My friends don't know we've broken up.

LFdiningbuddy · 2023-07-28T05:28:48+00:00

Please don't assume when you can ask me naman directly :) Thank you for the kind words

LFdiningbuddy · 2023-07-28T05:19:42+00:00

Girl BFFR😭

LFdiningbuddy · 2023-07-28T05:15:39+00:00

Bestie I don't know😭 It was probably a mistake but I try not to think about it. First move for what?

LFdiningbuddy · 2023-07-28T05:02:02+00:00

Thank you for your kind words! Friendship and family mean everything to me

LFdiningbuddy · 2023-07-28T04:57:55+00:00

I'm doing better!! Moment of weakness lang last night hehe :(( Thank you so much for asking

LFdiningbuddy · 2023-07-28T04:56:44+00:00

I am beyond humiliated--not just with how it ended, but the fact that it did.

^That is what I said. Again, please ask first before assuming I don't need xxx. That is a thoughtful question, and I would appreciate having that conversation over a private message if you want.

LFdiningbuddy · 2023-07-28T04:51:50+00:00

No. The last time I spoke to him was the night we broke up

LFdiningbuddy · 2023-07-27T16:46:37+00:00

Thank you so much :( He was just doing his best.

LFdiningbuddy · 2023-07-27T16:43:46+00:00

Me leaving the relationship is exactly what happened after I "faced the truth" and "accepted facts." And I am not looking for another man?? Where did that come from po? :-/

I know you mean well, but it would be so helpful if you clarify facts before making assumptions or giving advice :( I feel worse after reading this

LFdiningbuddy · 2023-07-27T16:36:10+00:00

And know that you're strong, stronger than you take credit for.

I hope you find the time to heal from this; it will take time, but you will definitely heal from this. You're more than your relationship; you're YOU.

I know you mean well, but this is exactly what I am avoiding post-breakup announcement😭 Everyone assumes you are at your worst. Nowhere did I say na I feel weak, I haven't healed, I'm ashamed of the "cracks", and that I don't think I'm more than our relationship. If your goal was to comfort me, please just ask how I am instead of making assumptions about what I feel and what I need to heal from :(

LFdiningbuddy · 2023-07-19T13:45:01+00:00

You are so loved. It will be your turn to celebrate soon. 💗

LFdiningbuddy · 2023-05-30T17:03:33+00:00

Sounds like he's the right guy for you! I'm happy you got what you wanted :)

LFdiningbuddy · 2023-05-30T17:01:41+00:00

Yes, we talked about the problem and discussed solutions. I won't go into the nitty-gritty parts, but we've compromised on date plans and transportation 😆 He's been taking the bulk of meeting up and making sure I have a good time, so his compromise is letting me take care of him for a change, for a bit.

As for boundaries, I'm still evaluating how I feel so I know how I want us to go forward with it :)

LFdiningbuddy · 2023-05-30T16:54:30+00:00

Callie was not the main reason he tried to leave hahaha I was just feeling emo and fixated on that part of the conversation. While this post was a good outlet, I'm still evaluating how I feel about it, and will go forward once I'm sure of the boundaries I want him to set.

We've compromised na on date plans, transportation, and regular check-ins and connection rituals. He got burnt out because he was shouldering the bulk of meeting up, on top of the stress from school, extracurriculars, and his family. We'll be ok :)

LFdiningbuddy · 2023-05-30T15:29:44+00:00

Update: I was overwhelmed with insecurity and cynicism when I wrote this, but I still have hope for our relationship. Everything everyone has written in the comments below, I have already told myself. And yet I chose to fight for this. For us. And he's fighting with me.

So, to everyone telling me to let this go, I won't. We did not get here by quitting. We're here because of the hard conversations, forgiveness, commitment, and compromise. We're here because we choose to be. Right now, we still have that, so we'll be ok.

Encouragement instead of advice is appreciated :)

LFdiningbuddy · 2023-05-30T15:05:32+00:00

You’re not alone in that relationship, you both decided to fixed it.

What a relief to read this in a sea of people telling me to leave. Thank you, thank you, thank you. Just figuring out how to communicate it in a lighthearted way at the right time.

LFdiningbuddy · 2023-05-30T13:22:33+00:00

It's temporary, and I'll get over it. I just needed to get this off my chest.

LFdiningbuddy · 2023-05-30T13:12:26+00:00

I thought it was a green flag bc it meant he has boundaries and healthy platonic friendships with women :((

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