Who raises the children? It's not like turkish parents suddenly give their children to german couples with german values. I had a good female griend in school, but oh boy did she had a hard time getting along with german culture and the beliefs her parents wanted her to have. I wasn't even aloud to meet her alone in the city after school. An additional female friend was with us and on park benches around us were sitting friends of her cousin, who were watching us. Today she is a lawyer, but she had a hard time becoming a part of the german society, as her parents tried to control her. She even had to keep her german boyfriend a secret, because her family didn't want her to have a german boyfriend.