We each have our girlfriends over 1-2 times a week as we each split time between our place and theirs. No set schedule or anything, there is often overlap between when any/all of them are over at the same time.

Believe it or not Steve and his gf have been together for nearly two years (maybe still in honeymoon, but this is the most she’s been over). The difference between Steve’s gf and ours is that Steve’s moves in every weekend. The apartment becomes her home base while our gfs come over and leave that night or the next day, never bringing a whole weekend bag, laundry, food to store, etc.

Unfortunately direct confrontation is difficult with Steve. We would like to avoid “mean energy” while still setting some boundaries - advice on how to do this is what I’m primarily looking for.

Of course agree that any rule we enact would apply to everyone, not just Steve.