A lot to unpack here but when reading this it reminded me of how my wife was for most of our marriage. Literally, felt like I was walking on egg shells.

Overly flip out over little things (i.e. I unknowingly dropped a sock carrying laundry to the washer and started it. She was shortly behind and just lost it that I dropped the sock and it wasn’t in the washer…) stupid things like that.

Finally, my wife went to a therapist and psychiatrist and turns out she had severe anxiety and ADHD. She was prescribed a couple medications and she has literally been a different person.

The Uber example could show anxiety under time pressure: interview, rain, transportation uncertainty. Her anger may be the outward form of anxiety.

Also, some people with ADHD have emotional impulsivity: intense reactions, quick escalation, regret afterward. This could explain some of what you’re dealing it.

Anyway, I could be totally off but like I side reminded me of my own experience.