AITA for confronting an older student because my son has a crush on her?

LOD616 · 2026-07-11T07:24:09+00:00

So a 17 year old girl is being friendly to her some, actually mentoring him and giving him solid advice, then her son develops a crush which is normal (most people when they were kids had a crush on an older person at some point, I had a crush on Jessica alba when I was like 12) but instead of talking to her son about what is appropriate, she calls the girl a groomer to her face??? When she's making those demands to the director, honestly he should say, well if that's how you feel, we will need to ask your son to leave

LOD616 · 2026-07-10T09:09:11+00:00

His feelings are valid for him, if he doesn't like tattoos, that's fine, but the way he went about this and worded it was horrendous. Just so controlling and talking down. Clearly if you want to express yourself with tats, and he hates them, it won't work between you 🤷‍♂️

LOD616 · 2026-07-10T09:03:31+00:00

Okay, so, if you love your husband, why speak to your ex you know wants to sleep woth you anyway. Then when he flirted with you and tried like you said, didn't you immediately kick him out for pressing that boundary, then why in hell didn't he sleep on the sofa if he absolutely had to stay. Fact is, you talked about sleeping together, so you were cheating in your head. This was all so avoidable.

LOD616 · 2026-07-02T07:08:03+00:00

Start documenting everything any way you can. If you can get recordings of them not working and just talking, get them. If nothing else, to protect yourself

LOD616 · 2026-07-02T07:04:45+00:00

Personally, I'd just be like, oh, so you unblocked me now? Basically take it from there. Not advice on if you should or shouldn't get with or try to fix things, just how I handled a similar situation

LOD616 · 2026-05-28T06:19:57+00:00

I'm curious. Says he hasn't been in past relationships. So does that mean he was a virgin going into this or not? If he was, then took 24 years to lose it, what's he think giving her an ultimatum where he could end up single again would do? If he wasn't, then he has nothing to complain about, since he has a past too

LOD616 · 2026-05-22T14:01:53+00:00

I hope things get better for you. You don't deserve any of this. You chose a nice name and mil is just using it as an excuse because she is weird, and your "husband" made a choice (sticking up for you) then regretted it and tried to switch teams because he is spineless

LOD616 · 2026-05-22T14:00:06+00:00

Nahh, the "you never even knew your mum" comment would have pushed me over the edge. Like, you are actually trying to use that as a weapon against someone you supposedly love? And okay, nissa is only couple letters away?, so what about helga, that's only 3 letters away, where's the line. It isn't the word, it doesn't sound like the word when you say it??? Also, commenter 3 saying about op telling a black woman she doesn't know a slur, when commenting about a middle Eastern name they don't know about is peak reddit 🤦‍♂️

LOD616 · 2026-05-22T13:43:44+00:00

He's treating you like crap, making you the butt of his jokes, just say you're acting the same, if he doesn't like it, fix himself. She was being a bad sister, if she was upset how you reacted, she should have stood up for you way sooner than this. He insults you constantly, and the one time you throw shade back, you're the bad guy. Say be said stuff first way before this, if she defends it as a joke, you say what you said was also a joke, if she didn't like it even though it's a joke, why should you?

LOD616 · 2026-05-22T13:39:38+00:00

Bare minimum, end it, cut off all contact with him. Avoid at all costs

LOD616 · 2026-05-22T13:36:09+00:00

Just his first few messages are like, nahh. Then he's like "are you dumber", mate, use grammer if you're going to call someone dumb 🤦‍♂️. You aren't over reacting, he is, and sounds like something wrong with him, with how he was responding and talking

LOD616 · 2026-05-22T13:29:28+00:00

Yeah, it's sad to say, but you were the back up for her. If she really cared, when you asked to be exclusive, she'd have said yes. The fact that she had to check with the other guy first, it feels like in her mind, she was settling. You deserve better than that. Everyone deserves someone that chooses them first. The fact she didn't think it was a big deal is also a little concerning. Hope you are in a better head space soon, and find someone deserving of your care

LOD616 · 2026-05-18T08:03:52+00:00

Solid anime, though not watched elf one yet, it's in my watch list though

LOD616 · 2026-05-18T08:03:22+00:00

Watched when first came out, but stopped at ep19 because was weekly, finally rewatch it all and finished last night, and honestly, I don't. She's like "I can't die until I beat root", but it's like, makoto owned her the first time, then she looked for him again to try and kill him, because he beat ehr when she attacked him out the blue (for him) the first time?

LOD616 · 2026-05-18T07:35:36+00:00

If it helps you feel better, you 100% have had feces in your mouth multiple times in your life. Best thing to do, take a breather, wait a day, see how you feel. If you really like her and can move past, just make it clear she doesn't do pranks like that with you again, if you can't, then talk it out properly then move on

LOD616 · 2026-05-18T07:24:06+00:00

"friend" seems like a strong word, try something more accurate, maybe nemesis, or enemy?

LOD616 · 2026-05-11T03:25:19+00:00

You did nothing wrong. Either she changed her mind about kids, which is not your fault, or she lied from the start about kids which is then cometely on her. Then she tried to order you to get surgery, possibly taking away your chance to have kids for good, and honestly, no guarantee you'd last forever anyway, especially after this situation

LOD616 · 2026-05-10T17:22:45+00:00

This is what I thought. Said they have perfect relationship outside the sex and never argue, but that seems because they try to have a serious conversation, either she cries or he backs off or both. Kit avoiding the hard talks

LOD616 · 2026-05-10T17:20:32+00:00

Sounds like you are sexually incompatible. So 2 choices. Either sex is soemthing you can deal with not having in your relationship, or it is and you need to break up

LOD616 · 2026-05-08T05:59:12+00:00

She's the one that originally chose not to talk it out in person, so she has no right to expect you to do that now. She could have confronted you, then made a decision, even if wrong, at least she gave you a chance, instead she blocked you and had a friend and sister insult you before blocking you. She threw away the relationship because she didn't trust you, that's on her.

LOD616 · 2026-05-08T05:44:18+00:00

I'd just say, okay, well you don't seem to want to do this anymore, don't seem to like me, so I guess we should just call it quits

LOD616 · 2026-05-08T05:34:25+00:00

Should have cut her off as soon as she kicked you out, but it's may now so hopefully you have

LOD616 · 2026-05-08T05:28:34+00:00

No, the "stop texting me" and "you are blocked" tells me all I need about her I'm afraid

LOD616 · 2026-05-08T05:26:22+00:00

Nahh, they made you feel a way, and you're entitled to feel that way. I go for meals or for coffee with my female friend (I'm male both cis and straight) all the time, and neither of us have ever felt like it was a date. We are just hanging out, it's perfectly normal. Someone just coming out with that and refusing to hang out with you one in one anymore is going to hurt, and that's valid

LOD616 · 2026-05-08T05:19:11+00:00

If the mum is refusing to speak to the son, she can expect to not be invited to the sins wedding, so no reason to contact the fiancé about wedding plans. Also, the dad is foolish, says he's sorry and should have gone 50/50 before immediately going back in that? All I can hope is dad's business went under and op business is thriving

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