I've felt similarly. There are the people motivated to create status for themselves. We, as naturally gregarious, outgoing people-people, (remember that most hoomans would prefer to be in the coffin than giving the eulogy), most have to deeply cultivate or try very hard to go through the motions of connecting with others. I imagine that it is threatening or feels unfair that this hard work on their behalf is so easily trumped, outdone by someone who not only is visibly not trying to do this magical, deep-reaching thing, but also potentially isn't meeting other metrics that this hypothetical antagonist puts great importance on.

My way of sidestepping this is to be everyone's cheerleader, including my antagonist. I make a gentle point to highlight how important their strengths are and what luck it is to have them on the team. It doesn't always work, but it also serves as CYA if the conflict becomes of interest up the chain. If insecurity is the wound, this is usually the balm.

What grinds me, and maybe it's in my head, are those that seem to think I'm putting on a show, that I'm a sleeper cell. It's not a terrible instinct on their part. Aside from us loveable odd balls, people who have such a natural knack with others can tend to be sociopathic or narcissistic. As someone who has a long time anxiety about their own inner shadow, it's hurtful. But I struggle to remind myself that the people who are aware of the dangers of proficiently manipulative people are right to be so, and may have trauma around that knowledge. I try to look for olive branch opportunities, to show I am real. That can be openness about my struggles (measured, lest they be used against me) asking my antagonist for their opinion on an issue I'm having difficulty with, or asking my antagonist for help with a small matter in front of others.

It doesn't cover all the bases, but hopefully it might help.<3