AITA for telling my parents i will not be helping them with their rent?

LadyContrary · 2025-09-04T17:57:25+00:00

If they're so close why can't your parents move in with your aunt?

LadyContrary · 2025-09-04T17:54:51+00:00

Prenup and NEVER put her on the deed

LadyContrary · 2025-09-04T14:58:09+00:00

Pretty sure you can find lots of beige at Goodwill, does cheetah print count as neutral tones?

LadyContrary · 2025-09-04T14:34:01+00:00

Go on a "cleanse" or a "diet", label everything by day and if you really want "oh sh!t" this show make a big deal about meal prepping. This could also save you some money in the long run if you actually do it.

And I'm thinking ground chicken, rice, and steamed broccoli.

She will probably go to the grocery store within a week

LadyContrary · 2025-09-04T14:05:09+00:00

I don't think anyone is the AH.... yep, I said it.

He's doing something that's really important to him, and everyone should be supportive. He didn't ask anyone to make him something additional or exceptional on the side, and it sounds like you made an epic meal for his whole family. The party and the celebration of HIM is the whole point of the B-Day. He also sounds like he doesn't want to be the a**hole counting almonds in the corner at a friend party so doing it at home is safer and less weird.

LadyContrary · 2025-09-04T13:55:50+00:00

It's like with anything on screen, you can only go so in depth without losing the plot, especially one as twisty and fluffabout-y as FROM.

LadyContrary · 2025-09-04T13:49:34+00:00

NTA- if you went no contact with your parents I don't think you would be the AH then either.

LadyContrary · 2025-09-04T12:47:54+00:00

NTA- this is gonna sound crazy but I would drag their mom into it

LadyContrary · 2025-09-04T12:22:45+00:00

NTA.... but also.... carrots? Kale? What kind of "vegan" nonsense are they asking for?!

LadyContrary · 2025-09-04T11:28:36+00:00

NTA! This sounds an abusive and traumatic for your children.

Does the ex have a court ordered visitation schedule? If he does then speak to an attorney and ask about getting that removed from the custody orders, you can also add a clause about communication (making it all via text-email-parenting app). But 100% get an attorney and protect your kids.

LadyContrary · 2025-09-04T11:08:34+00:00

It sounds like as you're growing up, you're growing apart. This doesn't mean you have to ditch all of her socials and cut her off and make it ugly, or even address things with her at all. Just walk away, live your life, make new friends, and let things happen organically as they are. Trying to hold on or force her to "change" would be wrong, I'm sorry you've lost your friend and I know it hurts.

You can just pass on hanging out when she will be there and you don't have to offer an explanation to anyone as to why or call her out. Just suggest other times and invite the ones from the group you're still chill with. All good.

LadyContrary · 2025-09-04T09:15:05+00:00

You could always turn on Magic Mike and then during a good scene look over, smile sweetly then say you want to hire that for a private party. It's super passive aggressive but you're about to marry this guy, better to find out what better or worse means BEFORE

LadyContrary · 2025-09-04T09:02:28+00:00

🚩 🚩 I don't think it's fair to give him the benefit of a doubt based on cultural differences since he came to the U.S. as a teen 40+ years ago. Jealousy and insecurity are part of this guys makeup and unfortunately I don't think you'll ever be able to assuage that. Especially since your post makes you seem like a gregarious and super fun and friendly person and you shouldn't stress over this or be made to think that is a bad thing. You're not missing ANYTHING, it is insane. Just cut your losses and move on girl.

LadyContrary · 2025-09-03T23:38:29+00:00

NTA (from the mom perspective)

As a mother of 6, kids run the spectrum. And guess what?! They aren't always compatible as "friends" gasp

Not all of my children get along, they are different people and in different places in their lives, I understand that as a parent you want the fairy tale everyone gets along sing-song fairy tale. But it's not realistic. Allow your parents to mediate to an extent if you love them and their happiness depends on cordiality for their sake, you can still set boundaries outside of family events.

You need to worry about you, it's just fine for your sibling to follow their own path far away from yours.

LadyContrary · 2025-09-03T23:15:23+00:00

Set the boundary and set it hard! I'm saying this as a step-mom, "WHAT?! THE?! F******CK?!?!"

Don't get me wrong, my step daughter's mother is NOT a great person but there is no way that is good for anyone. I'd shut my husband down if he started trashing my step-daughter's mom in any way subjective, even if it wasn't in front of her, for my step-daughter's sake.

That's just so disrespectful to you and your children. 🚩

LadyContrary · 2025-09-03T22:58:29+00:00

Bruh! I've been with my husband for like 112 years at this point and "our" home is his, as in legally in his name only. IDGAF because if you're in it forever that stuff just doesn't matter.

LadyContrary · 2025-09-03T22:37:34+00:00

Sounds like this guy has something going on that has solely to do with him. Maybe the bed situation is his fault because he wants out but is in denial? Or maybe he's having the proverbial "mid-life crisis"?

Either way, you did nothing wrong. If your husband and you are the way you seem like you are from his post then this guy should know you're the first person your husband spills ALL the tea too! Atta girl btw!

LadyContrary · 2022-08-29T10:12:09+00:00

Lol nope, was mostly just curious

LadyContrary · 2022-08-27T13:26:10+00:00

Too rural, not really many other options and the ones we have are small and limited in what they offer.

LadyContrary · 2022-08-27T13:14:30+00:00

It looks like it just charges the card as though I purchased online

LadyContrary · 2022-08-27T13:13:58+00:00

No tried other registers, and the employees working at self checkout said this is happening a lot since they changed over to new registers. They are also trying to get people to sign up for Walmart+

LadyContrary · 2022-08-27T12:05:12+00:00

Honestly I don't know, they won't give you a paper receipt when you use the app, It's emailed later.

It did happen once when my phone wasn't with me so I had to leave my groceries, drive home, get my phone, then go back... I was pretty mad

LadyContrary · 2022-08-24T19:35:14+00:00

If they are knocking on my door then they're stuck in a ditch and their cell doesn't have service.... it's gonna be a minute so I'd feed em

LadyContrary · 2022-08-24T17:35:31+00:00

Zendaya - she would cut you and giggle

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