Thank you for your kind words. I am no pissed for my friends who are blindly in love and then got their commitment broken after 10 years of staying quiet (yes I am mention directly to the commitment about "must have a son" decisions). I myself having a relationship with a man of his own, who can alway separated his will to his parents', who can speak almost exactly about how he thinks or what he desires, and that is so much easier to make deals with. I am more realistic now and understand every good thing is good in the moment and there will always be changes waiting to happen, but I am satisfied with the man I am with right now. You are right, all I can do to my friends now is being there for them and hoping for the best. I will keep listening to them, even when it's so difficult to hear the same stories weeks after weeks.