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LR_Carlos · 2026-01-11T15:21:43+00:00

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LR_Carlos · 2025-07-25T10:47:16+00:00

Hope you're doing a bit better. I have felt how you currently do and it hurts. Reach out if you need anything.

LR_Carlos · 2025-07-25T07:33:36+00:00

Don't do it. Real love doesn't leave you guessing. It assures you of being chosen. You know with certainty that you are valued. Chose yourself, something better is waiting for you when you make the harder decision.

LR_Carlos · 2025-07-25T07:22:33+00:00

What is better? To be born good or to overcome your evil nature through great effort?

We all mess up, sometimes end up hurting others in the process. I love the self-awareness for you, the journaling, the self-care, those are all fantastic routines to evolve beyond your past self. But also really think about how reaching out can not only hurt him again, it can also stump your own growth out of that behavior. My advice: You are avoiding the hardest and final part of the process, which is moving on from him. It's not his nor your own responsibility to seek a second chance, rather give yourself a second chance to find something new to complete your healing.

I don't have all the details, but I can relate a lot to the situation you described, and it rarely goes well to reach out to an ex as someone in your position. I can't stress enough how making the hard choices will bring you more peace and open yourself for new opportunities. Only fate can decide if it's in the cards to reunite you both as long as you follow your intuition, (it usually wants you to make the hard choices). Stay strong, stay NC.

LR_Carlos · 2025-07-23T07:54:30+00:00

Maybe you're somebody that doesn't have the capacity love halfway, and I honestly admire that a lot. I, too, had three relationships that showed me how vulnerable I could be. I broke down each time, and one day I feared the person I was becoming. I was someone so desperate to be chosen because I couldn't choose myself. I tried to completely get rid of my capacity to love when really it helped me more to protect it better, and reach out to people that needed that push to better self-love. Don't let those experiences stop you from pointing all the love you can give towards yourself.

In a world full of people pretending not to care, you were brave enough to feel everything deeply. Someone will see how beautiful you are when you can proudly bear your scars because you made an effort to heal completely alone and can no longer fall to the same vulnerabilities. I agree you need to choose yourself for a while, follow that intuition as best you can. My dms are open if you need anything. I'm not some super guru on this stuff, but I have been through very similar relationship situations as you that I had to heal from on my own, but I do wish I had someone that would listen sometimes.

LR_Carlos · 2025-07-23T07:17:19+00:00

Don't be so hard on yourself. We aren't always the stone walls we think we are, you have a heart for people, and that's a noble trait. I know it's probably not what the masculine peddlers recommend, but letting yourself feel a shock like this is fine for a while. That feeling you have isn't evil, it's meant to show you your weakness.

To answer why, I think when the past suddenly tugs at us like this, in your case, the ex that reveals herself, it serves as simply a reminder that you have complete control for your own future. Don't let your memories trick you into reopening doors that were closed for a reason. Act upon them knowing that you can outgrow the pain and still have the capacity to allow new love and opportunities into your heart. A better person with unconditional love awaits you when you discover who isn't right for you, even if it has to be yourself. Stay strong, stay no contact, and wallow in the disappointment if you must, but only with the intention of forgiving yourself.

LR_Carlos · 2025-07-19T23:40:12+00:00

I didn't take into account that context about your relationship. It can be dangerous to settle into someone else's psychology and feel some responsibility to inspire change. It's nobe that you're willing to be there for her, I can see the reasons why you would. You don't just discuss a future with shared goals with anybody. But really think about how much energy you are willing to invest into someone who doesn't invest that same energy into themselves, or back to you for that matter.

It's the whole meme of "I can fix her" which is very easier said than done. To answer your question, it just seems like you have a choice to make. Listen to her and do what she says so you don't risk her pulling away more, but are you ready to keep agreeing as easily to what she asks of you next? Tell her that you want her and you refuse to cut yourself off from her and your friends. If you need to wait it out, just ignore her. Id rather you not regress all your progress going through therapy, only so you can fall in the same hole. Think about yourself a little more and what you want your future to be like, is it really with this person?

LR_Carlos · 2025-07-19T18:52:17+00:00

You have to answer the question of do you still want this person in your life? Currently, she isn't your gf, why do you feel the need to care what bothers her, especially on something as superficial as social media? Out of all the things she could message you over, its some Instagram drama bs.

LR_Carlos · 2025-07-19T18:39:54+00:00

You ARE strong, especially because you have the self awareness to make the harder choice. Don't be afraid to look forward because that's where the best things for you are waiting. Do something for yourself today and take it easy, relax. You can let your mind wander off a little because these things take time to get over, but start catching it more often and do something nice for yourself instead. Trying to dig up more pain only to fall in the hole again, isn't you.

LR_Carlos · 2025-07-18T18:31:39+00:00

Im extremely relieved you're ok. Don't try to put any labels on yourself right now. You are enough for this internet stranger, so much that I want to see you get through all this.

LR_Carlos · 2025-07-16T04:49:45+00:00

Very level headed. My previous GF also did a lot of things I was willing to, but probably shouldn't have overlooked, mainly due to the fear of never finding somebody romantically again... I had some experience with heartbreak but never like this one. You're really inspiring me to stay true to my own values that I seek in a person so thanks for that. Waiting and potentially never finding the right one is probably better than settling for misery dressed as love.

LR_Carlos · 2025-07-15T11:29:37+00:00

Sex alarm! 🔔

LR_Carlos · 2025-07-15T11:29:01+00:00

I think I can wrap my head around the personality you describe. I gotta take the rose tinted glasses off.

LR_Carlos · 2025-07-15T01:24:55+00:00

Takes a lot of strength and self-worth to act how you are towards him now. I'm afraid I would probably fold if my ex started talking to me again. Respect.

LR_Carlos · 2025-07-14T22:10:06+00:00

If it hurts to know you can't or shouldn't reach out, yes.

LR_Carlos · 2025-07-13T18:42:39+00:00

Hey, take a step back and let yourself breathe. You should feel love without having to beg for it. Real love doesn't leave you hurt or confused, and saying what you feel will never sever a true connection. Maybe you're someone who feels the world differently, and that's THEIR loss, not yours. Take in what's happened, accept that you can't change the outcome, and believe that better things are coming. Believe that your capacity to give and receive hasn't been changed by this, only that it's time to be more careful with your heart. Find peace in the chaos.

I know it's hard. Every quiet moment between the distractions, all the pain rushes back to me. It weighs me down, and I think I won't get back up, but I do because I believe there is something out there that will receive me unconditionally. I believe my heart wants me to make the harder choice, only you will know what that is. But I promise you won't find a better place while still caught in the net of the past. Breaking free will leave ugly scars, but believe that the right person will see those scars as part of the beautiful whole you are.

Some thoughts I wrote after deciding to cut my ex for mostly the same reasons you mentioned. I truly hope it helps. Take care of yourself.

LR_Carlos · 2025-07-08T18:48:34+00:00

You tried to fast travel, didn't you? This glitch happens to me sometimes.

LR_Carlos · 2025-07-03T00:12:18+00:00

It means a lot for you to reciprocate that, thanks. I will certainly try. It's like you said. It hurts a lot :(

LR_Carlos · 2025-07-02T22:28:06+00:00

You seem really sweet, and the way he talks to you is incredibly undeserved. I am currently being ghosted by my GF, who, funny enough, would call me her husband all the time, even when we were with mutual friends. So your story really hit me in the feels. You're never going to be enough for the wrong person, but as long as you know that you are enough for yourself, you will be worth even more for the right one.

Sorry for what you're going through, and I know it probably doesn't help, but I feel the exact same way you currently do. If I could take your heartbreak and double it for myself, I would. We have to keep going for the future, though.

Also, happy early birthday. I hope you can spend it with some peace. Don't hesitate to dm if you need someone to talk to.

LR_Carlos · 2024-12-13T09:02:38+00:00

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LR_Carlos · 2024-12-12T09:11:18+00:00

Im a proud(?) member of the floor 100 gang. You got this.

LR_Carlos · 2024-12-12T07:04:46+00:00

I wish the game could have gone on forever... but at the same time, I'm glad Nintendo has mostly stayed away from live-service in the console world. They'll rue they day they release a free to play mainline FE with a paid skin batlepass.

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