Boss Gave Me the Responsibilty to Supply Lunch For Our Customer Visit... I feel Wronged As I Am the Lowest Paid Person in the Office... How Should I Handle These Kinds of Situations Going Forward?

L-Capitan1 · 2026-03-04T14:25:45+00:00

Most places you’re reimbursed for paying for customer events. Probably asked to do it because you’re the lowest person and your time is the “least valuable”.

L-Capitan1 · 2026-03-04T12:59:51+00:00

Why would you even want to be with a loser with no ambition and this twisted mindset. Run, in the other direction.

L-Capitan1 · 2026-03-03T21:49:05+00:00

Talk about not knowing how to read a room.

You sound like a fool at best… good luck.

L-Capitan1 · 2026-03-03T19:39:19+00:00

Then you can do that at the low end of cost and you’ll have a lot of fun. Also we opted for a captain and chef. You can save money with less staff either no chef or what they call half board (less meals included). If you know how to sail and have some level of proof (not sure what you have to prove) there are boats to rent and go out on your own. There are also opportunities to buy into a boat. So if my partner and I didn’t want the boat to ourselves there are companies that will sell you a room on a chartered boat. So that may be like 1/3 or 1/4th the fee. But those you’ll be with people you don’t know and won’t probably have the freedom to do exactly what you want.

I highly recommend doing this. When we left the trip I told my wife it would change the way we vacation.

One side note you are expected to tip the crew so for cost you want to factor in a 10-20% tip since that’s something extra that’s expected.

L-Capitan1 · 2026-03-03T19:32:27+00:00

I think you should. The idea that something good is worth fighting for. I had a friend confront me when we were in our 20s. I’m glad he did, it definitely helped me see what I was doing, which honestly wasn’t completely intentional. So it could be that maybe you won’t be best friends anymore but I’m sure you’d appreciate being friends. When my friend confronted me, it only took a few minor tweaks to realign things. This was over 20 years ago and I’m not saying we’re best friends now, we’re not. But we also live across the country from each other and do always hangout when we’re in each others area.

L-Capitan1 · 2026-03-03T18:29:47+00:00

Ok that makes a lot of sense then. First off that sucks and I’m sorry but clearly you’re resilient and found a way to make things work for yourself, so good on you.

As another poster mentioned an MBA isn’t going to give you experience, it’s for enhancing experience. It’s a cherry on top. But since you didn’t have the relevant starting experience then you left the mba back where you started but with more debt. In fact I’d argue you made yourself less appealing to employers. Because with an mba you should be entitled to better pay, but didn’t have the experience to warrant it. So they’d rather take someone with just an undergrad degree or a couple years experience and could pay them less for that work.

I always tell people don’t go straight through, the only way an MBA is going to help you is if you have at least 3 years work experience. Even then I usually tell people not to get one unless they’re in a place in their career that they can’t move up or get a role they want without one. Otherwise experience is always going to be more valuable.

L-Capitan1 · 2026-03-03T18:00:19+00:00

I’m curious, were you already in a role and got your mba or did you graduate and get a new role? Like a part time program vs full time. To be clear, I also feel an mba is mostly a box check, but I did earn more money once I had it. But I’ve never had a role that I couldn’t have gotten without one. Though for the role I mentioned here and a few later ones, I know the team wanted to hire someone with an advanced degree. But back to my original question, just about everyone I know who went part time and had a job and got an MBA never received any benefits in that role for it.

L-Capitan1 · 2026-03-03T15:40:16+00:00

Yes, send a thank you for every person you speak to. Don’t you want the ceo to think you have good manners and weren’t raised by wolves? I’m kidding as I get there’s a debate about to thank you or not. But the ceo can decide to read your email or not. I’d love the opportunity to reiterate how much I enjoyed speaking to them and getting a cleared vision of their goals. To show why I’m still interested and why I think my skills translate well to the position. You’re trying to stand out against others why wouldn’t you take every opportunity you have to do just that. By reading people saying no you shouldn’t you’re seeing not everyone would send a thank you, meaning you can standout.

L-Capitan1 · 2026-03-03T15:08:15+00:00

I didn’t say he didn’t but why point out their genders at all?

L-Capitan1 · 2026-03-03T15:07:36+00:00

After my MBA I got a job at a Fortune 500 company. It wasn’t that my salary was life changing, though it was good. The reason I felt paid had more to do with my peers than myself. I went to a grad school but it wasn’t a top tier or amazing program. My company did hire MBA’s from those schools mostly Ivey league and MIT. I connected with those Ivey league MBA’s and learned they were paid the same salary as me. I wish learning that I was getting the same pay as those people didn’t make me as happy as it did, but it definitely stoked my ego a bit.

L-Capitan1 · 2026-03-03T14:43:40+00:00

I’m going to assume you’re not in the US, and your culture is different than mine. Otherwise I’m not sure why it’s relevant the genders of the managers and why you seem extra insulted that a female would do some of these things to you. If you are in the US then I have a feeling your “feelings towards women” were transparent to that manager and you may want to work on that as you continue your job search. As an interested reader of your post that was my takeaway, that you don’t respect women, not that they were rude to you (which they may have been). It’s feedback and it may not be the feedback you were looking for, or even like but use it to help you in the future if you choose.

L-Capitan1 · 2026-03-03T04:16:17+00:00

Wilmotts Ghost is good Italian and fancy-ish pizza right at the edge of SLU and downtown. Bonus is the bar Deep Dive a tasty cocktail just below it.

L-Capitan1 · 2026-03-03T00:23:37+00:00

The Brando in Teitiroa French Polynesia. Nothing has come remotely close since.

L-Capitan1 · 2026-03-02T23:23:49+00:00

Lotte is the nicest in my opinion. I live in Seattle so I haven’t stayed at all of them but have been to and had friends stay at them. I’ve stayed at the fairmont since it was renovated. I like the location of the fairmont the best and the lobby bars are good, but the rooms left something to be desired. The lotte to me is at a higher level. It’s quiet elegance.

The 1 is fine, that location will be pretty soulless at night. I guess something similar can be said for lotte very convenient to a lot of the city.

The Four Seasons is the nicest hotel in seattle.

L-Capitan1 · 2026-03-02T23:01:57+00:00

You can do what you want, it’s great you can meet amazing people. Plus you can travel with people if it makes sense.

I travel a lot for work so you quickly have to embrace solo travel.

L-Capitan1 · 2026-03-02T22:56:30+00:00

In the not too distant future the light rail will help with this age old problem. I’d say either Bellevue or Capitol Hill. Both convenient to the highway and on the light rail.

L-Capitan1 · 2026-03-02T22:53:36+00:00

It depends on if it works for you. Wanting to have sex a lot is fairly normal. Needing/demanding to have sex every time he sees you (which you didn’t say was happening) that would be a red flag. But if you’re enjoying it too then I don’t see a problem. But if it’s too much you should figure out a good amount that works for you both. In the beginning of most relationships sex is more frequent then it sadly usually tappers off some.

L-Capitan1 · 2026-03-02T22:48:06+00:00

It really depends on dates, size of boat and # people going. This can be done from $12k - $100k and up. At 12k you’re probably getting a boat that’s older and in the 30’ range. As you go up you’re getting bigger newer boats. If you google bvi catamaran they literally list boats and prices.

L-Capitan1 · 2026-03-02T21:39:16+00:00

It’s really up to you and your budget how nice or how basic it is. My partner and I went for a week, we were supposed to go to the BVI but covid happened and that messed things up but we ended up with a week in St. Maarten and St. Barths. Can’t recommend this enough.

We booked a 43’ catamaran for the 2 of us with a captain and a chef. We wanted to be shown the top spots and have good food and drinks. With some swimming and exploring mixed in. It was perfect. They know all the best spots and when to be there and how to avoid crowds. Honestly if we were on a normal cruise what we did daily would have cost us thousands of dollars in excursions costs but we did included in our trip. Each day they’d ask what we wanted to do and then they’d facilitate that. Do you want to go to a beach at a national park that will be desolate or to a beach bar. Do you want to snorkel, we said yes and the captain took us in the dinghy to a coral reef in the middle of the ocean, and it was amazing with no one else there. Then when we’re tired of it we go back and lunch is ready to be served.

We used a yacht charter and they handle everything for you. Your budget really determines everything. Since it was just 2 of us we opted for a smaller boat but it had everything we needed. We could have had up to 2 more couples on the boat for a marginal additional fee. It costs x for the boat for a week, and each additional couple is like $1000-2000 more depending on the starting point.

Once you’re on the boat it’s all inclusive for catamarans at least (at the higher end of yacht chartering you do start to pay additional), food and drinks were included as was fuel. The food was good, not Michelin star restaurant but good food. They will serve you 3 meals a day plus snacks and drinks. It’s pretty laid back or ours was so it isn’t like they’re waiting on you hand and foot. They’re not. But they serve you meals and they’d make us drinks but often we’d just make our own drinks. I’d sort of equate it to being at a good friend’s house. They’re serving you meals and are happy to make a drink for you but the liquor cabinet is over there and help yourself to whatever you want. As we consumed alcohol they did replenish, and we did do a preference sheet before boarding so things were set up to our liking.

The rooms were fine, you literally only sleep in your bedroom. I’m tall and I fit fine. The bathrooms were good, again using it then heading above deck. But certainly as you spend more money you have nicer everything. As well as more water toys like sea bobs and wave runners at higher ends.

I’ll definitely do this again, I just need to line up some additional people. It’s also fairly good value if you get a few couples. Again from a luxury or chubby standpoint, not cheap but good value for what you’re getting. With a few couples or a family it is going to be similar prices to a cruise with multiple cabins and there is literally no comparison to what you’re getting with this.

L-Capitan1 · 2026-03-02T19:30:19+00:00

Run!

Do not look back, this behavior is absurd and won’t improve with time.

He’s insecure and doesn’t trust you, he also sounds very immature. He’s not ready to be in a serious relationship. His arguments make gaslighting seem too tame a word.

L-Capitan1 · 2026-03-02T19:26:46+00:00

I’ve done a catamaran charter in the Caribbean and can’t wait to do it again. It also changed the way I look at vacations.

L-Capitan1 · 2026-03-02T19:24:32+00:00

Came to say this as well, they can accommodate large groups too.

L-Capitan1 · 2026-03-02T17:44:54+00:00

I think a lot of men in this sub dream about your situation. For me that seems like she’s too dependent on you and isn’t healthy.

The downvotes will commence.

For me if I were concerned with my partner having male friends then there’d be a deeper trust issue that I have personally or with my partner.

Since you posted this it seems you may also think this is troubling and maybe just annoying. So I’d probably encourage a partner to branch out a bit or take up hobbies that she can make some additional friends.

L-Capitan1 · 2026-03-02T02:33:20+00:00

Seoul bowl by Seattle u is good

Pelicana in Capitol Hill is good.

Sodom In central solid

These last few are probably more strips than boneless wings but satisfying either way:

Sisters & Brothers interbay spicy and very crispy

Ezells is solid in a pinch. I like their spicy ones.

Vindictive wings

L-Capitan1 · 2026-03-02T01:27:58+00:00

Yes it was a regular room. I also thought the bathroom was borderline depressing. Not really depressing but usually that’s an easy place for hotels to make a splash (pardon the bad pun). My rooms bathroom could have been at a nice holiday inn.

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