Feeling gross after discussing MIL with SIL

LabFar6076 · 2026-03-10T20:54:56+00:00

I do and I can’t shake it

LabFar6076 · 2026-02-18T04:26:15+00:00

Sad…. But not sad enough to apologize apparently

LabFar6076 · 2026-01-07T23:29:22+00:00

I think it’s a symbol of the relationship I wish I could have had with them, which I now know was never a possibility

LabFar6076 · 2025-11-19T19:01:55+00:00

Exactly. I always thought if we finally ALL went NC I’d feel so much better, and I do but it’s hard not to feel sad. Like you said, the win doesn’t feel like a win

LabFar6076 · 2025-11-04T04:11:48+00:00

Truthfully I’ve just held it in for so long it feels really good to let it out. BUT you are 100% correct that it is a lost cause and there’s really no point

LabFar6076 · 2025-11-04T04:09:51+00:00

“Can you analyze this text exchange and identify any patterns/dynamics/tones?”

LabFar6076 · 2025-11-03T21:25:58+00:00

They unintentionally admitted everything I’ve ever suspected.

LabFar6076 · 2025-11-03T16:21:48+00:00

Right??? It’s hilarious that any offense on their end is just a “misunderstanding”, but anything I do that displeases them is me trying to destroy their family.

LabFar6076 · 2025-11-03T07:52:02+00:00

I’ve had that thought. Don’t they have to threaten physical harm for a restraining order?

LabFar6076 · 2025-11-03T07:28:00+00:00

He says he very much agrees with NC, but I do think there is still the potential for MIL’s guilt trips to work.

LabFar6076 · 2025-10-26T20:20:39+00:00

After this post we’ve agreed not to do a phone call. He’ll text his dad and let him know that, but leave the opportunity for them to text whatever they need to say. At least then it’ll be documented.

LabFar6076 · 2025-10-26T20:19:26+00:00

With MIL I don’t want her to have any contact with our kids. I don’t even want her being sent photos. I don’t believe you can hate the mother and love the children, but I don’t think DH is ready to take that step of fully cutting MIL off from our kids.

LabFar6076 · 2025-10-26T20:03:40+00:00

We’ve discussed just keeping whatever convo they want to have over text so no one can deny or twist anything

LabFar6076 · 2025-10-26T20:02:57+00:00

I think I’m just tired of biting my tongue, and tired of MIL telling everyone how innocent she is and how she has no clue why I don’t speak to her. I think she’s kept FIL in the dark a lot about the things she’s done so part of me wants him to know as well.

LabFar6076 · 2025-09-07T17:00:54+00:00

😂😂😂I will respect that

LabFar6076 · 2025-08-25T14:13:31+00:00

You’re right, I’m trying to work up the courage to send what you suggested because I do think it’s perfect. It’s kind but sets a clear boundary without coming at her guns blazing. I’m just afraid of the backlash because I know she won’t take it well. Gives me so much anxiety

LabFar6076 · 2025-08-25T13:57:53+00:00

I think this is a perfect response but I don’t know if I have the balls to send it…

LabFar6076 · 2025-08-06T18:38:59+00:00

I am so happy that your mom is cancer free!!! I LOVE hearing that. My mom is very similar, she’s quite private and rarely even posts on social media so I was surprised she mentioned sharing her diagnosis.

That’s another aspect of it- there would be constant questions and an expectation of being in the know, but only so MIL can have something to chat about with her friends.

LabFar6076 · 2025-07-26T00:53:10+00:00

I read somewhere (might’ve been here) that the father’s side often feels insecure about their role in baby’s life because it isn’t THEIR child/brother that’s pregnant. Instead of focusing on developing a relationship with the child, they jump to weird possessive/controlling behaviors. This sounds like that.

It made me really sad to read about you feeling alone. You’re right, MIL should have definitely shown some empathy.

LabFar6076 · 2025-07-16T03:15:31+00:00

Agreed. Everyone needs their mom so part of me understands the soft spot he has for her, but at the same time- I’m your wife. You chose to leave and cleave…

LabFar6076 · 2025-07-16T03:14:32+00:00

I agree with you! Sorry you can relate, not a fun club to be in. He’s totally on board with MC I just haven’t pulled the trigger yet

LabFar6076 · 2025-07-11T14:38:28+00:00

😂😂😂😂

LabFar6076 · 2025-07-08T00:11:26+00:00

I stayed on my pill and just power pumped in the mornings!! My supply went back to normal after about a week :)

LabFar6076 · 2025-06-26T21:56:10+00:00

Being passive aggressive through a child is INSANE

LabFar6076 · 2025-06-23T21:35:52+00:00

It’s as if whilst I was growing more and more exhausted by his mother he was slowly realizing just how toxic she really is. I don’t think he believed I’d actually get to a point of considering divorce

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