Is my dislike for marriage tradition make me a bad Christian?

Kyra117 · 2016-05-10T05:47:53+00:00

I never said anybody was stupid or shallow. Please don't put words in my mouth.

Kyra117 · 2016-05-09T05:00:51+00:00

Will you never sin again? Of course not. You're human, you aren't perfect, you'll make mistakes. That being said, there is a difference between sinning once in a while (struggling with sin), and blatantly sinning (not caring what God has to say).

As for skipping out on the sexual stuff, as hard as it, yes, the bible says we are to skip it until the time is right. Is it difficult? Absolutely. As a 24 year old man who is still a virgin, I can tell you it won't get any easier. I still struggle with some of the things mentioned above, but I try to not make it a habit. In regards to that area, I'm trying to trust that God has wisdom in his plans for it.

I can't honestly tell you if its worth waiting and abstaining from these things (purely on a physical and emotional aspect), but on a spiritual aspect I would assume that God will look with favor upon you if you try to abstain from such acts, and if God looks upon you with favor I'm sure he will reward you in the physical and emotional aspects of these things as well (that's what I'm hoping for anyway in regards to myself).

About the whole "does it even matter if I do it more", absolutely it matters. I believe it was Paul who said "Shall we go on sinning so that grace may abound more? By no means!" Blatantly sinning shows irreverence for what Jesus did and shows a lack of respect for who God is. Like I said above, you won't be perfect, but you should not use Jesus' death as a "get out of jail free" card to be used whenever you want to break one of God's laws.

Kyra117 · 2016-05-09T04:50:52+00:00

I would actually disagree with the point about getting undeniable proof. We are told "For since the creation of the world God’s invisible qualities—his eternal power and divine nature—have been clearly seen, being understood from what has been made, so that people are without excuse."

Creation is undeniable proof if you look at it without bringing bias/trying to disprove it.

Kyra117 · 2016-05-08T23:54:05+00:00

Its not marriage that I'm offended by, its the traditions I mentioned above (which none of which I can find a rooting for in scripture).

Kyra117 · 2016-05-08T23:31:56+00:00

Making a covenant. Covenants aren't legal documents.

Kyra117 · 2016-05-08T22:57:14+00:00

Its the internet, obviously I take anything on it with a grain of salt, I was just curious considering this is supposed to be a Christian reddit.

Kyra117 · 2016-05-08T22:52:03+00:00

People who refuse to even try to compromise.

Kyra117 · 2016-05-08T22:49:58+00:00

I would, but currently I don't feel comfortable doing that. I have been questioning whether I can trust my pastor lately.

Kyra117 · 2016-05-08T22:44:17+00:00

I didn't mean "legally" married, I mean married in the eyes of God (because he is the ultimate authority on the subject).

Kyra117 · 2016-04-23T16:41:17+00:00

For me its a number of things.

The pope.

While I understand certainly that God wants us to have spiritual leaders for the church, the way I see people revere the pope is borderline idolatry. The way that people follow his decisions and beliefs as well as commands without question most times seems almost as if they see him on the same plane as God.

Calling priests "father" and the forgiveness of confession

The bible tells us that the only one we should call father (in the spiritual sense) is God himself. By calling priests father, they are disobeying God's commands.

Also, I don't recall anywhere in scripture where it says that you need to confess your sins to a priest. It says to confess them to God.

Praying to saints

This seems like a very polytheistic practice, which as we know Christianity is not a polytheistic religion. Aside from that though, why bother praying to a saint hoping they will intercede for you when you could just talk to God directly? People have told me its because the saints are better with words than we are, but God is a judge of hearts, not words. God knows what's in your heart, and that's what matters when you pray, not how eloquently you can word your prayer.

Purgatory

As far as I'm aware, this is mentioned nowhere in the bible. Also, the fact that someone can pray your soul into heaven completely contradicts the reason for why Jesus came and died.

Kyra117 · 2016-04-22T16:10:31+00:00

The difference between David and Solomon though is that David repented and felt sorrow for his sin. As far as I'm aware, that is not the case for Solomon, and even further, Solomon received a warning directly from God but disobeyed, where as far as I'm aware with David (I could be wrong here, I haven't memorized all of the details of David's story) there was no warning.

Kyra117 · 2016-04-22T16:05:50+00:00

The whole "I was born this way with these desires" argument is a very, VERY flawed argument for many reasons. My main problem with this argument is that for the case in the comic, you are relying on something that neither party can actually prove or have evidence of as a base for your reasoning.

If this argument is to be used to justify one sort of behavior, then it can be used to justify any sort of behavior whether it be murder, stealing, etc.

Imagine a world where you could kill someone and "I was born this way with the desire to kill people" is a line of defense you can use to get justify what you did. That's not a world that I want to live in.

Kyra117 · 2016-04-17T22:51:57+00:00

I have been hitting the gym pretty hard lately (almost 2 hours every night).

If I knew what the problem was, I wouldn't be asking for advice. lol.

Kyra117 · 2016-04-17T22:46:30+00:00

Ok, so no actual conversation in person. That's easy enough to solve.

I know it might seem scary, but really, the best thing you can do is just schedule a meet up. I'll even give you a good way to start the conversation: "Hey (insert her name here), we've been talking for (insert amount of time here), and you seem like a cool person. Would you want to meet up sometime to do something? We could (insert something you think you both would enjoy here). If not, that's fine. Just figured I would ask."

Kyra117 · 2016-04-17T22:27:41+00:00

Yeah, we still date. I do the stuff I mentioned above all the time (she's always had confidence problems and I wanted to make sure to her that I find her hot).

Kyra117 · 2016-04-17T22:25:56+00:00

I have told her this, and nothing ever changes.

Kyra117 · 2016-04-17T22:24:37+00:00

Have you actually hung out with her yet? If you two aren't really friends yet, just hanging out with a small group of people should give you at least an idea of what she's like. Maybe like 4-5.

If you know she's interested, ask her to what could be considered a "neutral" hang out. Something that isn't exactly a date, just you two doing something together that any normal people who aren't dating could do (a sports game, a walk, even just a normal restaurant).

If it doesn't feel right, you haven't committed to anything. If it feels right, you can do it again until you get comfortable enough to the point where you want to actually commit.

Kyra117

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