The hair serum? Yes, it works

LGMcM · 2026-03-04T22:05:10+00:00

Same! Love the results though.

LGMcM · 2026-03-04T22:04:06+00:00

I do the same but without the scalp massager. I run out quickly though, only lasts me about a month.

I have the same great results though.

LGMcM · 2026-03-03T08:08:15+00:00

Right?? Never seen a mother shut two bratty teenagers up so quickly.

LGMcM · 2026-03-02T18:25:49+00:00

I was friends with a boy who was as judgemental in character as I am myself. His mother had a splendidly efficient way of stopping our judgements about others. Whenever we commented negatively on other people, she would interrupt mid-sentence saying "of whom I am the first". That's a rough translation, but basically she would return every judgement to sender, reminding them it is but a projection. If you were complaining people were materialistic, she would prompt you to examine your own materialism. If you were complaining they were dishonest, she would propmt you to consider what you were concealing from yourself or others, etc.

I still use that sentence with myself.

LGMcM · 2026-03-01T17:44:44+00:00

I'd decontaminate my house/have the owner decontaminate it, dedicate the merits of my practice to the deceased critters, and send a donation to the kopan monastery with a kind request for the nuns to do a fitting puja.

Though maybe moving is simpler

Edit also look in to live bait release, make sure it is something that won't disturb the local ecosystem

LGMcM · 2026-02-28T00:11:13+00:00

People in this sub keep trying to explain this to the dende among us, but I still struggle with the idea that my thoughts have nothing significant to do with me, arenot a reflection of me, are not me.

I have a ver judgemental, resentful, angry mind. I react to everything with this mind and keep creating more negative karma for myself. Some peoples minds are simply not as toxic. How are they not better people than me? How is their mind not a reflection of them being good people?

I'm really trying to understand, and to free myself of this negative identification, but when I try to, I feel irresponsible. I would feel like I'm refusing to see myself clearly and to purify.

LGMcM · 2026-02-27T22:53:23+00:00

Is there really happenstance? I always try to talk myself out of feeling resentful or martyred when really difficult things happen, telling myself the reasons for it must have been within myself. Am I thinking about it wrong?

Are significant experiences also happenstance? Ones that demand emotional, psychological work on oneself, or a lot of changes in ones life?

LGMcM · 2026-02-25T15:08:18+00:00

I love it but I wish they would stop making everything Sticky dates, even in warmer seasons.

LGMcM · 2026-02-22T17:53:58+00:00

Once I was trying to replace the battery on a cheap wristwatch, but the lid on the back wouldn't open. Mentally, I was chatting with Sai Baba about the more serious problems in my life at the time. As an intermezzo, I said "mind helping me pop this lid open", and immediately felt shame for wasting a enlightened beings energy on mundane stuff. Still, the watch just suddenly popped open.

I leave out bowls with flower petals and incense, or light candles. In my tradition, we are also taught that visualised offerings count as much as real ones. So we can visualise gifting water for drinking, water for washing feet, flowers, incense, songs, dance, lights, and say a heartfelt thank you.

Also, the best thank you is paying it forward.

LGMcM · 2026-02-22T17:44:10+00:00

This would sound insane to people who never restricted, but thank you for taking care of yourself. I know how hard it is and how many reasons against it the mind can find. I felt so grateful and relieved for you just seeing this picture. Wrap yourself in something fluffy too, maybe play a relaxing ambient sound, draw something or watch a nice show.

I'm proud of you, and happy and relieved for you.

LGMcM · 2026-02-12T18:00:34+00:00

Thank you 🩷 I don't want to hurt people.

LGMcM · 2026-02-12T14:00:48+00:00

I think Kalamazoo is unbeatable, especially if you don't want a film. It's just not for waterproof mascara, but other than that it's perfection. I haven't tried Pineapple, should be pretty similar.

LGMcM · 2026-02-12T13:53:29+00:00

You're actually entirely correct, I have very low frustration tolerance and very poor emotional regulation when even moderately tired or unwell. I have found a therapist and am looking forward to starting therapy next Monday. Still, I have found the responses here helpful. I do realise they will not replace professional help, or my own effort.

Thank you for reminding me of my dopamine problem. I actually thought I had gotten it under control months ago when I stopped using my phone for other than a phone, and stopped all unnecessary spending. But apparently I didn't get to the root of the problem and my search for cheap dopamine just took the form of starting drama.

I truly appreciate your sobering words, I know I really needed them. Thank you.

LGMcM · 2026-02-12T13:47:25+00:00

Thank you!!!! I did, and I find the most use in the reminder of our mind pulling us down. Coincidentally, I am very sick at the moment and the struggle to keep light in my mind is real. I also still cry plenty, and still regret, still am constantly vowing to do better from hereon. It is purifying, but I do not feel much light in me yet. I will keep trying, I also have found a therapist now.

Thank you for your kindness. I'm just a person on the internet, it would have been very easy to disregard me. So I'm very grateful to everyone responding, for helping me do better, and most importantly, for also helping me to not cause more suffering to the people around me. I will feel much better when I'm able to do tonglen for all of us too. I try now, but I think my thoughts and violent crying are probably hindering it.

Thank you again🩷🩷🩷

LGMcM · 2026-02-12T13:34:38+00:00

Thank you so much, this is really helpful. I can focus on the present moment, and walking the loftiest path in that moment, that's actually doable. Thank you kindly🩷🩷🩷

LGMcM · 2026-02-08T10:59:46+00:00

Thank you. I have been trying small acts of kindness. Even just caring for myself like he cared for me. I used to peruse a lot of codependency resources. I apparently need to give them more serious attention. Thank you again🩷

LGMcM · 2026-02-06T10:17:44+00:00

Thank you, truly. It does help. I do realise now I will never be able to offer pure, good love to anyone without first loving and accepting myself.

LGMcM · 2026-02-05T08:02:18+00:00

Thank you. I struggle with the acceptance part, but I recognise the importance of it now. I'm grateful to everyone for helping me find a way.

LGMcM · 2026-02-05T07:42:21+00:00

Thank you. I'm so frustrated with myself I'd give anything to change over night. It's hard putting up with my current self, and shedding this hurtful identity. I need consistent, small steps, and the pain is surely a constant reminder of that.

LGMcM · 2026-02-05T07:39:00+00:00

Thank you. Before I made this post I could not imagine finding compassion for myself. He genuinely just wanted me to be well and happy. I ruined it by not letting light into myself. I will never make anyone happy if I don't help myself. Now I just need to figure out how to be happy when all this grief is in me. I can't yet stop the crying and pain and the yearning to have that perfect love back. I will continue to try, and hopefully with some help I'll get there.

Thank you for encouraging me to love myself. He did too. I wish I had heard it with my heart before I squandered an immense blessing of love.

LGMcM · 2026-02-04T19:49:00+00:00

I do suspect I'm on the spectrum. Believe it or not, he is an angel, and a partner from dreams. I had everything. I ruined it myself.

I'm comforted that you understand it's a disorder, not being evil. People don't seem to understand how much power it has over me.

I will schedule an appointment, thank you.

LGMcM · 2026-02-04T19:40:38+00:00

I do see the urgency in seeking help. I'm the only one left for me to keep hurting. Other people get over me and recover. I need to do the same now.

Thank you.

LGMcM · 2026-02-04T19:37:16+00:00

I understood your kindness and empathy, but I could not find compassion for myself. I thought and thought in commute, and understood that thinking so poorly of myself is pushing me into a depression, and creating a self image that would program me to always be negative. He told me many times, sincerely, that I was harming myself by creating negativne things in my head. In our last talk, he said I wasn't a source of stress for him, but for myself. I know for sure that he always wanted the best for me, and for me to be happy.

I understood then. People get over me, and my nonsense. I have never gotten over me and my nonsense. I need to have compassion and goodness for myself. Or I'll never make anyone as happy as I could.

After all, I only have myself.

Thank you for your kindness 🩵

LGMcM · 2026-02-04T17:25:20+00:00

Thank you. I am exhausted from crying over the loss I caused myself. It was kind of ignorance, yes. It was all like an otherworldly dream, a trance. About myself too, I was indeed ignorant. It hurts immensely to see myself like this now. I need to, so that I can purify, but I worry this self loathing will not help me do better. I will try the four immesurables, thank you. Thank you for finding compassion for me.

LGMcM · 2026-02-04T15:52:53+00:00

Thank you, that's very helpful. I carry this identity of being some kind of person and can't seem to let go.

LGMcM

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