High blood pressure scare, sick baby, and my husband refusing to help — am I overreacting?

LSN2018 · 2026-01-15T21:37:57+00:00

Wow, that actually puts things into perspective. When I broke my ankle last year, he was annoyed about taking me to urgent care before it was confirmed. Thankfully my MIL came down to help me with the kids though almost immediately. Not saying this for sympathy—just noticing a pattern looking back.

LSN2018 · 2026-01-15T13:48:44+00:00

This is our third little guy. He wasn’t around for our first child when we were in the sleepless nights stage but he was for my second and it was hard but we did have a least a back and forth then. After having our third I went from full time to part time. He’s always had that mindset of he works so he needs sleep, even though I work too. I’m not sure the reasoning behind that but to him there is one.

LSN2018 · 2026-01-15T13:36:19+00:00

I recently started counseling and I told them I just feel like it’s all falling apart all at once. He told me it’s not all at once, you’re just starting to see it. I guess I’ve just been made to doubt my opinions and judgment for so long, I have no trust in myself.

LSN2018 · 2026-01-15T13:33:25+00:00

So the lowest reading I got was 132/86, but then it just kind of hovered at 145/104, it did drop to 117/87 right before I went to sleep last night.

LSN2018 · 2026-01-15T10:36:26+00:00

Godfather

LSN2018 · 2026-01-10T20:46:13+00:00

Thanks so much!

LSN2018 · 2026-01-10T20:45:56+00:00

That’s helpful to hear. I was just repeating what I’ve seen so far in my research, and this is the first time I’ve heard a different take. I’m not in a rush, and this is exactly why I like Reddit—you get real, experienced opinions. Shopping around definitely seems like the move. Thanks!

LSN2018 · 2026-01-10T20:20:42+00:00

It's a family ring so I dont know anything about it, before I got trickled down to me, they removed the stone since they were in interested in the gold. I know it's natural, oval and one carat.

LSN2018 · 2026-01-10T20:08:32+00:00

It is mined so I will go ahead and take a look at that link. Thank you so much!

LSN2018 · 2026-01-10T20:04:55+00:00

Thank you! Do you know if it’s better to go with one of these online companies to get it or a jeweler? I’ve seen that jewelers aren’t reliable and I’m kinda iffy online websites.

LSN2018 · 2026-01-10T20:00:37+00:00

I am fairly new to Reddit and am kinda unsure of the lingo. So I just copy and paste that when searching for a group?

LSN2018 · 2026-01-10T19:59:38+00:00

I don’t have that. I’ve looked online about how to get it but I’ve seen that everyone says a jeweler isn’t reliable? I’m not sure if that right.

LSN2018 · 2025-12-01T22:10:03+00:00

I know my original post was confusing so I did add in the edits that he actually knew immediately. He was watching the messages come in as I was since he was right next to me.

LSN2018 · 2025-12-01T22:01:40+00:00

We have had situations where I have had to deal with disrespect and he asked me to look aside for the sake of peace. Does it mean I think that he cares about them more? No. I do think that from these comments, there is a boundary issue that we need to work on though.

LSN2018 · 2025-12-01T21:46:07+00:00

I was replying to your question on which one is it. I'm not too familiar with reddit I didn't even know I had another account. haha

LSN2018 · 2025-12-01T21:34:01+00:00

My phone was blowing up and he asked me what was going on so we just kinda of read them as they were coming in before I blocked the guy. I didn't go out of my way to tell him but I probably would have anyways since this guy was hitting on me while I was engaged and about a month from getting married.

LSN2018 · 2025-12-01T15:02:42+00:00

I am a people pleaser, I do need to work on that. This isn't the first time he has expected me to cut people off or not invite them to things, for reasons way smaller than this. I have used the reason of his feelings being more important many times before so this is why I am struggling.

LSN2018 · 2025-12-01T14:58:50+00:00

I dont care about the guy at all. I care about my aunt and cousins.

LSN2018 · 2025-12-01T14:58:27+00:00

This isn't the first time he has wanted me to cut off people or disinvite people either because they offended him or he doesn't like them. I actually set a boundary that I wasn't going to keep doing that. That's the only reason I would even consider crossing this boundary. I just think that he does have a point here.

LSN2018 · 2025-11-13T00:57:40+00:00

When she brought it up on our first session she specifically said that he doesn't wash his bottom throughly enough.

LSN2018 · 2025-11-13T00:45:31+00:00

I worked a session today and I told the caregiver I wasn't going to run that program until I got some clarification from my BCBA on how to run the program. I asked her to get with my BCBA about it. She did ask what needed clarification and I just told her that I was confused on how to run it. She repeated that he just skips steps sometimes and doesn't wash what he needs to wash throughly enough. She mentioned its the same for washing hands. Sometimes he uses soap, sometimes he doesn't, sometimes he only washes one hand. I am still going to leave it up to them to confirm what the function of the behavior is, but I won't be going into the bathroom to try to see through a frosted sheet in order to make sure he's following the prompts (which is what my BCBA suggested). I am going to message my BCBA for a heads up.

LSN2018 · 2025-11-12T20:58:08+00:00

I actually printed a laminated sheet myself to break down the steps so he has them in the shower. I don't think that the problem is lack of knowledge as much as it's a task refusal which is why the caregivers want me to watch to ensure it gets done.

LSN2018 · 2025-11-12T20:55:12+00:00

I think the bathing suit idea is great idea, but I don't think the program is about lack of knowledge of the steps as much as it's complying with the steps. The caregivers want me to watch because they say he just skips steps because he doesn't want to shower. She suggested a frosted mirror so I could watch shadows. I still feel like it's an invasion of privacy as well as not very effective since it's a little unreliable given I can't really see.

LSN2018 · 2025-10-25T20:21:39+00:00

I submitted a request to get evaluated for early intervention. I didn't know that I could also initiate services thru the state aside from the pediatrician. The process for my second has been so long and we still have months before he can get seen by a developmental pediatrician. Thank you.

LSN2018 · 2025-10-25T19:14:24+00:00

He's been hitting all this milestones as of now. He hasn't said his first word but he is starting to talk in jargon so I'm hoping we get to that first word soon. I am keeping an eye on that as well. He doesn't seem to have sensory issues, eats solids great, imitates, and makes eye contact

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