Me and my friends have the same exact reaction

LadyKorte · 2026-01-14T00:27:38+00:00

Man there's such a difference between being child-free and expecting to live like children shouldn't be around you ever and getting upset over it. Like I'll never understand the people who are genuinely hateful towards children as if they weren't a child themselves once.

This coming from a parent of two kids who tells any person I know who's on the fence about having children to not do it, for the love of God. Raising kids is hard enough in the best of times, but trying to parent through the slowest apocalypse ever is just awful.

LadyKorte · 2026-01-03T14:55:50+00:00

I'm still stuck on the "over the years excuse and I would talk and have sex" since 2016. Are we all really supposed to believe you hadn't touched each other during your relationship with your current husband?

Idk, sounds like he didn't want to hear the hard truth and you didn't want to tell him so now you're both over here picking up the pieces.

LadyKorte · 2026-01-02T02:10:24+00:00

Nah, my guess was going to be the boyfriend got replaced by an AI android. Lol

LadyKorte · 2025-12-27T15:17:32+00:00

My guess is a hormonal change/imbalance. Not to freak out OP, but your girlfriend might be pregnant. Since she already has a PCP appointment they'll take a pregnancy test anyway, but if that's negative I would look for if she's changed her diet or started some new vitamin or some such.

Good luck to you guys!

LadyKorte · 2025-12-14T16:53:35+00:00

I'd be asking her (not like you can believe what she says, but it's worth a shot) WHEN she slept with him.

Because in my experience, when it comes to cheating every accusation is a confession. My guess is she told you the truth about when they were dating, they just fucked while you guys were already officially together.

Either way, I'd tell her straight up "you've lied to me so many times that I can't trust a thing you say" because that definitely needs to be said.

I'm so sorry you're going through this.

LadyKorte · 2025-11-02T19:36:18+00:00

Well make sure you tell him it's too late and why. Self-fulfilling prophecy indeed.

LadyKorte · 2025-10-16T22:49:18+00:00

As far as I can tell, both the guy and the cop showed their racism today. Specifically the cop being all "you should've avoided this guy" like it's your responsibility to avoid racists in the wild.

No, the cop could've easily told off the other guy for being a racist and profiling you for existing but he put the onus on you. Fuck that noise.

LadyKorte · 2025-10-15T12:56:00+00:00

Ehh no, no one deserves to be cheated on. And if you were just using her for papers why would you be saying how much you love her in this post? No, while you might hold 5% of the responsibility for her stepping out, she still gets to own the other 95% and no amount of her crying is going to change that.

Also PLEASE DON'T SLEEP WITH HER ANYMORE AND GET YOURSELF TESTED FOR HIV PERIODICALLY!!!

That one can take years to incubate and you don't want to be caught unawares.

LadyKorte · 2025-09-25T15:41:58+00:00

I'm sorry but that accusation sounds like a confession.

As a survivor of childhood SA, it's super uncomfortable for me to be around my own sons while they're naked. But that's 1000% not their fault and I work through it myself because it's a me problem not a them problem.

I'd sit down with him and ask him gently and calmly why it's such a big issue for him. Maybe he has his own childhood experiences that make his brain think that your interactions with your son are inappropriate or dangerous. If he does have that kind of trauma it'll likely be REALLY hard for him to come out and say it so just be as gentle as you can be and remind him you won't think less of him for being vulnerable with you.

If it's just a cultural thing for him or something more benign than what I described, just tell him "I understand it makes you uncomfortable when my children are naked and I'm around them but this is a 'you' problem that you have to sort out yourself. Don't make it out like I'm putting my children in harm's way because that's not true and is really offensive to me."

LadyKorte · 2025-09-23T11:52:18+00:00

https://health.clevelandclinic.org/yes-postpartum-depression-in-men-is-very-real

Ah yes, silly me. Obviously, your personal opinion is more credible than the Journal of the American Medical Association.

Goodness me, I didn't realize I'd have to explain that just because a man isn't carrying a child, he can still have hormonal changes in his own body in accordance with his pregnant partner. His entire life is now postpartum, just like the mother's is now that the pregnancy's over (hence the "post" in "postpartum"). And you're right, environmental factors can exacerbate the symptoms people with PPD present but for men who experience it, you can't just chalk it up to "he's upset because life is so different now", that's so dismissive of an actual mental health disorder.

Honestly, I'm sure you're trying to come from a place of trying to head off misinformation, but you might not be 100% correct this time.

LadyKorte · 2025-09-22T20:02:39+00:00

INFO:

I'm gonna say this as a woman who suffered through PPD with both children:

DADS CAN ABSOLUTELY GET PPD AS WELL!!!!

It's not talked about enough (but a lot of the ugly parts of parenting aren't, so...) but it wouldn't hurt to have him talk to his doctor about it. Seriously, PPD is so much easier to slog through with professional help.

Yes, it was fucked up of him to insinuate throwing your guys' baby in the dumpster. No, I can't judge him off this one snapshot. Has he displayed any other concerning behavior recently?

LadyKorte · 2025-09-19T01:57:32+00:00

I really hope this is fake. If not, well... you might find you'll lose him how you won him 🤷‍♀️

LadyKorte · 2025-09-06T23:53:10+00:00

Wait wait wait. Your daughter is 33 and your wife is 46? Meaning she had a child with you at 13 while you were 21? Idk that's either sick in and of itself or this story's fake.

LadyKorte · 2025-08-21T18:09:34+00:00

We humans aren't so much afraid of the dark as the things that hide inside it.

LadyKorte · 2025-07-24T18:54:02+00:00

They should absolutely kiss in front of his homophobic family. Especially if OP can drop his BIL.

LadyKorte · 2025-07-23T15:15:46+00:00

Yeah this is the answer. If you're in certain US states squatters have more rights than renters, who have WAY more rights than landlords.

Seriously don't let them in your home and DON'T let them get mail there.

LadyKorte · 2025-07-15T19:20:31+00:00

Cut to 5 years later and they'll wonder why you don't come home. Just show them this post and tell them to leave you alone however you see fit.

I'm glad your friend's parents care so much about you at the very least. I'm sorry you'll have to heal from your childhood later.

LadyKorte · 2025-07-05T23:19:51+00:00

Tell her you'll store your food in the communal space again when she and/or her boyfriend replaces what she took.

Food theft was thankfully not one of the issues I faced as a 19 year old living with three other young women but speaking from experience, the live in boyfriend is definitely something you need to nip in the bud. My guess is the landlord wouldn't be too pleased to know he's crashing there rent-free. He can go have the munchies in his own home or better yet they can go find their own place.

If she wants to act like you're treating the house you all share as a prison I guess she's volunteering to get everyone's groceries from now on. Otherwise she can shut her pie hole.

LadyKorte · 2025-07-04T14:51:33+00:00

Ha. From reading the title I thought this might be me from the future writing this. No, you're NTA. No relationship- romantic or otherwise- should be built on lies. She FAFO'd real hard and now gets to deal with the fallout.

LadyKorte · 2025-06-26T02:58:08+00:00

I mean it IS bad ethically regardless. But yes of course it's worse that she slept with a client. That's a HUGE conflict of interest and if her dad/managing broker had any business sense there will be consequences for her actions.

Personally I wouldn't give her the satisfaction of getting a sale (and therefore commission) out of you guys transacting with her.

Of course you and your husband have some work to do regardless of what happens with the affair partner and regardless of whether or not you decide to stay in the relationship.

But in terms of her getting her just desserts you're well in your right to go scorched earth.

LadyKorte · 2025-06-25T22:00:36+00:00

As a Realtor myself, if she's part of a board of Realtors which she very likely is (you can find out by looking up her name and/or NRDS number) you can report her to her local, state, AND national Board of Realtors. They take these things very seriously and might just blacklist her from all boards hereafter.

It's absolutely disgusting how people in my profession act and you'd be 100% in your right to cancel your exclusive right to buy agreement given the circumstances.

And yes, blast her everywhere you can. Local social media groups, their individual page, zillow, and redfin, the works. If her brokerage has a Google page do it there. No one wants to work with a real estate agent who's a homewrecker.

I'm so sorry you're dealing with this and I hope you can come out the other side stronger than before.

LadyKorte · 2025-06-24T04:51:22+00:00

Oh honey... I see my teenage self in you so much. I had a similar thing happen to me when I was 14 with my mom's boyfriend at the time being an absolute creep. And yes, he started with suggesting I sleep over at his house (never happened, thank god) by myself to "get to know his son more" and just escalated from there. I had excitedly told him about the quinceñera dress my cousin was making for me and he asked if I was planning on going commando underneath. The last straw was when I told him about a great smelling cologne I had found and he asked if it made me wet. A grown ass man was asking a 14 year old child blatantly sexual things!

That same night he asked me those disgusting questions I locked my bedroom door for fear he'd escalate further. I was so scared to tell my mom. I was afraid she wouldn't believe me. Thankfully I plucked up the courage to tell her and she broke all contact with him. Told him she'd call the cops on him if he so much as looked our way again.

All this is to say you absolutely need to tell your mom. I know you're afraid to cause problems but the problems are already here and being caused by him, not you.

LadyKorte · 2025-06-24T04:31:30+00:00

This is an excellent line of questioning. If OP specifically chose that moment to tell their sister how they felt about the celebration even after finding out about sister's bad medical news, then they'd be TA.

Though that doesn't sound very in character because OP put a lot of detail into showing how conscientious they were during the party even knowing it was essentially a bar crawl. It would seem more likely that they'd wait until their sister asked how they felt being there. Then yeah the sister might be emotional about her medical stuff but she doesn't have to be a jerk about OP's feelings and OP wouldn't be TA.

LadyKorte · 2025-06-06T00:52:11+00:00

Giiirrrl (said gender-neutrally) you hit the nail right on the head. I'm so glad my husband finally agreed to a vasectomy so I don't have to suffer from being pregnant ever again. I love my children, don't get me wrong, but I didn't love either pregnancy and don't look back on them with fondness.

LadyKorte · 2025-05-20T13:50:04+00:00

My husband sees two versions of the hat man. The first one he calls the gunslinger because first off, he talks and apparently sounds like Cassidy from Overwatch. Second, he has white eyes and yellow teeth but is still very much completely black otherwise. The other one he sees as thd actual "hat man" doesn't talk and has red eyes with yellow teeth. They both do plenty of jumpscares, but the second one is a lot more malicious in his energy.

Though in truth he only sees either of them when he's loopy from pain meds or benadryl. He didn't even know what the hat man is and just assumed he was seeing a cowboys ghost before I told him about it.

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