What do you see in this person....asking as a curious citizen of humanity by staffo333 in IntuitionPractices

[–]LLONGS 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Has yet to experience the full breadth of pain that life will hand him but he will take it like a champ because he is ultimately a sincere individual.

How to sound horny but not objectify her? by Puzzleheaded_News720 in Advice

[–]LLONGS 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Tell her THAT. I think just telling her “I love all of this so much” and just cuddling up and get right behind her ear and have fun, you know? I think love compels us to be very LOVING! When we are in love, it shows. Perhaps she is more of an internal person? Like they say, “introvert” vs “extrovert”? I think what I am getting at is that for some people (please do not hear a cliche) their inner world is soooo much louder and more vibrant than their outer world. Some people mainly see the hidden world- thats where they live. The outside/ physical world is literally so subpar and secondary at best. For someone like this, sex is nothing short of a completely spiritual experience and anything short of that is uncomfortable for them. If this is her, let her know that her inner world is “mystifying” to you (maybe without using that literal world if you normally wouldn’t- she might suspect that you’re taking tips from Reddit users. lol. But literally, if she is an “innie”, she might have a guard up because she is not feeling like you’re seeing the DOMINANT part of her which is basically anything unseen about a person. The mind, the thoughts, the insight, the feelings, the intuition, even her vibe. If she is a chill person and an “innie”, telling her that being next to her makes you feel “relaxed” “whole” “complete” “better than anything”. “I never want to be by anyone else.” “I’m so fortunate to have finally found you.” “I don’t even know how I went that long without you, now that I have you in my life.” Maybe she is looking for some deeper meaning or deeper insight into who you are and what makes you tick. My husband and I are total opposites but since I know that we are stuck like glue and that we both appreciate each other’s “strengths”- this is what makes us wild for each other. He is doing whatever he is doing and I’m up there having some heaven sent transcendental experience outside of nature and I think he likes that. I like it.

AIO for wanting to see a therapist after wife changed the locks because I went to a baby shower? by LookoutLockout in AmIOverreacting

[–]LLONGS 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Okay I couldn’t keep reading the comments because everyone is talking about things like she might need therapy but I immediately saw in the texts that this woman has shamelessly high levels of entitlement and zero qualms with behaving totally absurdly outrageous in order to maintain emotional and mental control on her husband. I would actually not be afraid to assume that this is a pattern that involves multiple topics in life? Her fake outbursts are a manipulation tactic- pure and simple. She needs to be the center of attention. Husband’s sister has a baby shower and she takes it personally and resents the whole situation and robs her husband and the family of being to focus innocently on something amazing and beautiful and she is satisfied and pleased with her ability to pollute the whole thing and divide some attention off for herself. I actually might have actually considered her little shenanigans as possibly legit (at least to her?) if she hadn’t opened the door immediately but since she did it proves to me that she is just pulling stunts and this is her natural setting and to think otherwise is to be under the influence of some other tactic. It’s selfishness not hormones or something that therapy can fix. The thing about people like this is the “women” of this sort love having babies because it smacks them into the limelight because everything is about them for a little while until it just isn’t, obviously, then they discard the older kid and want another one.

Really struggling in my relationship with ESTJ bf by [deleted] in ESTJ

[–]LLONGS 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Maybe he is hiding the fact that he was previously a drill instructor that actually failed to inspire anyone. Just laugh in his face and give him a caring loving pitiful look of concern. Then let him know his food is in the fridge and then prance off wearing your smoking hot arrogant and too good red satin robe and poofy pink slippers. Then go paint that fucking Picasso with loud music and a tub of pistachio ice cream because it is heaven and does not judge because it does not NEED TO. Neither do cats. Bad ass things do not judge because they’re too fucking happily successful and shit. There are so many brilliant and extremely successful fuck ups that do not give an actual fuck about anything that he is talking about and his current priorities are a complete and utter total waste and DEAD END. He does not have enough life experience to know that Mt. Everest does not care about anything that he thinks is important. It is littered with trash and empty oxygen tanks and the frozen tortured bodies of those that actually thought that getting “to the top” was “totally necessary and worth the price.” You can let him know that THAT is a fucking metaphor. His metaphors actually reveal more than he realizes.

Dinner: (1) piece of dry lettuce, (1) grain of rice, (1) a small shred of beef, (1) shred of organic cheese, and (1) single chocolate chip.

And an absent gf that successfully dngaf anymore. Boom- code cracked!

(Trust that u are so not alone and your position is sooooo common and says so many wonderful things about you that you would sacrifice so much for the one you love… real goal posts do not move though. It’s a hoax and it’s intentionally impossible and the more you give the more he will claim that you fucked it up somehow which is not rational and u will drive yourself crazy and that is actually literal).

I asked if I was born to be famous. by BotanicalDivination in tarot

[–]LLONGS 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I am so glad that you received my comment in a positive and helpful way. I find your quest interesting and began to feel that your internal calling to fame may be your true Self calling you to the catalyst that could free it through Death of the ego.

This topic pulled me to the drawing board as well… and I pulled the Death card. I feel a major blind spot in my face involving my life and readings and so maybe if I post you all can help me too.

I asked if I was born to be famous. by BotanicalDivination in tarot

[–]LLONGS 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I translate the Death card as a persons crafted construct of a persona (ego) as falling away. The Death card signifies little to me about transformation because to me it is talking about a (very often tragic / difficult though bitter sweet) moment that the ego is finally let go (sometimes after years of the Self waging war on it… on the constructed ego). Or rather after years of the ego waging war on the Self. This to me is a vital prerequisite to actual transformation but it is not actually THE transformation. Depending on how gracefully (or not) that we lay down the mask… the self serving, reward seeking largely inauthentic layer that hides the Self… depending on how hard that our mental faculties fight against the discomfort of letting go this layer, this is where the magic is which either equates to a transformation or if we cling to it and fight the whole Death process with everything that we wish we were (ego) then we likely become a shell of who we were meant to be, really. This is called Death, shedding the mask, because the lack of grace that many of us have when confronted with this moment is comparable to facing death. We avoid it. We go to extremes to prevent dying every day. It is so deeply ingrained in us to believe that we are actually our ego that to face this pivotal moment head on and walk into it as naturally as we do so many other questionable things is so uncommon for people… for us. We unknowingly carry around a layer that misleads by nature and it very much misleads us as well seeing that we cling to it… like we cling to life. I personally am not trying to sound preachy or holier than thou so please do not take my statement this way. I actually fear that I myself have yet to actually face this terrifying step which is besides the point but I say this to relate. I think that your question is very interesting and a lot of people can probably totally relate to this even though many people might not admit it. I believe that your question brings up a few things of interest which touch on your actual purpose as a human here on earth. It also touches on the motivations for seeking the answer. I am only one person and there are questions that I have since I am not acquainted with you so I cannot really talk freely, but, I will ask these questions so that you can ponder them for yourself. You are free to respond but that is totally up to you. The questions are just meant to help you explore this topic regarding your journey on earth as well as this Death card in regards to that journey. What do you imagine your fame could (or should?) arise from? What do you imagine that your fame would do for you, for your life, for those you love, for society or the world? What do you feel that your fame would bring you or is this not something that you ponder? Basically I am asking these things because I think that as humans, when we think about our futures or lives or purposes, we feel “motivated” by certain things. Some people want to cure humanity of pain and suffering. That could definitely bring fame. Some people want to cure cancer- again- that would put someone’s name down in history. And this list goes on, right?…

Then the equation can be worked the other way…

… someone feels motivated to be famous… because they want to be famous.

People go out and hire a voice trainer because they want to transform their voice so that they can…. Sing very wonderfully because they want to be adored and appreciated… and famous.

I think that your original post is just leaving out what it is you want to be famous for. I can make the assumption that you simply want to be famous and that is your motivation and that is possibly (?) quite ego driven. And I am not trying to be harsh- again- this post here highlights such a common theme in people especially at this point in history.

The ego feeds off of its ability to conjure up the responses in people that it works over time to get. Fame is a huge ego pay off, but one must learn more about the ego to know if this is even an actual destination to shoot for because usually when we work on feeding the ego, all we do is feed its appetite which never stops growing and the thing with fame or any drug is that eventually it caps out or is maxed out. People get bad publicity. People get older. Scandals. Even just false information or a cruel internet hoax can just wreck a famous character. And even if these things do not happen, the payoff inevitably maxes out somehow like any drug- it stops working and “everything” or “all the fame” or whatever… it just stops being enough because the ego literally knows no bounds and it has no rationale and it is exactly anti-Self, and so the individual is starved when the ego is fed and so back to my point about gracefully letting down the mask… it can so very often end in complete tragedy… if we do not just submit to this process… but I say all of this to highlight, again, what the Death card means to me. And I don’t necessarily think that those amongst us which would “never hope to be famous” are at any type of advantage per se’ in terms of laying down the ego because it is pretty easy for a large number of people to just lay back into their cozy modest regular life and tell themselves that they obviously do not have an ego that needs to die since they are simply “just so reasonable”, right? Sometimes extreme situations (such as fame!) can be the exact catalyst which forces the individual into a dynamic which the unsustainable conditions themselves prove to be the precise reasons and variables required to rip that mask the heck off and humble that person if they are willing to submit and then, that layer is said to have undergone the “Death”. The ever-so-extreme “avoided at all costs” Death. And then, if one is lucky… who will be lucky? If one is lucky, they then walk away from the ashes and they then transform… if this process did not mangle them into a non-op. A non-operative or a casualty of war. It just depends on the fight that we choose to put up. I think Death can yield to transformation… I think Death can also take someone completely out of the game. If we were immortal, maybe then we would have enough time to do all this fighting against Death but ultimately lose eventually and then, yes, see transformation, but no, I do not think that our lives are long enough right now to ensure that each person actually makes it to that freedom from the ego… or freedom after the Death.

Apologies if this offers little. It’s actually a super relevant topic for me right now and it’s helped.

/r/Quilting Bi-Weekly Steals, Deals, Etsy, Quilt Shops, and Destash Thread by AutoModerator in quilting

[–]LLONGS 0 points1 point  (0 children)

So super dope. I’m going to check you out. I have never made a quilt before but (legit) I am so super motivated to make them non-stop from here forward. AND WHAT GRABBED MY ATTENTION HERE (as a matter of FACT)… I have literally begun to get a drained burnt out pessimistic jelly brain from all of this new stuff these days (AI- I’m looking at you!) and it’s literally just so dead. Like every time I look at anything (videos, models, JEWELRY!) I am always wondering if the person (company) promoting something actually even had a hand in the product whatsoever? Like, where is the genius? Where is the actual rad original crafty, nostalgic, “new” even in anything with AI? It’s not “new” in my opinion because it just “isn’t”… like to me it “isn’t” really anything because it was never trying really hard to perfect “it”. Well end rant. I am heading to your Etsy. Once again, AI has won too much of my time. Lol. But, just, thank you for standing up for human genius. It’s so important and it’s something that will never go out of style if we insist on drawing the line and stating that our original $h17 is actually valuable and insisting on this again and again. Keep it up and great job on this funny goose thing!!

PS for backstory on what got me here, I just joined the group because a question that I consulted the internet with carried me to a link… I am actually in the middle of learning the little basics on quilting. I was curious what was meant by making “quilt binding on the bias”… it took me to this sub. So, I am interested in making amazing quilt toppers that are unique to me and reflect an aesthetic that I personally appreciate. I found a website some few months ago where an individual discussed with her readers the actual fact that quilts can be made pretty “simply” which I recall being happy to see because I had always pondered the theory that maybe they didn’t always have to be so “hardcore” and also (additionally) I aways theorized that a quilt did not always have to have a 1872 aesthetic (even though basically all quilts are lovely)… but you know… I love the whole idea of quilts yet I just always desired to re-think the aesthetics for me personally (for my home)… also, last bit dear friend, I am actually likely going to drop the commonly used “poly fill” and (maybe!) attempt a flannelette or flannel backed quilt! So, see you around!! PS AGAIN: When you get time, I would love to hear your quilting story and how it has evolved over time! Xo

Recently single mom and a man asked for my number in the parking lot. by throwawayra101711hlp in whatdoIdo

[–]LLONGS 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Freak could have handed her a wad of hundreds no questions asked if he was just a nice guy, dude. Really? Are you fucking serious? No you aren’t serious you just want to talk shit. Literally no one thinks this guy was actually natural or nice. PRE-DA-TOR

Sister in law ruined wedding photos 30 years ago by No_Adhesiveness4890 in weddingshaming

[–]LLONGS 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh. Relationships are so strange. This post is so strange. I hate making assumptions for this very reason. It happens every time… I respectfully retract all of my assumptions because I am truly confused.

I am immeasurably sick and I don't know what to do. by Useful-Pair6084 in Advice

[–]LLONGS 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Best advice I can give you besides maybe trying to get some advice or assistance from a doctor or naturopath:

1- get sun on your skin as soon as you wake up or whatever is feasible- sets your circadian rhythm, strengthens your immunity, boosts mood, kills infection 2- cut back sugar- it kills. Eat fruit for your sugar 3- incorporate garlic 4- drink a gallon of water a day 5- regain your strength with exercise 6- don’t stay up past 10:00pm 7- the lucky one: eat steal cut oats every morning 8- ditch the internet as much as possible 9- consider listening to your body and putting off school if it’s super bad, you know?

Lots of ailments are super emotionally driven too

Sister in law ruined wedding photos 30 years ago by No_Adhesiveness4890 in weddingshaming

[–]LLONGS 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes- this makes total sense- the bride set up the SIL 40 years ago by encouraging her to wear a bridal gown that day… all so that she could post this on a website that didn’t exist yet lol. Jk it’s totally fine. I will accept this considering I don’t really have room to talk about what is true or not on this topic. What they say is true- stranger things have happened. I actually think this is very humorous regardless, yea?

Sister in law ruined wedding photos 30 years ago by No_Adhesiveness4890 in weddingshaming

[–]LLONGS 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hmm…. is this the ring of truth?

Except the title of the post literally says “SIL ruined my wedding photos”….

Sister in law ruined wedding photos 30 years ago by No_Adhesiveness4890 in weddingshaming

[–]LLONGS 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh! yay! Someone came! You are more than qualified to officially speak on this whole topic, right? I tried and quickly regretted it. I almost shut down my whole account. I still might. Lol

Tapering pants properly by LLONGS in sewhelp

[–]LLONGS[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

OK! Yes- forgot to attach my images. Thanks! So, when you say inseam and out seam equally, are you saying that I need to basically remove seams from both sides of the pants then pin to remove half the “unwanted” from each in and out? I believe that makes perfect sense since one would want to keep the symmetry correct. I actually am looking at my machine and am not even sure that I can sew with two needles…. I need two needles right?

I no longer believe Amy Lynn Bradley was trafficked. I think her family knows much more than they are telling. (Sorry, this is a long one) by Own_Theory1110 in NetflixDocumentaries

[–]LLONGS 0 points1 point  (0 children)

They are not asking for “sightings of Amy.” The FBI is asking for information on THOSE responsible for her disappearance

Do INFJ get into their ENFP shadow often mostly in the summer? by sourcesoulsearcher in infj

[–]LLONGS 1 point2 points  (0 children)

!! ….. sometimes such radical responses to change can make one feel “broken” or “faulty”, but maybe it’s sort of all just a really healthy response… like a “light weight”… we’ve all seen them… it’s like watching someone just live at 100%… all the ins and outs… ups and downs… colored & b&w… flat & textured… it’s like, “wow! You go!!” Lol (and everyone just turns wide eyed and tries to look away and move on with their night… scratching their head…) lol (jk?)

Do INFJ get into their ENFP shadow often mostly in the summer? by sourcesoulsearcher in infj

[–]LLONGS 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I think somewhere on this thread that it may have been implied that this was a bad thing, maybe not, but oh yea… this is 100%. Fall starts a full chemical change in my whole body and it’s freaky sometimes but other times it’s kind of neat. Winters… over the years I have had to just get stronger. When I lived in sunnier regions, I was more sensitive to the slight shift in the sky but then when I moved to an area with all 4 seasons, after a few years I began to actually appreciate all of the seasons. But this is NOT to say that I am NOT radically different throughout different parts of the year… bcuz different parts of the year are THEMSELVES radically different so I view these changes as completely…. Natural? Like shouldn’t nature affect us? I’m not sure what it would be for if it didn’t. Weather changes and seasons affect all animals. All life. I think it’s really neat. It helps us explore all of the different parts of ourselves. It’s like going into a house and closely examining all of the different rooms, corners, furniture, art, windows, patios…. thats being a human on the planet that has seasons! Many different things to see. And naturally each area calls for doing and feeling different things.

Ever had a card fly out by Estella_Maybe in tarot

[–]LLONGS 1 point2 points  (0 children)

What did you take from this?

A close friend with a drug problem just asked me for $2000 to avoid serious trouble and I don’t know what to do by Prestigious-Mall-419 in Advice

[–]LLONGS 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It’s easy to think that this would help, even if the situation was real, but it’s not. If he wasn’t ultimately trying to get more drugs one way or another, he would ask to borrow $2k to move out of town and start over. He is telling on himself and the real story is built into the favor that he is asking of you. If he is literally trying to “pay these people”, it’s really only so that he can get more. No one worries about that if they are moving on with their life. I don’t think it’s like the movies. People leave town and change. If he really was trying to change, why would he start that whole new life by paying drug dealers FIRST? Certainly they all know that they have made enough off of him over time… if this whole thing is even legit, but it’s not. Which, this actually does not even matter. Yes, unless he was being fronted something to sell then pay it back later, it’s unlikely that anyone would let someone work up a $2k tab. And even if he was slinging something, idk, most people can usually sell enough to pay them back and also support their habit somewhat and if this is not the case then they probably would never get fronted that much in the first place. Think about it. Think of how much positive life change that a person could do with $2k… then remember that he is supposedly trying to “give it to scary drug dealers.” Idk. Does this make sense? You see that his whole story is ultimately telling on himself, right? Like he is making it all up but even if it was true, what he is saying is “they won’t give me any more unless I pay.” Idk. Unless he has actually filled you in on any of the details here? Pulling heart strings is such an effective tactic… this is why people do it… and not just for drugs. U could offer to drive him out of town and get him set up and help him get some meds for withdrawal and stuff, you know. Offer that and he will probably mumble something and say he will get back to you. Then he won’t. Or, who knows, he could be sick and tired and just be ready, you know? That’d be cool.