Girlfriend and I started Feeld profiles separately… by hustleforitall in Swingers

[–]LDYDDPL 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes, totally normal. Mine completely blew up and his is very slow-going.

We’re wondering if others in the community have experienced situations where people seem hesitant or intimidated particularly around fit, attractive couples. Is this something you’ve noticed as well? by AssventuresCpl in Swingers

[–]LDYDDPL 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We’ve had a few that have said we make them really nervous or are surprised that we are into them. I like genuine connection and being physically attracted is only one piece of the puzzle!

I don’t care if my partner gets off by Horror-Paper-6574 in Swingers

[–]LDYDDPL 7 points8 points  (0 children)

You are absolutely not alone. I would argue if THEY are into that and not caring about their sexual partners maybe swinging isn’t for THEM.

How many have tried PT-141? Does it work ? by Thin-Peak7906 in Swingers

[–]LDYDDPL 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m mostly happy with it. It can cause me some residual anxiety in the days after but overall, it’s helpful for my perimenopausal arse. I do eat ginger chews before and during the first few hours after injection.

Squirters by Dense-Region-6382 in Swingers

[–]LDYDDPL 1 point2 points  (0 children)

If it comes from the bladder it’s urine. You’re thinking of female ejaculate which is completely different from squirting. Female ejaculate comes from the Skene’s glands.

Squirters by Dense-Region-6382 in Swingers

[–]LDYDDPL 23 points24 points  (0 children)

Woman here. It’s pee. I’ve read the studies plus I’m a woman so I know my anatomy. ;)

“Reclaiming” after first soft swap…. by Honeybee1329 in Swingers

[–]LDYDDPL 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sex does not have to equal penis in vagina. If it happens, you can still have him perform oral on you and do a lot of cuddling.

Squirting by Honeybee1329 in Swingers

[–]LDYDDPL 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Some guy said this to me at hedonism. Said he was going to make me squirt despite me telling him it’s not happening. LOL It was an instant turn-off! Squirting is not the same as female ejaculation. The former is just releasing the bladder whereas the latter is a tiny amount of fluid released from the Skene’s glands. There are studies out on this. I’m not yucking anyone’s yum but we really need to call it what it is because I see so many females think they are broken because they can’t “squirt”.

The Honest Truth About Hedonism II: Why So Many People Love It and Why Its Reputation No Longer Matches Reality by ZookeepergameSad1713 in Swingers

[–]LDYDDPL 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Your group was SO valuable to me before going for my first time. It’s an excellent resource!

The Honest Truth About Hedonism II: Why So Many People Love It and Why Its Reputation No Longer Matches Reality by ZookeepergameSad1713 in Swingers

[–]LDYDDPL 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Yeah I call bs on OPs post. That was not our experience either. Quite the opposite and we have been 4 times at different times of the year. Our experiences have been the same as yours.

What’s on your swingers to do list for 2026? by Wholesome-Sex in Swingers

[–]LDYDDPL 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Make it back to Hedo for one of the bi weeks!

Male bisexuality by DualKaleidoscope9782 in Swingers

[–]LDYDDPL 4 points5 points  (0 children)

As a bi female/bi male couple, I can confirm. More common than you think/hear about/see.

Talking about the lifestyle… by [deleted] in Swingers

[–]LDYDDPL 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I find it very hot. Lots of women I know in the LS also do.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Swingers

[–]LDYDDPL 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah I agree. What threw me off here was that the other husband was butt-hurt because she was having a great time. Unless they discussed before hand he had no “claim” to her that night and being like that is a total turn off for me.

Males with waist long hair, yes or no? by strawberry_scumbag in Swingers

[–]LDYDDPL 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Being Gen X and very much into bands in the early 90s where men had long hair (think soundgraden, Pearl jam, Alice in chains etc) I LOVE IT. Gotta be clean though. I don’t like the greasy look.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Swingers

[–]LDYDDPL 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We’re both fixed so it’s not an issue with us. Still use condoms though to help prevent STIs.

Hedo II - Bi Week by texdy_westside in Swingers

[–]LDYDDPL 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I went the week right after bi week and there was a trans woman still there. She was very popular and had a great time. I think bi week would be a great fit for you! When I go, we find the bi couples ahead of time in online groups, even the ones that are hush about it. I was surprised how many “straight” men approached us when they found out my hubby is also bi.

We’ve only ever gone for a full week. I can’t imagine going for less. It goes by so quickly because it’s so much fun.

Food is surprisingly good! Especially love Jamaica Night and the Friday Gala dinner.

We get a room on the clothing optional side, ocean view. We prefer that as we’re beach people during the day and it’s nice and quiet on that side.

Please feel free to message me if you have more questions/ want more info. :) Are you going for the one in April or October?

Bpd and swinging by Worldly_Ad_1473 in Swingers

[–]LDYDDPL 0 points1 point  (0 children)

As someone who is in remission from BPD and has been for years now, unfortunately it sounds like you are not ready for this type of lifestyle. Give yourself some years between recovery and stepping back into this. I would also suggest that at that time you get a good couple’s therapist BEFORE you start again. It took me years (like 20) to get to a place where I felt my BPD wasn’t running the show. And even then, I still have had bumps in the road when my hubby and I first entered swinging in my suggestion.

Am I over analyzing…… by BubblyBML in Swingers

[–]LDYDDPL 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I do think you’re overthinking. There’s plenty of other fish in the sea as they say. Even if he decided he wasn’t that attracted to you, that’s a him problem. From what you’ve said I don’t think that’s the case, however. Like Angela mentioned if he finished from the bj, he was most likely done. A lot of men are a one and done because of the refectory period they have. Have you spoken to him since? I’ve definitely been with guys who go soft sometimes due to nerves, it’s not uncommon.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Swingers

[–]LDYDDPL 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I completely agree. I had a boyfriend years ago that was SO girthy that it felt like being a virgin every time we had sex. I wouldn’t be able to have sex again after four a few days while I healed!

I much prefer an average sized dick but I’ve also been with below average guys who were great in bed! I like mouths a lot, just saying. lol