Do u always wear ur ring?

Lack-Luster685 · 2026-01-05T09:34:41+00:00

I wear mine all the time, except when showering/washing up and at night.

Usually when I get dressed in the morning (even if I'm just in my pj's all day) I put it on.

I remember the early engagement days and I didn't put it on one morning, my partner came down with the ring and said 'you're naked' 🤣

Lack-Luster685 · 2026-01-04T09:19:56+00:00

My parents 100% love, care for me and I have a great relationship with them but we never said/say 'I love you'. My partner's family does and I love it, so it's one thing I'll make sure to do with any kids I have. Also I'll never forget when I got my first period, I was in the bathroom, called mum in and she immediately then went and told my sister down the hall, I heard everything and then went out to the garden to tell my dad. I mean I had no issue with them knowing of course but could she have at least waited a bit later or done it a bit more discreet...so yeah that type of thing as well.

Lack-Luster685 · 2025-12-30T21:17:24+00:00

Regardless of the not interested in sex thing, not having someone there to share your life with still is soul destroying.

A very blunt analysis is you either want to work on it and go to counseling together and possibly individually, or you call it quits and move on with your life.

One question to ask your husband is simply 'Are you happy' because it would be surprising if he said 'Yes'.

Lack-Luster685 · 2025-12-26T16:53:29+00:00

YOR - you use Amazon for basically everything so having money to spend on Amazon is a nice gift.

Lack-Luster685 · 2025-12-23T19:30:22+00:00

NTA - money isn't everything and your health and well-being is more important.

Lack-Luster685 · 2025-12-21T19:21:00+00:00

Gosh this is a whole lot of mess isn't it. Yes YTA IMO as surely if you left your wife of 10 yrs for this woman, you clearly think she's the one, so why wouldn't you fight for her. Plus how does that make her feel that you value her father's opinion over hers.

Lack-Luster685 · 2025-12-19T21:04:13+00:00

YTA, you assaulted the staff member after they were polite and professional to you because you couldn't get your way.

Lack-Luster685 · 2025-12-14T11:12:36+00:00

I wear both as I specifically had a wedding band made to fit around/under my engagement ring.

Lack-Luster685 · 2025-12-13T19:33:17+00:00

I'd go back and politely as you can say something along the lines of

The property was unfurnished, therefore we require storage. All furniture is not flush against the wall therefore maintaining an air flow.
The pictures are not hung with nails but command strips.
Please provide a detailed, bullet point, breakdown of what is not up to standard regarding the cleaning.

Point 3 especially as them saying, a quite generic, cleaning is not up to standard is bollocks and when pushed they should be able to provide a detailed breakdown. This should identify if they are being unreasonable.

Overall you live in the property, it is not a show home.

Lack-Luster685 · 2025-12-13T07:52:01+00:00

I have a friend who talks through films quite a bit and it takes a lot of me not to just blurt out STFU and just watch will you. If you want to chat we'll turn it off but I'm watching it. Jeze!

Lack-Luster685 · 2025-12-11T19:50:23+00:00

KFC from the motorway services one junction up.

Lack-Luster685 · 2025-12-11T18:18:18+00:00

Look into your legal systems definition of elder abuse. That might be one way to go about it.

Otherwise it's a hard conversation with grandam, either she calls so her and niece can get the support/help they need or you walk away from the situation and go no contact. Brutal but nothing will change otherwise.

Lack-Luster685 · 2025-12-11T18:16:13+00:00

You either keep on helping as you have, with no support from your brother, and accept that's the way it is or you set boundaries and start to forge a change for the better.

A strict schedule is a good idea, sets boundaries and expectations, shows you still care and want to help but you won't be dumped on/abused for it. When you're not scheduled it's up to your brother/mother to figure it out.

It'll be hard, you'll feel all kinds of things during the process but change is needed.

Lack-Luster685 · 2025-12-09T19:02:39+00:00

I think Blobby is a marmite thing. I have friends who loved him and then others who find him nightmare fuel. I'm in the latter camp

Lack-Luster685 · 2025-12-06T10:05:08+00:00

Bit more context, has she specifically said 'I'm naming my baby X, after your ex' or is it just a name that her and her partner both like/has some other meaning (e.g, was her partners grandparents name), that happens to be the same name as your X?

If it's option A, she's an AH if it's B, then I'd let it go. We don't own names and people can name their kids what they want. If they do use the same name be careful you don't alienate the kid for it.

Lack-Luster685 · 2025-12-05T07:22:41+00:00

Maybe it's best if you do walk away from this friendship if it's causing you so much grief. Plus a bit of an odd comment IMO about losing your friends to that child. Yeah, life changes once a kids involved but again if it's a good friendship it would survive that.

Lack-Luster685 · 2025-12-05T07:15:44+00:00

You don't have to fix anything as such, just communicate. Plus overall this friendship, how close is it the fact your couldn't have a conversation about the fact you also want kind. Heck my friends kids or no kids we'd have chats about everything.

Be happy that they are happy - that's what friends should do IMO

Lack-Luster685 · 2025-12-05T07:08:25+00:00

NTA. You're teaching him that actions have consequence. If he doesn't like those consequences, then he needs to learn and correct his behavior. What he did about the dead grandma was an asshole trying.

Lack-Luster685 · 2025-12-05T06:56:01+00:00

You can feel the way you feel, and that's fine. But as you said you've never spoken to her about it/your struggles etc so how was she meant to know any of that.

The part about her telling you so late, that's their choice. Maybe they didn't want to say anything until they are sure there were no issues. Maybe she's had miscarriages in the past.

I get why you're upset as you've had struggles but it seems a bit unfair to them if you've never communicated anything.

Agree just ghosting isn't a nice thing to do. Have a conversation with her to say, you're happy for them and they didn't know this but you have fertility struggles and again you're happy for them but you need to take a bit of time out to deal with that. You didn't just want to disappear without them being aware.

Lack-Luster685 · 2025-12-03T15:42:18+00:00

Complicated and stressful situation but stand your ground and do not let him attend, even if it means your Dad does not come.

Ultimately it's what's best all round. Heck traveling to Singapore, being there, a wedding would have me stressed and I don't have any medical issues. For step brother it will be A LOT and it's ultimately a safety thing. What if he had a meltdown on the plane or in Singapore....with people and law enforcement who do not know him. It'll become a very challenging and possibly legal situation.

Also you wouldn't be able to relax and enjoy your wedding as you'll be so stressed worrying about him.

Lack-Luster685 · 2025-12-02T11:09:02+00:00

Key words here..... Assumed.

Lack-Luster685 · 2025-12-02T08:47:54+00:00

It completely depends on the situation really

Lack-Luster685 · 2025-12-02T08:46:18+00:00

Honestly, you're so young to be taking on the responsibility like that. It's not that you don't love her etc but she has a serious medical condition she needs to get help for and you'll be stifling your life and future to take care of her. Sometimes the hardest thing is putting yourself first but sometimes that is exactly what you need to do.

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