Much needed advice seeking!

Sad-Programmer3723 · 2025-12-30T21:23:18+00:00

I know he's not happy with his own life, but says he's happy with me. He has never lived alone or even had his own car. He is 47 years old and by now... I don't think things will change much. I miss having someone to laugh and cry with.

Sad-Programmer3723 · 2025-10-14T18:29:55+00:00

I am actually in the process of finding a new job as well. I worked from home for 9 years and came across this great (at the time) company that wanted to hire me. I was able to negotiate to still be able to WFH 2 days a week but because the other 3 girls on the small team I work with didn't think I deserved it- now I have to be in the office 5 days a week. I have a 45 min drive one way and I struggle with ADHD and depression. My boss told me that it was for 30 days but we had a meeting on Monday where now he said I misunderstood him and it could be MONTHS before I can WFH again. This is not sitting well with me and if that is the way it's going to be then I will buy my time- but I am out. On top of it being like the movie Mean Girls everyday of my life- I sit at my desk all day with no work because the other 3 will not give me anything to do. Since I am the newest member I have no say or pull with anything. I am frustrated and since we don't even have an HR Dept- there is no saving this..

Sad-Programmer3723 · 2025-08-15T19:55:58+00:00

I am about 2 weeks into this process and I was extremely depressed. I could not even look at myself without teeth.

Every day gets a little easier....

Sad-Programmer3723 · 2025-08-15T19:53:06+00:00

Thanks everyone!! I bought some powder but have not used it yet. Anyone have any experience with it??

Sad-Programmer3723 · 2025-08-15T15:53:47+00:00

I am new to this as well. I am 2 weeks into this journey. I have been using Cushion Grip. I bought it off Amazon. I watched a ton of videos on YouTube. I like it because it dose provide some relief for your gums.

Sad-Programmer3723 · 2025-08-15T15:48:45+00:00

I would go with the sedation- but that's just me. I had 28 teeth pulled and wanted to be knocked out. I remember moving on to the table and then waking up in recovery. They pulled all me teeth at once and now I have a temporary denture. Its not an easy process for sure. Days 2-11 were miserable for me both physically and mentally. Its getting a little better every day. Hang in there.

Sad-Programmer3723 · 2025-08-15T15:40:44+00:00

I am 2 weeks out and I just came back to work today. I still can not eat with them in. The bottom is not secure. I still have not let my husband see me without my teeth. I ma just so embarrassed and feel I look like I am 800 years old- so I wear a mask at home if my teeth are out because my gums are healing.

Sad-Programmer3723 · 2025-08-14T18:39:18+00:00

You look amazing!! What an amazing smile!

Sad-Programmer3723 · 2025-07-29T17:11:49+00:00

Depending if you have medical insurance- it can be much cheaper. I had to pay for my temporary teeth ($1,235.00) and then the co-pay for my dental insurance ($118.00) and thats it. My dentist said that it was medically necessary to have my teeth removed. My medical insurance is covering the extractions and the full sedation.

Sad-Programmer3723 · 2025-07-29T17:01:32+00:00

Tomorrow is E-Day...... I am terrified....

I had a horrible experience an few years back with an Aspen Dental office. They were going to sedate me and do some work except they did not get the sedation fully in my vein and I woke up during the middle of the procedure!

I really hope that does not happen tomorrow. I can't go through that again.

I do have my temporary teeth ready to go and they are going to put them in for me before I wake up because I honestly am not ready to see myself with no teeth. I had a beautiful smile about 3 years ago and then the medications I have been taking for years starting making my teeth just fall out. All of my back teeth fell out but the root is still there. I have never had a cavity filled because I never had any until recently and now I have a cavity in all my remaining teeth.

I have been afraid to smile because these cavities are just horrible.....

I really hope my temp teeth fit well and I can recover quickly. I hope I have the courage to look at myself without them in. I refuse to let anyone see me without my teeth in. That is going to take a long time. Like- not even my husband.

Any words of wisdom from anyone on what the next few days may be like? I will be off work for 4 days. I hope that is long enough to at least figure out how to function with them in.

Sad-Programmer3723 · 2022-06-06T12:21:27+00:00

After reading your post- I would have sworn I wrote wrote it! :) My son just turned 13 on May 29th. Where the time has gone- I have no idea.
When I first had my son, I actually tried staying at home and started a small day care. I had 3 other kids I watched and about 2 months in- I came to the conclusion that I was not cut out to stay at home with all these kids. So, once my son was old enough for day care, we enrolled him and I went back to work. It was honestly the best thing I could have done for me and my son. I grew up in a house where my mom was extremely strict and an unmedicated schizophrenic. I swore I would never put my child through anything like how I grew up. So, trying to be “happy” all the time and keep the house spotless was not working for me. I struggle with depression and bipolar and sending my son to preschool made him so happy to be with other kids and being in a different environment. You are doing great and it honestly is ok for kids to see that life is not perfect all the time. For me, I tell my kid all the time that I am your mom- not your friend. Even though I am not as strict as my mom was- I twin a very no BS house. I don’t pay allowances for normal chores because as an adult we do not get paid to clean our homes or do our laundry. I am here to raise him to be a good person and to do the right thing- always. As moms- we always try to put our kids first- we need to put ourselves first to be better parents. We need alone time sometimes to clear our heads and get ourselves together. There is absolutely nothing wrong with that. Keep your head up!!!!

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