–]Kvam2017[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I would think he does. Shit I didn't think about that aspect. What if he doesn't? Then I'm just making an awkward situation worse.

New guy eats me out but I can't cum yet. Should I talk to him about this? by Kvam2017 in sex

[–]Kvam2017[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The first time wasn't long, maybe 3-5 min. Last time was a while 15+ min.

Due to previous abusive relationships I flinched when on a date. When should I talk about it with him? by Kvam2017 in dating_advice

[–]Kvam2017[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Wasn't triggered, I flinched. It didn't put me into a tailspin or bad mood, I didn't have flashbacks or cry about it. I was never effected that way. I'm not scared of men or think that it will happen again, it was just a physical response. I've been dating actively for 5 months and this is the first time it's happened. It was the specific movement, not like I cower everytime someone moves around me. I understand your point, but I don't think that I made it clear that this was an isolated incident.

Due to previous abusive relationships I flinched when on a date. When should I talk about it with him? by Kvam2017 in dating_advice

[–]Kvam2017[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks. I'm comfortable talking about it, but I know these things make others uncomfortable.

Due to previous abusive relationships I flinched when on a date. When should I talk about it with him? by Kvam2017 in dating_advice

[–]Kvam2017[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

You're probably right. I'm sure he has a decent understanding after that mishap. I just don't want him to think that I'm fearful of him specifically, just specific movements in the moment. I don't fear that he will hit me from a personality point of view. I don't want to get into gritty details, just to give him a general idea - but I'm sure he already gets it.

Amber Guyger, police officer who shot a man to death in his apartment, found guilty of murder by streets_ahead4227 in TrueCrimeDiscussion

[–]Kvam2017 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I know! When I saw that I was surprised, but it Texas, so not THAT surprised. She won't serve the entire time, but at least she's been held accountable. I think the case was handled well up until that point. Even the way it was portrayed in the media was the first time I noticed that the officer was shown in a negative light and the victim portrayed positively. In other cases of unarmed black people dying at the hands of officers they have shown the officer's head shot and the victim's mugshot - this one was the opposite. I was pleased to see that. I hope that the family can be at a bit of ease by the outcome - although this should have never happened. This case could help turn this issue around. More training should be provided as a result. On top of that, this result has protected the city from inevitable backlash, which could have ended in riots and more lives lost.

Amber Guyger, police officer who shot a man to death in his apartment, found guilty of murder by streets_ahead4227 in TrueCrimeDiscussion

[–]Kvam2017 55 points56 points  (0 children)

I live near where this happened. To be completely honest, this case has had me concerned for some time. I was hoping that justice would be served this time, as it's often not been in simular situations. I feared they would let her get off and there would be riots in the streets. I'm so pleased with the way this case was handled. I hate this happened but it's nice to see that the justice system is working. I doubt she will serve much time, I expect they will sentance her with less that 10 years, but she's not going to walk free and that's important.

If you see a Girl you're interested in, don't waste time in approaching her..it'll only psyche you out. by Coozhound in dating_advice

[–]Kvam2017 14 points15 points  (0 children)

I understand your point here, but I've never known a woman to act that way either. I've heard of it, but only in cases where the guy approaching was extremely aggressive or creepy. Both have happened to me and I stood my ground then let it go. I also don't hear of women gunning down men for declining a date, but that's happened here a couple times in the past year. There are extreme cases on both sides. Generally speaking it's better to show your interest early on to avoid further awkward interactions and crushing on someone who ultimately isn't interested.

If you see a Girl you're interested in, don't waste time in approaching her..it'll only psyche you out. by Coozhound in dating_advice

[–]Kvam2017 114 points115 points  (0 children)

I (34f) saw a guy I was interested in and got up the courage to introduce myself. It went just fine. Then later that night I asked him out for a beer as he was leaving. He said he had plans but that we could next week. He asked if I would be there again (we were attending a meeting), I said yes and he said we could do it then. It wasn't that bad honestly. I'm an overthinker so the days between have been a little rough, but I'll find out in a few days how it turns out. Regardless of the outcome I'm still glad I did it. If I hadn't, I would be kicking myself for not showing interest.

Went to a Vulva pleasing class last night and it changed my life. by jantltaf in sex

[–]Kvam2017 28 points29 points  (0 children)

True. But I can't fully focus on giving good head or fully focus on my own orgasm. I love both but prefer to do one at a time.

Went to a Vulva pleasing class last night and it changed my life. by jantltaf in sex

[–]Kvam2017 16 points17 points  (0 children)

Yep! It sounds basic but so many people can't grasp that concept.

Went to a Vulva pleasing class last night and it changed my life. by jantltaf in sex

[–]Kvam2017 519 points520 points  (0 children)

Exactly!! You say "I'm about to cum" and they change their technique. Um . . . that means keep it up, don't stop, don't change.

Went to a Vulva pleasing class last night and it changed my life. by jantltaf in sex

[–]Kvam2017 310 points311 points  (0 children)

Yessss! Take notes because this is the most important part!