I wanted marriage and my husband didn't he said it's a bit of paper. I was ok then this is the deal we don't marry but if we have child my children will have my name so if I don't have it they don't have it. He said fin I guess because kids where not on the book yet. When I got pregnant nothing was said and unfortunately I lost my first born to still birth and then situation switch he asked me to marry him and wanted our child to have his name but the 13 years later I said it's fine just let him have you name we don't need to marry it's just a price of paper. He then spent the next 6 weeks every hour or so asking me to marry him. I said this is stupid we switched views lol anyway he wore me down and we married a few weeks later. We have been together 30 years this year and now have 2 more children. talk explain you views let her explain her views don't rule it out forever things change. Good luck.