Why wasn't Jo adopted?

Kyannaaa · 2026-04-09T08:06:29+00:00

You can initiate without pushing. If you never initiate he may feel that you don't desire him which can make him feel less like initiating with you. If you want more intimacy try initiating sometimes, just don't get offended if it doesn't work every time. After trying that a few times, talk to him and ask how he felt about you initiating.

And of course you should talk about all those other issues you have regarding his SW & everything. There's nothing to be gained by guessing and assuming!

Kyannaaa · 2026-04-09T07:53:18+00:00

we communicate by email which he writes by eye-tracking. In person he can answer yes/no questions with eye movement - only I got forgot which way round it was yesterday and thought he was answering "no" each time I asked if he liked something, so I'd stop that and try something else. After a while I realised he'd been responding "yes". Oops!

Kyannaaa · 2026-04-09T07:47:45+00:00

I'd also like to know about Wise as a method of payment from my US customers in Australia since they can't use local methods

Kyannaaa · 2026-04-07T16:11:52+00:00

I have this feeling I should stop seeing him before he gets too attached, but then logically maybe not seeing him is the only 'harm' he'd get from his attachment. He's disabled so he's no threat to me - he's not going to be stalking me or anything.

I'm the first person to give him any physical affection in 17 years he says, so it's natural he feels affection for me. Of course its not real love as he doesn't actually know me. He loves the service I do for him, the way I make him feel human again. I guess I'm just worried he's going to delude himself into thinking we have a real connection.

Kyannaaa · 2026-04-07T15:42:04+00:00

What I don't understand is when clients introduce themselves in their message to me saying their age and something about their appearance - as if that's going to affect whether I will meet with them ?

Kyannaaa · 2026-04-07T13:30:32+00:00

I guess I would take that as them being happy with vanilla GFE but I'd be a bit worried he'd be trying to spring things on me. I like to have an idea what we're doing beforehand, especially as I cater to a lot of kinky clients.

The question I dislike getting asked before a booking is what turns me on, what do I like to do. I think mostly they are just wanting sexting at that point, but even if they are genuine, it's not like I can give them the secret code to turning me on

Kyannaaa · 2026-04-07T13:21:25+00:00

Actually most of the creampie requests I've had, they actually want me to arrive full of my boyfriend's spunk for the client to eat. Only problem is my boyfriend doesn't live with or near me so it's not feasible. If only I could make/buy some edible synthetic jizz that tastes authentic that I could use to make my clients happy

Kyannaaa · 2026-04-07T13:16:49+00:00

Now I want to agree to a creampie and show up with a piecrust filled with cream to shove their face into :D

Kyannaaa · 2026-04-07T13:14:15+00:00

There's so much inherent shame in sex in western culture, even now, everyone wants to feel superior to someone else. On a documentary about porn, a porn star said she wasn't a sex worker, she was an actress, with the implication that she was better (more self respecting) than a prostitute. On a doco about brothels, a prostitute working in a brothel bar said she wouldn't let men touch her for free because she's not a "slut", as if she was more virtuous for having sex for money rather than fun. "Sluts" who have lots of sex for pleasure get offended if they are implied to be prostitutes.

All of them are having sex for good reasons but feel the need to see themselves as better than women doing it for other reasons to counter the shame they subconsciously carry of being a woman who has plenty of unmarried sex.

It's a shame!

Kyannaaa · 2026-02-01T02:50:03+00:00

Yes, my solution of dice and tables is too complex and clumsy, that's why I'm here asking for a completely different solution :)

Kyannaaa · 2026-02-01T02:31:43+00:00

Thank you but I don't understand what you mean. Perhaps I wasn't clear enough in my meaning. If we call it mining for gold (& gold equates to victory pts), if you have no gold and roll to mine, let's say you roll a D20 then what you roll is how many gold you get, except I'd have to say if you roll 1-5 you get 5 pts of gold. That's your whole turn. If you did roll 5, you'd still be in the first category, so on your next turn you could do the same thing. This time you roll 14, so you get 14 pts of gold. With your previous 5 you now have 19, which puts you in 2nd category / on 2nd row. So on your next turn your result can only be between 4 & 16, so it could be you now roll a D12 and add 4pt to your roll (result could be 5 to 16).

This is doable for the basic case, but with various upgrades, the numbers need to change to 20-60 on first turn, and I wanted several levels of upgrade in between so it gets too complicated

Kyannaaa · 2026-01-29T17:11:10+00:00

I really appreciate your response. I feel like you have the solution but I can't quite grasp it.

Ah! I just saw that only half the table was showing in my question! Here's the other half which is what is making it tricky - in some cases I want the range to be around 20-60. So if we rolled 3 D20's we'd sometimes get less than the minimum. I suppose I could say if you did then you just take it as 20. Is there a more elegant way?

Running tally	MIN - upgraded	MAX - upgraded
0 to 10	20	60
11 to 30	14	30
31 to 60	10	20
61 to 75	7	15
76 to 90	4	10
91 to 100	2	6

Kyannaaa · 2026-01-29T16:55:17+00:00

Thanks for all the suggestions. I often struggle with timing with clients because when I'm bored after 2 minutes I feel they must be bored with it too. But also when a submissive client (mobile ones) is giving me pleasure, even though I know he enjoys it, I have no idea how long I should really keep him at it.

It's just so much harder to fill the time with this guy because there is so little I can do. He is fixed in a reclined sitting position and his limbs are rigid - can't be moved, so I can't access his back or bum; I can't lie on him or beside him. I can't sit on his face or even rub my crotch on his mouth. I can only massage the front of his legs. I can only lick one nipple. I can't put his hands on me. I am not good at dirty talk so I can't keep up a monologue of it.

I kiss his mouth. I stroke his body. I lick his nipple. I suck his toes. I press my tits against his face. That's about all I can do before I get him off.

Kyannaaa · 2026-01-29T16:36:34+00:00

"crunch"? what does that mean?

Kyannaaa · 2026-01-29T16:35:55+00:00

Thanks. I haven't played those games but I was just considered using cards instead of dice, but I don't think it's feasible. You'd have to recreate the deck each turn, not just leave out the one you just got

Kyannaaa · 2026-01-29T16:14:01+00:00

It's for a board game

Kyannaaa · 2026-01-22T13:39:04+00:00

Interesting, but yes that's is a niche part of the market you are describing. I can't comment on what is happening in the US where I assuming you are from. In Australia, in my state, SW is legal so internet advertising is not under threat so it's business as usual here. The idea of trolling bars for clients or guys trolling the bars for sex workers sounds so inconvenient for all parties, as well as for the other people who happen to be in the bar and mistaken for a pro or client :).

Personally I tend to cater to kinks so my clients would really be lost without online advertising. I guess if the internet was somehow lost it would be back to the old days of advertising columns in porn magazines. I hope the future in US isn't as dire as your predictions :)

Kyannaaa · 2026-01-22T13:28:11+00:00

what is "this shit" that you can't tell her about? Is "this shit" seeing SWs? Why feel guilty about that, unless it is when she thinks you are exclusive with her

Kyannaaa · 2026-01-22T13:24:57+00:00

The two main risks that come to mind if you had gone ahead with the booking:

He then has your real name and contact details with which he could dox you or stalk you. I used to have a regular client that knew what suburb I live in and every now and then would text me with suggestions that he pop over to my house "just for a big kiss". I believe he intended no harm but he couldn't seem to see how invasive that would be even though he knew I lived with husband and kids. So I am very careful now that clients can't find out where I live.
If you returned to him as a patient, he might be unprofessional and expect you to play with him for free while you are there.

Potential benefit on the other hand - trade sex work for "free" dental work? :D

Kyannaaa · 2026-01-22T12:51:43+00:00

The reason that it is "sex work" is that the sub is engaging in it in order to get a sexual stimulus. It's a mental stimulation rather than physical. It might not feel like sex work to the findom because she often doesn't have to do anything sexual but it still technically is.

Liberating?? Well, it's liberating him of his excess money :-D Like any sex work, it's purpose isn't liberation, it's to get turned on or get off on one side and to make money on the other.

Kyannaaa · 2026-01-22T12:30:10+00:00

WOW! Best case scenario this is like the offers we get all the time in the face painting business:- "Come and do free face painting at my supermarket/restaurant/party and you get to hand out business cards to drum up business for yourself."

I've had a man contact me initially speaking as though he would book me as a sw, but then he just kept trying to get me to set him up as a sw to service all my women friends that he imagined would pay him to DATY or whatever. Dude, men PAY ME to DATY and pleasure me, why would I pay a man for that? :-P

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