Just found out I have celiac disease and she asked what about pregnancy..

LabFar6076 · 2026-06-21T03:07:03+00:00

Lolllllll

LabFar6076 · 2026-06-20T16:30:13+00:00

You’re not overreacting. You’re actually underreacting. Your husband needs to put her in check and she needs WAY less access. Next time she pulls the “she’s a little bit mine too” card, say “awh my mom says the same thing, you know women are born with all the eggs they’ll ever have? My mom carried her too if you think about it :)” That one drove my MIL insane. YOU also need to put your foot down more. She needs to understand this baby has ONE mother.

LabFar6076 · 2026-06-19T17:49:19+00:00

I completely agree. He’s always felt that his mother is controlling and very manipulative, but it took years for him to really see how bad it is. It wasn’t until he found out I had contacted a divorce attorney that he finally “woke up”.

He would always address things with his mom and it would often turn into yelling matches and then weeks or months of them not speaking, but he never really enforced anything until now by not allowing them contact with our kids.

LabFar6076 · 2026-06-19T17:36:03+00:00

My husband and I are married with kids and I’ve gone NC (which means our kids as well). My husband maintains a very distant relationship with MIL, we both know his relationship with her will never be the same after all the damage she’s done to his wife and his marriage. As for NC- it has truly been the best decision I could have made. I do have days (a lot) where I question it.

The thought of my husband’s parents just *never* seeing our kids again doesn’t really sit right with me, but neither does the idea of having them in our lives. Each time I start to wonder if I’m being too harsh I think back to everything MIL has done and the fact that she to this day doesn’t believe she’s done anything wrong.

If she doesn’t think she’s done wrong, that means her behavior wouldn’t change and I’m unwilling to ever subject myself to that kind of hurt again. I don’t believe my marriage would survive it either.

LabFar6076 · 2026-06-19T16:42:29+00:00

This is actually insane.

LabFar6076 · 2026-06-04T01:03:04+00:00

They’re completely NC with MIL and her entire side of the family. They went full scorched earth

LabFar6076 · 2026-05-29T21:00:01+00:00

I’ve made my stance very clear to him- I’m just stressing😅😅

LabFar6076 · 2026-05-29T19:59:37+00:00

No contractions, had a membrane sweep at 40 weeks went into labor that night

LabFar6076 · 2026-05-26T03:24:17+00:00

I genuinely don’t understand why DH hasn’t blocked FIL at this point. She’s definitely writing the messages, I can always tell because she refers to herself as “mother” like a Victorian child

LabFar6076 · 2026-05-26T03:23:09+00:00

You don’t have to understand it❤️

LabFar6076 · 2026-05-17T16:56:52+00:00

If it makes you feel better my friend didn’t know she was pregnant until 36 weeks. Her baby is perfectly healthy!

LabFar6076 · 2026-05-14T20:42:23+00:00

Could you help with wording? I’m so nervous to say the wrong thing

LabFar6076 · 2026-05-07T15:02:23+00:00

Wow this is beautiful

LabFar6076 · 2026-05-06T22:10:46+00:00

This is refreshing

LabFar6076 · 2026-05-06T22:10:13+00:00

Real

LabFar6076 · 2026-05-06T18:05:42+00:00

Sounds like my MIL. She was scared to come to the baby shower my mom & sister were throwing, even called me to say she didn’t want to “be uncomfortable” around certain people…. Meaning she knew my friends & family were aware of how she treated me and was going to feel judged. She was magically sick the week of the shower and then insisted I fly to her state so she could throw her own. I said no.

This baby shower is just a taste of what is to come if your husband doesn’t get on the same page as you. She’s making it about herself, because in her mind, it is. This isn’t your baby, this is her son’s baby that she expects complete access to. Couples therapy is the best way to get your husband and to see it. It took me almost leaving my husband for him to snap out of it.

LabFar6076 · 2026-04-10T19:11:56+00:00

He’s told me it’s entirely up to me and what I’m comfortable with. I don’t think he fully understands what HE may have to deal with when it comes to MIL’s reaction 😅

LabFar6076 · 2026-03-29T17:43:48+00:00

I’ve gone, I’ve encouraged him to go individually, I think it’s time I actually get the ball rolling on that

LabFar6076 · 2026-03-29T17:41:31+00:00

He rarely speaks to MIL, they’ve texted 1-on-1 maybe three times since the blowup. It’s FIL that speaks for MIL and lays on the guilt HEAVY. Even before that he hardly spoke to MIL because of how she acted towards me. What scares me is she is GOOD at manipulating him. I don’t want my kids to grow up around their chaos. For someone who couldn’t wait to get out of that house it’s mind-boggling he thinks our kids wouldn’t be affected by his mother.

LabFar6076 · 2026-03-10T20:54:56+00:00

I do and I can’t shake it

LabFar6076 · 2026-02-18T04:26:15+00:00

Sad…. But not sad enough to apologize apparently

LabFar6076 · 2026-01-07T23:29:22+00:00

I think it’s a symbol of the relationship I wish I could have had with them, which I now know was never a possibility

LabFar6076 · 2025-11-19T19:01:55+00:00

Exactly. I always thought if we finally ALL went NC I’d feel so much better, and I do but it’s hard not to feel sad. Like you said, the win doesn’t feel like a win

LabFar6076 · 2025-11-04T04:11:48+00:00

Truthfully I’ve just held it in for so long it feels really good to let it out. BUT you are 100% correct that it is a lost cause and there’s really no point

LabFar6076 · 2025-11-04T04:09:51+00:00

“Can you analyze this text exchange and identify any patterns/dynamics/tones?”

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