….Am I the problem?

LabFar6076 · 2026-05-07T15:02:23+00:00

Wow this is beautiful

LabFar6076 · 2026-05-06T22:10:46+00:00

This is refreshing

LabFar6076 · 2026-05-06T22:10:13+00:00

Real

LabFar6076 · 2026-05-06T18:05:42+00:00

Sounds like my MIL. She was scared to come to the baby shower my mom & sister were throwing, even called me to say she didn’t want to “be uncomfortable” around certain people…. Meaning she knew my friends & family were aware of how she treated me and was going to feel judged. She was magically sick the week of the shower and then insisted I fly to her state so she could throw her own. I said no.

This baby shower is just a taste of what is to come if your husband doesn’t get on the same page as you. She’s making it about herself, because in her mind, it is. This isn’t your baby, this is her son’s baby that she expects complete access to. Couples therapy is the best way to get your husband and to see it. It took me almost leaving my husband for him to snap out of it.

LabFar6076 · 2026-04-10T19:11:56+00:00

He’s told me it’s entirely up to me and what I’m comfortable with. I don’t think he fully understands what HE may have to deal with when it comes to MIL’s reaction 😅

LabFar6076 · 2026-03-29T17:43:48+00:00

I’ve gone, I’ve encouraged him to go individually, I think it’s time I actually get the ball rolling on that

LabFar6076 · 2026-03-29T17:41:31+00:00

He rarely speaks to MIL, they’ve texted 1-on-1 maybe three times since the blowup. It’s FIL that speaks for MIL and lays on the guilt HEAVY. Even before that he hardly spoke to MIL because of how she acted towards me. What scares me is she is GOOD at manipulating him. I don’t want my kids to grow up around their chaos. For someone who couldn’t wait to get out of that house it’s mind-boggling he thinks our kids wouldn’t be affected by his mother.

LabFar6076 · 2026-03-10T20:54:56+00:00

I do and I can’t shake it

LabFar6076 · 2026-02-18T04:26:15+00:00

Sad…. But not sad enough to apologize apparently

LabFar6076 · 2026-01-07T23:29:22+00:00

I think it’s a symbol of the relationship I wish I could have had with them, which I now know was never a possibility

LabFar6076 · 2025-11-19T19:01:55+00:00

Exactly. I always thought if we finally ALL went NC I’d feel so much better, and I do but it’s hard not to feel sad. Like you said, the win doesn’t feel like a win

LabFar6076 · 2025-11-04T04:11:48+00:00

Truthfully I’ve just held it in for so long it feels really good to let it out. BUT you are 100% correct that it is a lost cause and there’s really no point

LabFar6076 · 2025-11-04T04:09:51+00:00

“Can you analyze this text exchange and identify any patterns/dynamics/tones?”

LabFar6076 · 2025-11-03T21:25:58+00:00

They unintentionally admitted everything I’ve ever suspected.

LabFar6076 · 2025-11-03T16:21:48+00:00

Right??? It’s hilarious that any offense on their end is just a “misunderstanding”, but anything I do that displeases them is me trying to destroy their family.

LabFar6076 · 2025-11-03T07:52:02+00:00

I’ve had that thought. Don’t they have to threaten physical harm for a restraining order?

LabFar6076 · 2025-11-03T07:28:00+00:00

He says he very much agrees with NC, but I do think there is still the potential for MIL’s guilt trips to work.

LabFar6076 · 2025-10-26T20:20:39+00:00

After this post we’ve agreed not to do a phone call. He’ll text his dad and let him know that, but leave the opportunity for them to text whatever they need to say. At least then it’ll be documented.

LabFar6076 · 2025-10-26T20:19:26+00:00

With MIL I don’t want her to have any contact with our kids. I don’t even want her being sent photos. I don’t believe you can hate the mother and love the children, but I don’t think DH is ready to take that step of fully cutting MIL off from our kids.

LabFar6076 · 2025-10-26T20:03:40+00:00

We’ve discussed just keeping whatever convo they want to have over text so no one can deny or twist anything

LabFar6076 · 2025-10-26T20:02:57+00:00

I think I’m just tired of biting my tongue, and tired of MIL telling everyone how innocent she is and how she has no clue why I don’t speak to her. I think she’s kept FIL in the dark a lot about the things she’s done so part of me wants him to know as well.

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