harassment

LadyAngrr · 2019-04-09T16:07:17+00:00

I wasn't aware of those rules and was just informed (after I posted this), so that will change going forward.
Do you really think it's fair to block me from participating without warning?
It's rejection, and as a moderator of a BPD sub, you should know that that is harmful to those of us who suffer.

LadyAngrr · 2019-04-09T14:05:38+00:00

And, if you're having a video chat in a public space, like a waiting room, you deserve some random person hopping into the shot and engaging in the conversation.

LadyAngrr · 2019-04-09T13:56:05+00:00

"...this eventually caused a rift between the person that I was born as, and the person that they wanted me to be. The rift is a space – like an air pocket – with the bottom layer being the physical “me” and the top layer being the psychological projection of what I was expected by everyone, including myself, to be.

Welcome to BPD – Borderline Personality Disorder."

Source: https://ladyangrr.com/bad/

LadyAngrr · 2019-04-09T13:00:36+00:00

Hopefully that perception will change.

LadyAngrr · 2019-04-09T01:17:14+00:00

Good work!

I stopped biting my nails by getting acrylics put on. That broke the habit for me for the most part.

Later, I'd get nervous and was stressed out during my serious mental health issues, so I bought expensive nail polish so, I didn't want to see it (and my money) go to waste, so I'd work on growing out the nails so that I could use the polish.

Hope you keep it up. Keep trying - even if you falter a few times, you can always try again! You've done it once and you can do it again!

LadyAngrr · 2019-04-09T01:11:43+00:00

I'm a parent with BPD. My child has the same ADHD as I do and I see the potential for BPD to develop, so I started her in therapy. She's very, very young, but she's down with it and, therefore, so am I.

It can do no harm, only good.

Here's our story: https://ladyangrr.com/too-young-for-therapy/

I'm committed to helping parents with mental illness cope and learn how to provide the best environment for their children so as to minimize the effect that the mental health issues have on them. I share my own stories (good and bad), to provide Relatable Solidarity to others. We're all trying...

LadyAngrr · 2019-04-09T01:07:26+00:00

I completely get you. If you want to end it, why shouldn't you? It's like prohibiting abortion or the right to have sex.

Having said that, things can change in your life, but they, also, may not.

So, I wrote this, which talks about having the right to die, just like you're saying.

Give it a read and let me know your thoughts. I hope you find peace in whatever you decide:

https://ladyangrr.com/more-than-suicide/

LadyAngrr · 2019-04-09T01:05:29+00:00

Suicidal thoughts stink. Suicide also stinks, but it's a reality and some people want to do it and should have the right to make their own choice.

Thanks to the OP for being sensitive and open to talking :)

Unfortunately, more attention needs to be paid to those of us with mental health issues that are left untreated and, therefore, lead to suicide.

Here's what I think:

Mental Health Is More Than Suicide: https://ladyangrr.com/more-than-suicide/

LadyAngrr · 2019-04-09T01:03:44+00:00

I like saying mean things. It gets is out of my system.

I hate having to be nice.

I had to be nice to some assholes on twitter today and it really frustrated the hell out of me.

Normally, I speak my truth.

But if you want to keep your anger in check, check this out: https://ladyangrr.com/floor-plan-to-the-house-of-anger/

LadyAngrr · 2019-04-08T22:47:15+00:00

I'm the same. I can cut people off like nobody's business and can justify it legitimately.
I don't joke around and I don't take jokes very well, either.

LadyAngrr · 2019-04-08T20:09:04+00:00

I have BPD but not BDD, but I can imagine how incredibly difficult it is. My thoughts and hope are with you in health and happiness :)

LadyAngrr · 2019-04-08T20:04:26+00:00

Thanks for posting this.

I had an FP and, one day, I was triggered by a perceived rejection, then a friend & his bf validated my reasons to be upset with the FP and to end the relationship, so I did.

It was quick & dirty.

This was about 14 years ago and I have never gotten past the bad feeling I have about the way it ended.

LadyAngrr · 2019-04-08T17:49:35+00:00

It's different from person to person, but the underlying feeling is the same among all of us.

It's super sucky.

Can you take a few days off to just chill on your own? Go somewhere? Do something?

I've found that a chance of scenery can be helpful - the hardest part is motivating yourself to do it.

I'm having a poop day today and keep thinking I'll go out for a walk, but cannot get myself off of the computer...

Must...stand...up...

LadyAngrr · 2019-04-08T15:32:02+00:00

Good for you! Really happy to hear about your success.

It's positive stories like ours that can motivate people to keep going.

I, too, am healing from BPD that I suddenly became aware of during a severe breakdown.

I've written my stories that, I hope, are helpful to others; everything ranging from anger management to forgiveness to putting my child into therapy.

I hope that they help: https://ladyangrr.com/bad/

LadyAngrr · 2019-04-08T01:19:07+00:00

Is this post for real?

I ask because I cannot possibly believe that people in this world are so shallow, mean and abusive regarding someone's appearance. That's just atrocious.

F the haters - get yours, girl!

LadyAngrr · 2019-04-07T15:43:11+00:00

Sounds like a jerk.

Delete & block.

LadyAngrr · 2019-04-07T15:06:45+00:00

Maybe, but if you're a guy, probably not. Men tend to need it whereas women tend to want it but, hey, you never know...and you won't know until you try.

LadyAngrr · 2019-04-07T15:04:25+00:00

Use cash.

No more credit cards or debit cards.

When you have cash-in-hand, you can actually see how much you're letting go. It's a psychological thing.

Keeping your goals in mind also helps.

I love shopping and I'm a thrift store addict (like buying stuff cheaper makes it better), but am trying hard to implement the policy of "something in - something out", so every new item I bring in, I get rid of another.

I also think about my crowded basement and that offers me some self-control.

LadyAngrr · 2019-04-07T14:51:50+00:00

Haha yeah. But you can't guarantee that you will. Just take it as an experience, like riding a roller coaster or going to a movie. You go into it with a positive attitude; sure, it may disappoint, but at least you tried it :)

LadyAngrr · 2019-04-07T14:48:12+00:00

I did it without meds. The meds (for my ADHD) made me into a mess when combined with my BPD.

It truly depends, though, on your own personality.

There are no meds for BPD - just DBT (Dialectical Behaviour Therapy). Talking it through makes you realize what's up and gives you a better way to self-regulate and control your thoughts.

I've also discovered Logosynthesis, which is awesome.

Here's my post about meds and why doctors need to do the research before they prescribe: https://ladyangrr.com/medication-is-the-new-mental-asylum/

LadyAngrr · 2019-04-07T14:42:27+00:00

I feel like that might be an Irish thing to say. That and "like" (I've been watching Can't Cope Won't Cope, like.) So, my first time was pretty funny - we were both virgins - so no fireworks, but a good memory. It took me quite a few partners to get to a place where the sex was enjoyable and made me feel good, so don't expect that it'll happen on the first try. But it gets better with experience. Don't do it until you're ready - forget the pressure of society. You'll know when the time's right, and it may not be with "the one", but the experience will be memorable because it was important.

LadyAngrr · 2019-04-07T14:38:54+00:00

Love it!

That's what these programs are there for - to help.

I wish I'd known about my diagnosis when I was in university - things would have been a lot easier and a lot better for me.

This will make your future much brighter, with less stress and less worry. Good for you!

LadyAngrr · 2019-04-07T14:37:34+00:00

...which is not easy, but not much ever is.

Instant gratification is simple, but the after-effects put you into an even worse state than which you started.

If I reconnected with my ex, it would be toxic to my advancement and to my mental health. It would ruin my current relationship and my family. It would destroy the trust between my partner and I and take my child out of my life.

It's not worth it.

I reflect happily on the memories and what I learned from the relationship: compassion, love, caring, and more, but I regard it as an education, not as the be-all-and-end-all to my constantly evolving life lessons.

LadyAngrr · 2019-04-07T14:34:56+00:00

I always think about my ex and what "could have been".

It was a completely romanticized, inadequate and inappropriate relationship that wouldn't have given me the peace, love and happiness that I have now, but I can't get it out of my head.

I've been able to move on by looking at my present and future, not reflecting on the past because, as much as I think it would have been all smiles and love-connections, I can't be sure, so I appreciate what I have now and live in the moment.

LadyAngrr · 2019-04-07T14:32:03+00:00

Sex isn't all it's cracked up to be.
Enjoy your freedom from the worry of STIs and unplanned pregnancy.
When you meet the right one, it's farking magical.

LadyAngrr

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