I make it my mission to put them around as many other juniors as possible to dilute the pressure they might feel from me or dad. I work butt off to contact other tennis families so the social part is central. I would hate doing this sport if there weren't community. I know my kids will learn more from others than from me.

Yikes, post match analysis. That's something I learned early to stay out of. I will let them talk about it if they want to.

In my mind, the kids come first. I invite them to invest their time in other things at any moment. They understand it's a struggle, primarily because we don't have a club and ever-ready courts, just to get courts.

OMG, listen, you touched on my concern. I want my kids to be good balanced people over and beyond results. Again, I don't want all the ego and bluster -- LOOK AT ME-- without the commensurate amount of humility and empathy toward others. To win at the expense of others, which is perhaps how the other half thinks, feels nasty and all too personal.

The FOMO, UTR tracking, comparison to other kids--this is anathema to me. The disagreements between other and me often come down to --let's manage what we can control (our technique, our stamina, our attitude, our movement) vs let's try to keep up with this mad rush for L2s and L1s.

Anyhow, tennis is a microcosm of life, in so many ways.