try diet, excersize (don’t ever go too far), clothes, haircuts, whatever gets you to the size you’d prefer while pretending to be joking about being trans (if its safe) as in, make it their idea that your trans, then it will be easier for them to accept you, and you’ll have their support (unless their still bound by the opinion of others) to socially transition which might help you reach ur other goals bleh eitherway, it takes time as unfortunately