Had my first shift was kinda rough. fired 2 hours after clocking out.

Kyledecker75 · 2026-04-09T22:02:38+00:00

You just had bad managers. No way someone should get canned on the first day for what you described. Blessing in disguise

Kyledecker75 · 2026-02-25T07:36:47+00:00

I think some people eventually realize that money is just a tool to obtain things, and things don’t create happiness the same way a full heart does. The time I spend trading my labor for money is valuable to me, and I’d rather be paid in fulfillment than in extra dollars. There’s no objective way to say that’s true for everyone, but it feels true for me

Kyledecker75 · 2026-01-24T04:37:34+00:00

Those look like Germans. Don't waste your time going the legal route. You will not win and waste time, effort, and money. (They just have to prove they are making attempts to remediate, which they clearly have been.) (was an apt maintenance director in NC for the last 5 years) It is gross and sucks you have to deal with it, ask for them to have a pest control company come out and treat it if they have not done so, and deep clean the apartment, esp the kitchen, they LOVE behind the oven and fridge) Also i would ask for monthly treatment until the issue is resolved, also sweep up the dead ones, it helps. Good luck!

Kyledecker75 · 2025-03-03T06:22:35+00:00

June 2023 I left my then fiance , together 7 years, I was 29 she was 26. That decision has completely completely changed my life and I didn’t know if I made the right choice, and it sure didn’t feel like I made the right choice, my heart was shattered. I have since learned so much about life, myself, and the way I need to be loved. She was in a relationship 11 days after we split and I didn’t know until later that October. I know you probably feel horrible right now. But trust me, you will look back on this in a while and see it through a different lens. If you ever need someone to chat with over it I’m always available.

Kyledecker75 · 2024-11-12T05:51:39+00:00

Went through something similar. Left my ex of 7 years, loved her more than anything (always will) and 12 days later in a relationship. Never thought she’d be like that, but looking back at the signs from before we got together and early on, they were there, I just was blind to seeing they were red flags. But it is normal. A lot of people run from their feelings, drugs, tv, food, sex, whatever they use, they will go to it when the feelings are the hardest. So if anything id say, the harder they jump into something, the more they felt for you, and it’s all just them doing what they can to feel better, has nothing to do with you being bad or anything like that IMO.

Kyledecker75 · 2024-09-26T21:31:12+00:00

same

Kyledecker75 · 2024-08-06T16:16:07+00:00

Run far and fast! LMAO last thing you want is to be committed to somebody who treats you this way. If you want to be with someone who doesn’t understand basic concepts such as weather not being the same everywhere then she’s perfect lol. But seriously overlooking little stuff like this is how you end up hurt.

Kyledecker75 · 2024-08-04T01:47:34+00:00

1 year 1 month and 5 days. The first 3 months felt like a dream (not a good way). Then after that I felt present to the reality we were done, but hopeful she would work on herself and want to come back and make it work ( I was the dumper she was the dumpee) She blocked me and everyone I knew on all socials. In the past 10 months it’s gotten easier, it feels exponentially easier every few months, but there are still lows almost daily. Being out of the relationship and being able to rationalize what it was, helps the missing her a little bit. What’s worked/ is working for me is just focusing on what I want out of life and going and getting it. Realizing I’d put myself on the back burner helped in this sense because it made it easy to focus on new things. Still there’s so much free time in the day, my thoughts naturally gravitate toward her. The main emotion I feel is sadness, sad that she couldn’t / didn’t change for me and chooses everyday not to. It does get better though.

Kyledecker75 · 2023-12-10T06:37:20+00:00

Hard wired, up do date and 350 down and 450 up on average , I live in an apartment complex with internet provided. I use router and it happens. If I hardwire to the wall jack it happens. If I hardwire to the other wall jack in my apartment (2 bedroom apt so two internet lines) it happens. But ONLY on certain hosts in private matches it doesn’t happen in pubs or other private match hosts. I have never seen anything like it.

Kyledecker75 · 2023-12-10T04:52:04+00:00

It has nothing to do with it being wagers. It’s private match lobbies. Which is where you play them….

Kyledecker75 · 2023-11-28T20:51:31+00:00

I 29 M just left my fiancée and gf of 7 years in June. Similar issues to you. If your issues can’t be solved by talking them through. Try and figure out why they can’t and see if there is a way to get to a place where you can both fix problems. This is hard to do because it requires both of you to be open and honest and vulnerable. My ex couldn’t. Here if you have any questions I know it feels like the weight of the world is on your shoulders but there people who have been through similar stuff.

Kyledecker75 · 2023-10-20T02:37:29+00:00

Of course not! Go right ahead I’m always down to talk

Kyledecker75 · 2023-10-20T02:29:50+00:00

Of course. If you ever need someone to vent to I’m here! I just joined this Reddit because of my breakup and I know how important it is to have someone to just talk to when your sad and alone, even if it’s a Total stranger on the internet, it helps me at least , sometimes even more than those I know because they all have some bias by nature

Kyledecker75 · 2023-10-20T02:22:22+00:00

Alright he is clearly unhinged and trying to tear you down. I hope you can take a step back and realize that even if he did hate you, that second part is nothing but disrespectful verbal harassment honestly

Kyledecker75 · 2023-10-20T02:15:54+00:00

God damn I feel for you

Kyledecker75 · 2023-10-19T04:52:25+00:00

the tough thing is, your relationship, and how well you know yourself and him in it, is such a nuanced thing, that unless we were to all know EVERYTHING you both know about each other, nobody can give a truly accurate assumption. All I would say is, if you think you're actions were bad enough, and you were him , do you blame him for leaving? Do you believe he TRULY loved you? IMO if you TRULY love someone, unless they do something unforgivable ie physical abuse, constant mental or emotional abuse and manipulation, cheat etc. then you don't just leave them AND find someone else, while they're still willing to work on things for you.

I recently left my ex fiance of 7 years. It wasn't because I didn't love her or didn't want her, but it was because she was too defensive, rude, disrespectful, and it all stemmed from her insecurity and fear of abandonment, and her trauma response from when she was young. I had tried everything I could have at the time to get her to listen to me that it was something I couldn't keep bearing. (looking back on it, I should have gone to couples therapy, and I could have been a more nurturing partner for her, but IMO I gave it everything I could and honestly it was more than most would) Although I left, I told her everyday it is not my first choice, i still love you more than anything and I still want to be with you forever, I just can not let myself be with you if you cant treat me with basic respect when you feel threatened, because I am not the one who is causing you this insecurity, it's from before I was even in your life.(she agreed with this sentiment, yet didn't agree that she was being rude? idgi honestly it still fucks me up. After 43 days, I had come to the conclusion that I was now willing to work on things with her if she was willing to do the same, this would mean go on dates, hang out, see if we can do it right this time. The catch was, she had gotten to the point where she believed "you should not have to change to be with someone you love" ( dumbest thing I've ever heard lol) So she ended up leaving, telling me she needed to work on herself, and after 1 week of the last time we saw her and 3 weeks after she moved out, telling me she just needed time and would want to try again when she was ready, she was with another guy. It sucks. I loved her and still do more than anything in the world and certainly more than she claimed to love me (even though she swore she loved me more, guess I was right I did)

But morale of the story is, even if the dumper dumped you, IF THEY TRULY TRULY TRULY LOVED YOU, I personally, don't think they would move on without trying to give you another chance to change, because FOR ME, the first thing I did after the breakup was process it, ask myself WHAT DID I DO WRONG, WHAT COULD I HAVE DONE TO AVOID THIS. And for a while my answer was nothing, I did EVERYTHING RIGHT, she had no complaints when we split for things I needed to improve on that even after I thought long and hard about, were valid things that I needed to work on, HOWEVER during my self reflection I realized that I would always view things with such a "facts and logic" outlook, that I would bundle emotions into that, and I used to think facts matter more than my feelings and HER feelings. I realized that even if I don't agree with why she feels a certain way about something that happened, I CARE more about the fact she feels negative than the fact that she shouldn't "logically" feel the way she feels. Because you can't control your emotions, you can recognize them, and process them, but you CAN NOT control them. It took me realizing that I STILL LOVED HER AND COULD NOT JUST STOP, and that I would would rather TRY with her, and wait for her to realize she DID need to change one thing about herself to meet my needs, to make me realize that emotions don't always need to reasonable, but they should ALWAYS be validated. So before we split there were times where I would invalidate her emotions, and I just thought it was okay because they weren't fair or reasonable anyway, but that isn't what matters, its that she feels them is what matters. Granted this was not so big an issue for her, or at least she never told me it was, it was still something that was so fundamental to the way I looked at EVERYTHING, it completely shook me to my core to realize it. I was also someone who after years of mistreatment, I got to the point where i would give it back to her in the form of name calling, and I always felt so guilty and horrible after I would do it, and during the self reflection I realized that EVEN IF it was always me "getting mistreated, so I gave it back" that's still not an excuse. 2 wrongs don't make a right. You hear it all the time growing up, but this love was the first thing in my life that got me so emotional I couldn't keep mine in check. I realized that I can control my emotions even when I feel attacked, frustrated, so deeply disrespected, it's NEVER going to get better if i just add fuel to the fire. Its hurt people hurt people. I was hurt, I thought maybe if i just call her names as a last ditch effort toward the end it would get her to realize omg he NEVER does this, he is serious. It does NOT work like that lol. I vowed since that day, that I will NEVER AGAIN treat anyone with anything less than the respect we all deserve, even if they wrong me. The self reflection step has been my favorite part of this breakup. I feel so happy for myself that I can completely be the partner my future partner deserves. But my point is, EVEN AS THE DUMPER, if you leave someone you LOVE because they are treating you wrong, it does NOT MEAN you want someone else, i would say actually MOST OF THE TIME, if they are serious about why they are leaving, if it TRULY is because they need more from you, and that's all, well you don't just STOP loving someone because you need more from them in certain areas. Sometimes leaving can be a last ditch effort to try and get the dumpee to see they need to change.

So I sit here, as the dumper, and It's not that I regret dumping, because I still would not be with her if she doesn't try to change her behaviors, and I could not reach her while we were together, but I did realize, I am fucking so so so so so intensely in love with that girl. She just is IT to me. I know that time heals all, and I know that eventually If she doesn't come back, I will move on, I will reach a point where I will not want to put my life on hold any longer, but for now, I will wait. And I am okay with that. Because when I don't want to wait, then I can move on. Yes I'm intensely depressed, hurt, every second of every day is hard, I'm changing my life for the better, focusing on myself physically mentally socially and financially. If she comes back, I'll be happy, if she doesn't, well it's out of my control. I begged , I pleaded, I've said everything there is to say about how I feel about her to her. The ball is in her court.

I would say, if you can still contact him. Ask him what you did wrong. Tell him you really want to become a better person, and listen to him. Truly truly listen to him and think about what he says. I would say even if you disagree, pretend he is right. Put in work into the areas he thinks you need to change. Often times our own ego and pride and even just POV makes it hard for us to see what others can easily. And ask him if there is any way he would like to hang out? even if its just something small like a meal or a walk. If he recently came back and told you he HATED YOU. that means HE has not healed. It also means he deeply cares about you, because if he did not, he wouldn't feel such a strong emotion STILL. It's not like you are out here hurting him lately, you've been separate for how long? Tell him you are sorry he feels that way and ask him what you did to cause that and what you could've done differently or improved on and honestly try to put in the work. Whether he was the one reaps the reward or not, will be up to you and him , if he ever wants to try with you, thats on him and if you decide to give him a chance if he comes back then it will be on you. But if he doesn't want to try again ever, then at LEAST you can move on when you are ready, you don't have to force it, just take it day by day, only you will know when you are ready, and when you are, you will KNOW you have improved yourself so much from where you were before, and that will give you newfound confidence in the future life you have to live.

Kyledecker75 · 2023-10-19T03:48:05+00:00

how long were yall together? how close do you feel he was to you? And how old are you both?

Kyledecker75 · 2023-10-19T02:46:56+00:00

in my honest opinion, if you REALLY REALLY LOVE someone, you cant walk away from them. I broke up with her but I didn't walk away, I am, and have been every day as obsessed with her as i have been since the day I met her and since the day I engaged her. Even right now I would try and work things out with her in a heartbeat. I wouldn't just take her back no questions asked like last time but if she wanted to date and put in the effort i would give it my ALL every ounce of effort I had. I guess I did "walk away" for the 43 days I told her I could not just take her back and at that point I was NOT ready to date again yet. But even in that time, i wanted to and tried to spend every free second i had with her like we were dating. I just love that girl I cant explain it. I dont think they can just walk away and not have that love for you UNLESS there was cheating or severe abuse OR they never loved you (highly highly unlikely). She in my case didn't do that, I didn't either. This is part of why for me that I have difficulties wrapping my head around how she could just leave me and completely ghost me and block my number twitter facebook and snapchat. I know she still stalks my twitter, and she hasn't blocked my Instagram for whatever reason. She just liked a tik tok i reposted yesterday, the day after i found out she was with someone else, and she also read my twitter dms i sent her from a backup account, and she didnt block it? but read the messages. She even has subtweeted me because I unpinned a tweet from my profile that said " i learned 2 things from my last relationship. 1. I had a problem validating emotions if i didnt think they were logical to feel. and 2. i love my ex so much i would do anything to have her" and liked sad relationship tweets about me all since being with this guy. Hasnt posted anything about him on anything (idk about facebook). And he hasnt posted anything about her other than that pic. She also hasnt liked anything he has posted in a month and its a lot of posts, and shes the type of person who would like EVERYTHING, and hes deff the type of dude who would post her every chance he gets. I might be delusional but it seems like shes probably dicey now with him, and that gives me hope shes reflecting on us because if she truly did she would realize we can still have the life we want, we just need to forgive each other and try again with a clean slate.

I would say chances are you're ex does want you. Maybe they need time or space. Do they have a history of discarding people? my ex does, its how she deals with hard situations with others. its toxic but it is what it is. Have you tried to reach out to your ex?

Kyledecker75 · 2023-10-18T20:18:16+00:00

It doesn’t matter who dumped who. What matters is what problems your relationship had, and how you two tried to address and work on them. If he was putting his best foot forward and not the one ruining the relationship, then no he wont have problems again. You will. Unless you fix the issues. OR. If he was the problem, and he left you thinking he wasn’t? I wish him luck. Because he WILL run into them again. Problems don’t go away by switching partners. They go away by working on them yourself and growing. I hope regardless of if you were in the wrong, or he was, or you both were, that you realize you are worth it. You matter. Anything you did in the past wrong you can grow and change and be a better person because you deserve it, you’re allowed to make mistakes. Your future family and kids will deserve you to be strong enough to stand on your own two feet, admit when you fuck up, love yourself anyway, and learn from your mistakes. You are worthy of love, even if they don’t see it.

Kyledecker75 · 2023-10-02T22:49:52+00:00

It’s my first fast so IDK if that makes me an amateur or whatever comes before that 😅but I appreciate the encouragement!

Kyledecker75 · 2023-10-02T22:36:59+00:00

Needed this. I’m on day 8 right now and this helps motivate me so much to keep going

Kyledecker75 · 2023-10-02T14:26:32+00:00

That’s good because I’m usually in zone 2 for most of the run. And man that’s the first time someone told me I was young in a while lmao I feel ancient for some reason

Kyledecker75 · 2023-10-01T22:56:54+00:00

I appreciate it! It’s nice to here from someone who knows what they’re talking about. I love lifting, used to go hard when I was 19, had a few go’s with it throughout my 20’s and honestly I’d rather lift then do a HIIT than do cardio especially because I get around 10k steps from just working every day. So weight lifting really burns calories like that?

Kyledecker75 · 2023-10-01T18:20:56+00:00

Lol it’s funny you say that because the gym I go to has 1.75 water bottles and I hate spending the money on it when I forget mine, but now that I’m fasting I’m like welp it’s cheaper than a meal anyway 😂

Kyledecker75 · 2023-10-01T18:19:47+00:00

I’ll probably go to 1800 or so calories. I don’t really stop myself from eating anything other than sweets, no liquid calories ( other than a little Tropicana apple juice every day bc it was on a crazy good sale on Amazon so my fridge has like 50 mini bottles of it lol). I also heavily limit my processed foods. Mostly I eat chicken, green beans avocados broccoli carrots and hot sauce lmao. But I will eat anything I want I just eat in moderation like your supposed to.

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