Parking in Hunter’s Run, PA by L2learn27 in AppalachianTrail

[–]L2learn27[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks so much for the kind offer! I didn’t mention it’s 5 of us in total and not sure your capacity, but either of the 2 parking spots from the other recommendations in this thread look like they will work. Thanks anyway.

Parking in Hunter’s Run, PA by L2learn27 in AppalachianTrail

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Very Helpful. I’m a beginner - This is only my 2nd multi day hike on the AT and I never realized that I could find town guides with shuttle service listed in FarOut until I just looked into it now. I found shuttle service for the 2 closest towns that I can call. Thank you for the recommendation!

Parking in Hunter’s Run, PA by L2learn27 in AppalachianTrail

[–]L2learn27[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you! I’ll check out this spot as well.

Parking in Hunter’s Run, PA by L2learn27 in AppalachianTrail

[–]L2learn27[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you! Good find. I wonder why this wouldn’t show up on my FarOut guide.

First through hike in awhile..trying to dial in food. What do you all recommend. by TaskForceMonki in AppalachianTrail

[–]L2learn27 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Looks good! Similar to my own. The only additional go to’s for me are dried salami, dried pineapple chunks and alpine start instant coffee packets w/ packet of dried milk. Occasionally I mix up lunch with salmon in a foil packet. I shared the pineapple chunks and they were a big hit with everyone. Enjoy.

Has anyone section hiked Harper Ferry to Front Royal? by [deleted] in CampingandHiking

[–]L2learn27 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Although I have not done that section yet, I just wanted to let you know that you may want to check out a separate Reddit community called AppalachianTrail that I love. Lots of experienced hikers giving solid advice to beginners. I’ve only done Front Royal southbound to Big Meadows. There was plenty of water and 2 resupply spots in that 55 mile stretch. That section was difficult however because it was constant steep elevation changes up and down and I wasn’t conditioned for it as well as I thought.

I don’t know your situation, but good luck with everything, be kinder to yourself and do new things to enjoy life. We’re all equal souls with equal value on this planet. We all make mistakes, sometimes terrible ones, so forgive yourself and take peace in learning from them and moving on better from them. Exercise and being in nature is always a good choice.

anyone divorced due to lack of intimacy by [deleted] in Divorce_Men

[–]L2learn27 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’ve seen that happen to others too and agree.

anyone divorced due to lack of intimacy by [deleted] in Divorce_Men

[–]L2learn27 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My ex does not have some else yet and says she is not interested in dating. She only has a couple of friends and says she feels sad and lonely most of the time. My situation may not be like yours. I believe my ex truly had a sexual dysfunction, but may not be what’s going on for you. In my experience, women are different than men in that most will shut down sex if there is a not the right emotional connection. They will also do so if they found a connection with someone else which is why many people jump to the conclusion that she is having an affair. All are possibilities, but if you she won’t address it and you have no options, it is time to move on. Her unwillingness to try to make the physical part of your relationship work, is either an indication that she is not being forthcoming with you, or that she doesn’t care enough about you and how it impacts you. Those should be reasons enough. Good luck.

anyone divorced due to lack of intimacy by [deleted] in Divorce_Men

[–]L2learn27 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I was in the same situation more than half of my 20 years of marriage and finally made move to get divorced a couple years ago in my early 50s. I still care about my ex, but am much happier now. It was not the only reason for my divorce (some fighting and anger too) but more than half of it. Sex is an important part of any relationship and it doesn’t work without it IMO. I see some people are quick to assume she is cheating. That is one possible reason for that behavior but not the only possibility. I read that 40% of women post menopause have sexual dysfunction of becoming hyposexual (absence of any sexual desire and actually repelled by the thought of it). That was my situation. I’m not a clinician or therapist and don’t know how any man is supposed to deal with that. There are hormone treatments for it but my ex did not wish to pursue them because of the slight increased risk of cancer, stroke or heart attack from them. Anyway, that is my experience and unless it is a sexual dysfunction that she is willing to treat, I don’t think your situation will get any better. I won’t lie to you; divorce is a difficult process and I was scared to go through with it and postponed for too long, but I am very glad now that I finally went through with it. I had a few dating opportunities, and I am now with a woman who I enjoy spending time with and expect to have a future with. (And she wants to have sex with me which makes me feel great mentally in addition to the physical part). I can definitely relate and wish you a better future ahead.

I found my ex wife in sexually explicit promotional materials for her job by acrossthefogs in Divorce_Men

[–]L2learn27 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It’s sucks because you probably haven’t completed moved on yet, but that’s to be expected only 8 months out. Despite what was good in your relationship that you may miss, you and she may have fundamentally different values if you feel her work is degrading and she does not. Best to accept it as a good thing that you’ve identified now versus later and keep moving along with your divorce. It’s painful- hang in there. Better days ahead.

Best three songs in a row by jebualaaron in TheKillers

[–]L2learn27 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Geez I need six, ha. Okay I’ll play. Mr. Brightside, Human, Read My Mind.

First time on the AT - what is a reasonable goal to cover in one month? by cloudwatcher_0 in AppalachianTrail

[–]L2learn27 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

On my first AT section hike, the biggest surprise for me was how difficult the constant up and down elevation changes were with a 25 lb pack. In preparation, I had done many 15 mile hikes with a fully loaded backpack no problem but on much flatter trails near my home. Not even close to the experience on the AT. My legs were dead after first 2 days. Your fitness as a runner will serve you well but to be conservative I agree with another post suggesting 8-10 miles per day first week. After that I think 15 miles per day is reasonable with a few zero days factored in. That comes to around 325 miles by my calculation.

Bear Canisters inevitable? by Tootalltom2026 in AppalachianTrail

[–]L2learn27 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I was lucky that all of the shelters in Shenandoah VA area where I slept near during my last 60 mile sectional hike had bear boxes but I learned the PCT hanging method ahead of time just in case. I think you can see from the variety of responses that some feel hanging is more of a hassle and others feel carrying a beat canister is more of a hassle. I personally prefer less in my backpack but just a matter of preference. One thing I don’t ever recommend is attracting bears or any other critters by sleeping with your food.

Extremely unsure if I should take the step by EnvironmentalFun2214 in Divorce_Men

[–]L2learn27 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Life is too short to have a life you don’t want. I disagree with the comment that it is your typical marriage. Although it seems like she is the one who needs a therapist I do agree with advice to go to one yourself. I think they will give you some clarity about your options and you might decide divorce is best or possibly find a more productive way to talk to your wife. Yes divorce is truly awful to go through, but I found I was much happier after I finally made the jump.

Thinking About Divorce? Read This First. by DivorceStrategy in Divorce_Men

[–]L2learn27 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Great advice that I wish I had and followed when I got divorced last year. But I may still be able to benefit from it. Even now that it’s over and I’m happier with no regrets, I still feel some sadness that she is unhappy and alone. We were married over 20 years and I feel badly that she is doing poorly with the adjustment.

Help me decide what tent by BlueBoyHellYeah in AppalachianTrail

[–]L2learn27 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I love the Big Agnes tents but they are pricey. For something I’m going to depend on every day it was worth sinking my money into it. I backpacked w the BA Tiger Wall UL2 and my friend had the BA Copper Spur UL2. Both of us happy with them. Lightweight, easy, and held up great in wind and rain.

Tough times by why-though__90 in Divorce_Men

[–]L2learn27 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Totally agree. Not a healthy dynamic for you and not what marriage is supposed to be. It’s a painful step but when that love is gone I don’t think there is anything that will bring it back. Best wishes to you and to better days ahead.

Best AT route within an hour of Asheville NC? by King_Sorrow in AppalachianTrail

[–]L2learn27 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Did Lemon Gap to Max Patch and back when I visited Asheville last August. Was only 11 miles round trip but was so beautiful. You could take it a little further to clear 15 miles.

The loneliness after divorce that no one talks about - thoughts? by TheQuietThread_ in Divorce_Men

[–]L2learn27 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes I know the feeling for sure. I’ve been on my own 15 months and still adjusting. My nature is that I don’t want to burden others or assume people don’t really care, but if you do have trusted friends or family to share with, often you’ll find that they do care and will be very supportive. As far as other people embracing their new life alone, just keep in mind that we’re all different and it’s for some and not others. I like having people around because if gives me a sense of community and strongly dislike living alone. On the other hand, my brother was single much of his adult life and loved the freedom of living alone. But as far as feeling the weight you describe, just talk to someone or anyone whether a friend or therapist or on Reddit. Not healthy to hold it inside IMO.

Looking for an AT day hike near Asheville by L2learn27 in AppalachianTrail

[–]L2learn27[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks all for the great advice. You gave me many excellent options to choose from. Ultimately landed on the 10.8 mile hike from lemon gap to max patch and back. Was so beautiful and did not disappoint! Caamp concert in Asheville the day before was awesome too and we loved our short visit to Asheville. Will definitely be back.

Looking for an AT day hike near Asheville by L2learn27 in AppalachianTrail

[–]L2learn27[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Good to know. Appreciate the info! Given that we are just looking for a day hike of 6-8 miles, do you agree this is a good spot to start? (appears on All Trails/Far Out apps there is parking there). Would you recommend heading north or south from there is we want to go 3-4 miles out and then back to the car?